I think we can forgive a woman for wanting to look like a woman.[/QUOTE
instead of giving support to your sisters and daughters, you are humiliating women, who gave you this right to forgive women. I respect those women in bottom of my heart, I know it is very easy to remove facial hair, extremely hard to keep it. you should invite some women who keep their facial hair and ask about their experiences and journey. I am sure there will something special about them otherwise who wants get nasty comments from the society
please forgive me brother if I used harsh wording
guru fateh
Bhenji,
You are passionate and fiery, make no apologies for that, yes your wording is harsh, the charge of humiliating women is a strong accusation, and I plead not guilty.
Although hair is a huge part of Sikhism, in my view, it can also be used very easily to imply enlightenment. I know of one lady who wears her three hairs with huge pride, yet they could be plucked out in a few seconds. If people are prepared to be as Sikhi towards everyone and everything around them, then wear those hairs with pride, but of Sikhism is in fact just those three hairs, then that is very poor indeed.
I also have an aunty with a full goatee, she pretends it is not there and never mentions it, its just something that happened, that she accepts, its no big deal, I have a lot of time for her, not because of her beard, but because that beard only adds to the beauty of someone already beautiful, and I mean an aura, rather than physical accepted notion of beauty.
I am sorry to say this, but I could not care less about the journey of someone who had battled life with a load of hair in the wrong place, every minute spent in this battle is a moment lost to seva, to connection, since when did Sikhism mean we laud those who have 'battled' with a bit of facial hair? The Gurus battled, Banda Bahadur battled, as did Nalwa, Akali Phula, all battled, you seem to think that this huge focus with facial hair somehow makes them better people, people worthy of respect, I am not so sure.
However, we are free to pursue our own path, you are free to pursue yours, and if this topic is important to you, to deal with it as you see fit, what I object to, strongly, is the effect on some young girl, who is going through hell about a few facial hairs that are in the wrong place, reading this, and assuming that Sikhism has suddenly become the hairs on her face rather than the wisdom in her mind. Such focus I find unhealthy and raising what should be a natural expression of love, into a huge issue as to whether a person is truly Sikh or not. That only lies in the heart, by all means keep it if you are comfortable with it, and much respect to those that are, those that truly just let it be, like my Aunt, I am happy to bow down to and see as a person of much wisdom and enlightenment, but if instead it causes much internal pain and anguish then do not feel bad about coming to peace with yourself. Whether that be by grabbing the tweasers, or finding enlightenment until understanding kicks in, is everyones personal choice and must be respected.
