I have always had long hair, btw I'm 17 rn, and worn a turban
Ah wonderful, enjoy the experience, I remember my youth well, in those days I wore a turban too, they were the most innocent and uncomplicated of times.
Actually tbh not since the last 3 years cause I wear a cap
Ah well, cap or turban, at that age at least you are still living innocently and without complications
Which is also, I don't know why, a big issue.
Oh, course you do, its because a cap is a halfway house between cut hair and a turban
My only question is that I don't like being a sikh.
Oh well, that is sad, but hey ho, just don't be a Sikh then, its not rocket science
I mean I love what the religion holds theoretically but practically everyone is just too harsh.
Yes, it is a beautiful religion, a huge pity that it is also one of the best kept secrets in the world, most people associate Sikhism with the look, rather than the heart, it is the way the world has gone, add to that the added rituals and financial strutting, and this once great religion is now, pretty much, no more.
Ik you're thinking, then why are you even writing this? Cause I'm stuck.
yes, we all get stuck in life sometimes, learn from the challenge, more challenges will follow in your life, this is your first major one.
The thing is that I don't wanna continue being a sikh. Is it too much to ask?
Hmm, well I am sorry to burst your bubble but your not a Sikh, so it is not really relevant, your just part of a machine that looks like Sikhs, mostly to keep face with your peers and for social purposes.
My parents are hardliners and would practically disown me if I cut my hair.
course they would, you are about to ruin years of hard work for them, they are probably 'big' in the community, the shame of you cutting your hair will be hard for them,
The thing is that I don't wanna continue being a sikh. Is it too much to ask? I mean free will. I know you'll be like but your parents have taken care of you and given birth to you. Man, I know that but I can't, I'm going mad, I do not want to continue having my hair or wearing a kara
Ive felt like I was going mad in my life, but it was normally due to impending death, or impending ruin, you are being a bit dramatic, but then I guess you are only 17
Can't I be an aethist and live my life peacefully?
sure you can, but then that is not the problem really
Am I hurting you guys or your religion?
your not hurting me, and what you call religion is not Sikhism.
I just want to live my life with mental peace.
I love this line, you really have no idea do you, ok, your about to cause your parents, the people that you should have the most love for, by being selfish, it is not about religion, or hair, or Sikhi, it is about you and your parents, simple as that, if you do this action, believe you me, you are about to open pandoras box, sure you will have what you want, but the aftershocks will last for a very very long time, and have many many consequences.
Yk when I was 15, I trimmed my beard. My parents went ballistic and hit me
yes, I imagine they probably did, the look is very important to some people, and as I said, it is reflective very much on them.
I mean I know your sentiments and all but how do you expect so much out of a child??
Oh come now, please, you knew what you were doing when you cut your beard, your not a child.
I was a CHILD, I am still a TEEN, why are you trying to take my teenage or youth from me??
hey don't blame us, its your parents that are doing that, and in any case, as I said earlier, my turbaned youth was, in comparison to my life now, very very peaceful, even though I had similar parents, now 50, looking back, there was not anything that I did not do, I did it all, and now at 50 suffer the consequences, mentally, physically and financially. Although I am not adverse to my life, I have achieved the solitude that I wished for in my teens, I have not been to an indian wedding in hmm 25 years, or any gathering of such, luckily, the thought of acting in a false way and being surrounded by false people does not really do anything for me, I have no friends or family, other than my parents and brother, like you, I wanted to leave the Sikh community, but as life progressed, I ended up leaving all communities and embracing the life of a hermit, sure its lonely sometimes, but I am free, and freedom is something I have always cherished, in the same way that you cherish it now, just remember the price of freedom, and whether you are prepared to pay for it.
So, its really quite simple, cut your hair, and have a life of unreal hassle for some time, cause everyone a lot of pain, end up having to carry a lot of guilt, and slowly drive yourself mad, or keep your hair and slowly move to the path you wish to move to, however, when you are ready to do that, you need to make sure you are self sufficient, and that you are mature enough to understand what you are doing, and why you are doing it. I would say set a goal for your mid twenties.