I heard Yogi Bhajan say this once (I'm paraphrasing): If you really want to help somone who has fallen (spiritually, mentally), you have to understand them. That is, you have to STAND UNDER them. I think I understood a bit of what he meant today. Most times when I have tried to help people in a a difficult situation, I have stood from above and just pointed how I saw them (i.e. this is wrong, that is wrong with you). That does not help the person at all. You have to stand under ("understand") them to help them up. If there is someone in your life or even you perhaps who needs help, yelling and simple judgements are not gonna help. Help the person up by standing under them or understanding them.