A traditional wedding present is a salwar kameez for a new bride. This number would last her into her marriage a long time. In olden times, she might expect to receive 40 of them, a respectable number, all silk. Auntie may have thought you needed one or two more to be in the groove.So I think I've confirmed my theory -- there is something off-putting about my suit! (which I thought was my best one!)
"you look cute today!". Cute... I haven't heard that before. So I thought perhaps this isn't the right kind of suit to be wearing.
When an auntie says that, it is out of love as cute is very little used by Indians in a negative connotation. Just my experience. So it would be a complement.
But I wore the suit last fortnight... and an auntie whose name I can't remember came up to me (she knew my name! how awkward!), and said "I was given a suit recently but I already have so many, and I think it would fit you, would you like me to bring it in for you?"
This again is a positive statement. Someone cares enough and wants to see you look even more prettier. A motherly or sisterly love.
Sinner veer says,
I love to see colourful suits too but why do the men usually wear a shirt and trousers?
Sinner veer when were men supposed to have fashion sense! lol
however some indian girls do wear short dresses out to night clubs but would not dare enter a Gurdwara like that.
Would they dare to enter their Grandma and Grandpa's house? lol It is quite common for such age girls to take an outfit and change in someone's apartment or washrooms to go out. One for the house and one for the road!
Be Happy and look happy.Harry Haller veer says,
My brother has style, I do not, both of us are guilty in my view, he, because he is attached to it, and me because I am averse to it. So I suppose the perfect style is one that is neither attached or aversed!
Harry veer why you writing like Confused ji. mundahug All these thought rise and fall instatntaneously so don't matter much. Just be!
fellow t shirt wearing grunger! me neither, however, I would be interested to know how you feel about your wifes fashion sense, if mine dressed like me, I would be gutted!!
Harry Haller veer ji, I was just doing tongue-in-cheek or yanking your chain as I might say. Nothing more.Harry veer why you writing like Confused ji. All these thought rise and fall instatntaneously so don't matter much. Just be!
I feel there is something to be learnt from everyone here, not a universal truth, but certainly a snippet in anothers philosophy that strikes a chord with oneself, without embracing the ideal that another has formulated, the idea of a non interventionist god, of judgement being around you, these concepts that I hold dear were verified and validated by non other than you, the concept of aversion is new to me, and it was not until I read Confusedji's reply to my own questions that I understood that it was as bad as attachment, it certainly did not influence me, any more than your wonderful writings on consonance, it just explained certain facets of my personality, and allowed me to understand myself better.
Nothing flows with me veerji, and I envy anyone for whom it does