Cool postFear of failure, hurt, rejection and so many Imaginery future scenarios that we build up. There is actually a term for it - philophobia I think, for fear of love. How weird, isn't it - tragic - how come love is something we fear.
Talk to (most of the pre-generation GPS/weather routing era) sea dogs and these mariners will tell you for a fact that the 'old man"(slang for captain) at sea would begin the day by smelling the storm well before the swell began to indicate the same. 7 times out of 10 they would be right. Ask them if any of the stony cold commanders could feel love - they would laugh so infectiously and so loud at your crazy query. The love breed does not exist at sea.
Likewise on land we smell imaginery fears and do not take a chance - because we need reasons to justify our cowardice.
She's perfect, but...I need time to be sure..I cannot find my dream partner.. what if?.. in case??...
Like Nanak stated - come to me in love with your head on a platter. Total surrender is alien to most of us mortals. No wonder we are unaware of the beauty of the truth, of love.
If I desire your love, I must discard and empty my heart of all fears and other thoughts. I must come empty to you and only then can you pour your love into my soul, my heart.
But an empty heart is akin to a empty ship at sea - scary in the slightest of storms. A loaded ship is more stable - so it's easy to fill our hearts and soul with the weight of doubt and fear. We feel more stable - sad, but true.
I knew she was going to hurt me one day. I knew it was not going to work out. Have we not heard these lines before?. Have we not felt these premonitions.
Fear is easy to run away from - than confront. The Nanak"s knew our frailty and gave us the Banee to toughen us up - so true desire for love would not be forsaken due our mortal fear.
We desire love, but tragically - love is what we fear most. I am a Sikh, but I am not a Khalsa. Why?? No points for guessing, lol - it is so obivious - is it not??. Fear love or love our fear - it's the same. To me the acceptance of Amrit is the first step in declaring - fear, you are so far that I cannot even smell you.
Lol, that was a long de-briefing.
Acceptance of amrit is supposed to be symbolic of acceptance of inner amrit. The inner amrit is accepted when u start to practice Truth.