Any parent/s who uses hitting, spanking or anyother kind of violent method to teach " a lesson" to his/her children is a child abuser, hence a scumbag. There is no excuse that an elder/parent when angry can hit. It would be only fair if the chilld could do the same when angry. This is a very common thing.
One more thing domestic violence by either spouse is also a NO,NO. It is not the Sikhi way although sadly it occurs daily in many households. Our Gurdwaras should play a role in creating awareness with warnings and its consequences and showing the solutions through Gurbani Vichaar rather than asking them to parrot Japji or any other part of Gurbani for 40 or so days and all would be fine. We should have professional marriage and parenting counselors in the Gurdwaras. This may also close the so called generation gap that we as parents blame our kids for.
In fact the bible promotes spanking.
"Do not withold discipline from a chlid. if you BEAT him with a ROD, he will not die. Thou shalt BEAT him with a ROD and deliver his soul from Hell"
Proverbs 23:13,14.
Thanks to our visionary Gurus, no such non sense is propagated.
Let us follow what Guru Gobind Singh ji said:
Jin prem kio, tin hee Prabh paio.
Love is the only way to find the connection with Ik Ong Kaar and as we all know Ik Ong dwells in all of us, which inculdes our spouses and our children.
Tejwant Singh