Sat Sri Skal! I was in a debate with someone recently, a guy who I was talking to online. He says that according to Guru Nanak Dev Ji, it is forbidden to talk to someone else's fiance. Now, I made it clear to him I am open to making new friends, not interested in pursuing anything with him, and that I have met someone and we are in the 'getting to know each other' stage. There has been no mention of marriage.... And anyway, I have re-read the SRM and did a search in SGGS for references to spouse or fiance and / or anything which says it is forbidden to even talk to someone who is someone elses fiance. I could not find anything. The only things I have found are in the SRM where it says Sikhs are required to be part of the Sangat and the larger community.... (this encourages at the very least conversation one would think!) and that one should regard members of the opposite sex (aside from your spouse) as family... brothers / sisters/ aunties uncles etc. That to me, tells me that at the VERY least talking to the opposite sex is not 'forbidden' and actually encouraged as Sikhs are not to lead an ascetic lifestyle, they are supposed to be part of society! So my question is this: Is there something written anywhere that similar to Islam forbids talking between males / females who are not married / engaged to be married? I have as of yet been unable to find anything at all in this regard so I am curious as to where he got that. He is Sikh btw... and he specifically said (and I quote his msg to me here) "...but talking with some elses fiance is forbidden, as says guru nanak ji. You have a lot to learn about sikhism my friend." First of all I am not anyone's finace anyway... but I wanted to get this calrified... with references if possible, because this guy seems to be on his high horse and thinks his interpretation of Sikhi is the right interpretation. And his interpretation sounds more like Islam to me!!! I also feel like he is slamming me in his message to me! If I am wrong however and there IS something that forbids talking - then I will eat my words and look it up. Thanks in Advance!