I need someone to help me understand something. I know that through naam, the Guru will forgive, even if you have commited endless sins or paaps or if you have hurt people and have made thier lives miserable. If you give up doing these things, reform yourself, mend your ways and through gurbani and naam you may be able to wash or clean your minds. There is hope. But what of the victim of this abuse. If you have been abused, you have been beaten, kicked,told you are no good, that you are nothing. How does one deal with the pain, the self esteem. Fareed's bani says 'chunga ma nahi, burra no koi' If someone hits you kiss thier feet. Do i accept i am no good, that i deserved the beating, that i should be humble. That much i am prepared to accept that maybe i have been punished and i too have to reform myself. But how do i deal with the pain and thoughts that whilst the other persons has found forgiveness (if he/she has i dont know) yet i am still suffering with the thoughts that i am not a good person. Please explain Freed. Thank you.