Re: Moving Mountains-----
Its important to point out that it only a few decades ago, a man beating his wife in the US was tacitly accepted by our society. Jewish & Christian men felt wives should submit to their husbands as the Bible says. In pre-islamic Arabia & Muhammad's time, men were allowed to be as violent as they desired with their wives. Baby girls were buried alive (in China, girls are still frequently aborted).
My dear sister Namji kaurhug
Peace be with you.
You are correct that the Bible, as a piece of literature from 2,000 years ago, says the following:
“...Wives, be subject to your husbands as you are to the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and never treat them harshly....”
- Colossians 3:18-19
What does "love" mean in a Christian context? Paul's definition of love in I Corinthians 13:4-7: "Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful, it is not arrogant or rude.
Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends."
"...You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, paying honour to the woman as the physically weaker sex; and showing her honor as an equal heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered..."
- 1 Peter 3:7
“...Wives, be subject to your husbands as you are to the Lord…Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her…In the same way, husbands should love their wives as they do their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hates his own body, but he nourishes and tenderly cares for it…”
- Ephesians 5:22-29
Now I don't like at all the idea of a women 'submitting', however...can this really be equated with physical punishment, however light? In fact, in his letter to the Ephesians, Paul prefaces his whole discussion of headship with a statement clearly indicating that neither party has power over the other: "
Be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ" (
Eph. 5:21).
It is radically different in its teachings on husband-wife relations in my opinion. There is no evidence in these old-fashioned Christian teachings of the husband abusing his greater physical strength. Rather he is too pay honour to his wife precisely because she is physically weaker, never treating her harshly but loving her as his own body because that physical weakness is more Christ-like and peacable than male bodies which are so often made to go to war and fight etc.
Would a man strike his own body? Of course not.
Neither are exactly in line with 21st century values of sexual equality and feminism (and I am at heart a male feminist who has been involved in campaigns to improve the rights of women living in Iran, I even composed and orchestrated the performance of a play in my local theatre about the human rights situation over there).
However I think we have to be fair and say that while the New Testament passages above are old-fashioned, they also gave birth to the practice of
chivalry in medieval Europe - the idea of men opening doors for women, sacrificing their lives for them in a knightly fashion, courting them etc.
Read:
Chivalry elevated the status of women in European society. For this reason, wealthy female patrons propagated its development by subsidizing various writers like Chretien de Troyes, who went out of his way to portray the finest knights as dedicated to their ladies' whims.
This was exemplified when the Titanic sunk in 1912. The victims were disproportionately male, because of the chivalric, traditional Christian value expressed in the above passage, that a man
must put his wife before himself above all else and gladly give up his life for hers.
If you watch
Downton Abbey you will see this traditional Christian value-system at work in the way the men bow before the women, kiss their hands, open doors etc.
Here is an illustration depicting chivalry:
See the wikipedia article on chivalry:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chivalry
It says:
The Knight's Code of Chivalry was a moral system that stated all knights should protect others who can not protect themselves, such as widows, children, and elders. All knights needed to have the strength and skills to fight wars in the Middle Ages. Knights not only had to be strong but they were also extremely disciplined and were expected to use their power to protect the weak and defenceless. Knights vowed to be loyal, generous, and "noble bearing". Knights were required to tell the truth at all times and always respect the honour of women
This is an example of the knight showing the woman "honour" as the weaker sex. In Christianity "weakness" is a sign of strength, because according to Jesus the "meek shall inherit the earth". Jesus taught traditionally feminine virtues whereas Islam is more typically "masculine". Jesus taught that the "least among all of you is the greatest".
Here is a painting actually from the Middle Ages depicting the same act of chivalry:
The knight had to kneel before the woman in Catholic Europe and she would recognise him as 'her' knight.
Such a movement never arose in the Islamic world. Why?
Here is the Chivalric Code as described by the twelfth
century Song of Roland:
The Knights Code of Chivalry described in the Song of Roland and an excellent representation of the Knights Codes of Chivalry are as follows:
- To fear God and maintain His Church
- To serve the liege lord in valour and faith
- To protect the weak and defenceless
- To give succour to widows and orphans
- To refrain from the wanton giving of offence
- To live by honour and for glory
- To despise pecuniary reward
- To fight for the welfare of all
- To obey those placed in authority
- To guard the honour of fellow knights
- To eschew unfairness, meanness and deceit
- To keep faith
- At all times to speak the truth
- To persevere to the end in any enterprise begun
- To respect the honour of women
- Never to refuse a challenge from an equal
- Never to turn the back upon a foe
Not exactly women's liberation but I daren't equate it with a "light beating" either personally.