Lotus Lion Ji!
Thank you for your warm words.
The thing with draging you down was refering to my own mood in the moment. It´s got a) something to do with all my friends around me getting married, pregnant and having kids, b) my own disasterously failed attempts to settle down, c) my inner struggle of what do i want anyway, how can i get it and how can i adjust it to my life and finally d) turning 30 this year
Don´t worry it´s not as bad as i sounds, I´m as happy as i´ve never been before in my life, with my life, thus i feel that i reached a turningpoint.
As i said, i lay my life and my luck in finding the one in guru ji´s hands, there´s not much more i can do and i want to do.
Honestly, in Europe you only find someone through dating and with dating i´m definetly through.
Lotus Lion Ji, your experiences with sikhwomen may be even helpful finding the right one. As i always say, at least you know now what you don´t want at all.
But seriously, somewhere out there, there is someone thinking just as you and waiting to meet you. As i understood through other discussions on SPN, the gursikh girls who´d love to have a turbaned, bearded sikh are not dating or seeing anyone before getting married. So maybe you should think about your strategy.
@ Singh Ji!
I love the Guruka Singh videos. They´re both educating and entertaining. He´s always giving nice views from a whole other direction. I´m not that familiar with the yogic aspects of life at all. Honestly some sound rather strange to me. But nevermind, i´m trying to overcome my deadend-mindedness (6 years med-school, sorry). It´s actually working quite well.
Secondly, i don´t think ´traditional` sikh couples in the west don´t look backwarded at all. Just look at all these nice western sikh families f ex. in the us. I think they´re doing a good job connecting western modern lifestyle with religious and spiritual richness. Personally i think the new modern way is to overcome your sensationhungry fast-food lifestyle, which i don´t consider to be the end of wisdom so far.
It might be hip at the time to be as free as you can imagine but your soul is not. People aren´t happy that way, believe me, i hear it every day with my patients. They´re tired, scared of life and totally insecure. And i think the sikh lifestyle and attitude to life provides this security and joyfullness.
Me and my flatmate were lately talking about a spiritual awakening that´s said to be coming soon. Hopefully. (I think that was meant by the aquarius age to be come, or so).
Sorry, i´m off topic now.
I am a Hindu girl, no Sikh. I have grown up in Europe and done my studies here. My boyfriend is a Punjabi and has proposed me many times for marriage. After finishing my bachelors I have agreed for marriage.
All of a sudden he has turned into A Sikh\ Rishi and Vegan. I was shocked to see him with his beard. He said all the things you guys mentioned above.
Moreover I feel deceived. My family would never accept the beard and turban.
He has changed his name and finished his identity.
I feel widowed and deceived. It makes me feel, he has killed the person I loved most with the bottom of my heart.
The beard and turban and name have changed his identity. His love to God has sacrificed my love. I don't know how to describe the hurt.
Am I wrong if I ask him to change to the man I met?
His transformation have built lots of hatred in me. I simply don't know what to do.
I wonder what is the use of such religion, if someone can sacrifice their family for it