mr2guysingh
SPNer
Don't use gel, use hair spray. My Sadar friend's beard is longer than that, and he uses hair spray.
The whole problem is between YOU and YOU. The Parents are like Brackets in an equation...INSIDE the Brackets is (YOU+YOU-YOU=YOU). IF your Parents were to have come here and told their side of this...the comments form posters would be the exact same...just addressed differently.for anyone wondering, the whole "keep calm every time you speak to your parents" idea, suggested towards the start of this thread, is highly ineffective...I've been extremely calm this entire time. they, on the other hand....
today, I made another attempt at explaining my issue, but they literally don't listen to what I have to say. and give me some bs like "vigar geya tu."
The more I'm told not to cut it, the more I want to. whatever, just one more year and I'm moving out anyway.
I'm more into responsibility than blame. One idea I was taught growing up is that an adult is always responsible for his/her actions. Cutting because your parents are against it is just another way of making others responsible for your own actions.Who is Right and who is Wrong..doesnt matter. What matters is DONT BLAME anyone else for your decision.cheerleader
Listen to what you are saying! Your ego is blinding your mind and forcing you to do something just to show someone (not anyone, but your parents!) down...The more I'm told not to cut it, the more I want to. whatever, just one more year and I'm moving out anyway.
OpenmindedSingh ji,for anyone wondering, the whole "keep calm every time you speak to your parents" idea, suggested towards the start of this thread, is highly ineffective...I've been extremely calm this entire time. they, on the other hand....
today, I made another attempt at explaining my issue, but they literally don't listen to what I have to say. and give me some bs like "vigar geya tu."
The more I'm told not to cut it, the more I want to. whatever, just one more year and I'm moving out anyway.
Maybe, maybe not. What worked for you may not work for him. Or it might. We are all different. I say, let him sift through everything said here and search his own being :whatzpointsing: and then do whatever he chooses to do.SSA,
I hope you will get something out from my experience because I have gone though this, and finally I decided enough is enough and I got my hair cut around 7 years back. And tell you really it was not easier to face my friends, family, office colleagues etc. First year was tough and but when I look back that was the best decision I ever made for myself, It's one life to live. I go to Gurdwara every Sunday and I wear turban when I go there, because I like wearing turban. But not everyday!
I would say go for it, am sure you'll come out stronger and happier in life.
Best wishes
Dilpreet Singh
This user probably won't see my post, but to any other keshdari Sikh guy who is complaining about Punjabi Sikh girls not liking the turban and beard, I ask, have you ever considered dating out of your religion and race? The problem I think is that nowadays, a lot of Punjabis don't know what the kesh stands for or what their ancestors had to go through to preserve it, so they lack knowledge. A lot of Punjabi girls might associate turban/beard with hardcore fundamentalist who doesn't know how to have fun, especially if older male relatives in her family keep the kesh. So if they Punjabis don't know why it is important, and/or associate negative emotions with it, it would naturally be hard for them to respect.Anyway, my beard has grown, and as I was growing through my teenage years, I heard more and more about uk sikh girls not liking the beard at least, and some the turban. This is especially true in the jatt community I come from.