Harjindermee
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- Aug 3, 2013
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Is it a sin to married a divorced woman?
There is no sin in SikhismIs it a sin to married a divorced woman?
Different faiths havve different beliefs. It is a sin for Roman Catholics. I think it is not a sin for other Christians.Is it a sin to married a divorced woman?
Harjindermee ji,Is it a sin to married a divorced woman?
Lucky Singh ji,The anand karaj doesn't get void, therefore there is no divorce.
Muslims can void their sacred marriage by saying talaak(divorce) so many times but Guru's sacred anand karaj knot cannot be untied with any procedure.
Many Sikhs get divorced according to the marriage laws of the land they live in, but this should not be confused with sikhi.
Remarriage, after the death of a spouse is perfectly accepted but one has to consider social issues such as age and need.. ie.. an 80yr old baba asking for a remarriage is not going to get too many fans!!
Here I am! :gingerteakaur: Assuming he can give me good companionship and provide for my needs - I have severe disabilities and huge medical bills - and he is a keshdhari Sikh, we can get to know each other. And I am not the only senior-aged, lonely Sikh widow.Remarriage, after the death of a spouse is perfectly accepted but one has to consider social issues such as age and need.. ie.. an 80yr old baba asking for a remarriage is not going to get too many fans!!
I believe you are thinking of a possible annulment, such as the Roman Catholics do. The question is, of course, since Sikhi has no clergy, who would grant it?I thought that in rare cases, divorce and permission to remarry via anand karaj CAN be granted? MArried are not those who merely sit together, but those who become one soul in two bodies.... if through purely arranged marriage etc, that 'becoming one soul in two bodies' never happens because they discover they have nothing in common and can't stand each other, then I think the anand karaj never actually 'happened' to begin with.
panj pyare? I think i read... it was definitely pertaining to Sikhi.I believe you are thinking of a possible annulment, such as the Roman Catholics do. The question is, of course, since Sikhi has no clergy, who would grant it?
Silly me! I hadn't thought of the Panj Piyare.panj pyare? I think i read... it was definitely pertaining to Sikhi.
I know of someone who was forces into arranged marriage by anand karaj. They could never get along from day 1. He was forces to sleep on the floor because he would not share the bed. Things got worse, to the point that she would threaten suicide if he would not do things etc. He ended up leaving the UK and coming to Canada to get away from it all. She was mentally abusing him... so according to Sikhi, is he now condemned to live life alone because he was forces to go through the motions of an anand karaj ceremony? Or could it possibly be that the intended spiritual connection of marriage actually never happened at all since they never got along from day 1? What does he do now? live life alone because of a mistake his parents made? What if he finds someone who he DOES connect spiritually with?
Somewhere I am missing a link in the discussion. If Anand Karaj is the prescribed form of Sikh marriage, per the SRM, and the SRM is silent on divorce, how can there be no remarriage by anand karaj following divorce? Are we talking about this from the spiritual perspective - only one joining of souls is possible and it can never be undone? Or is there room for a practical reality that there is no rule? I think I am missing something.AS a matter of interest:
My personal information is that here is no such "New Sikh Marriage Act". In April, 2012 the Government of India withdrew the proposed amendments to the existing Anand Karaj Act of 1909 ( REF: http://www.weeklytimesofindia.com/india-news/sikh-marriage-act-punjab-sore-over-centres-decision-to-drop-proposal/The )
So the existing Anand Karaj is the prescribed form of Sikh marriage, and it is SILENT on the divorce issue! ( REF: Sikh Reht Maryada, Chaptet XI, Article XVIII: http://www.sgpc.net/rehat_maryada/section_four_chap_eleven.html )
I highly recommend the following for review : "Marriage, Infidelity and Divorce – A Sikh Perspective" by Dr. Sukhbir Singh Kapoor - http://www.sikhreview.org/july2002/socio.htm