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ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="LoveORPressure" data-source="post: 173446" data-attributes="member: 18666"><p>Ive been searching and reading up on a lot of posts about sikh and non sikh relationships/marriages. I am in the same situation and I tried to use the advice and criticism given to my own circumstance, however I would greatly appreciate any help on my problem as I feel so alone and deserted.</p><p></p><p>I have been dating this sikh (jatt) girl for sometime now, but at first we both knew what we was getting into and i tried to break it up but she said she would fight for me and we continued. When we started she asked her mum if it would be okay for her to marry a Christian guy (me, but i am not a gorah im Indian) and surprisingly her mum said yh (this gave us some hope to carry-on). Yet we received a lot of criticism from friends saying its "wrong" and "your meant to marry someone from ur caste not a whole different religion" and emotional blackmail about her parents disowning her. This hurt us a lot but we didn't let it influence us and down the line, we both realised how much we love each other and how much we mean to one another and its the most amazing and beautiful feeling ever! </p><p></p><p>Last month however I was walking her home and her dad saw us. She got into so much trouble, its unbelievable. And through all the pressure of things she broke up with me, since then we started to be friends and saw each other and then we realised we couldn't hide it and got back together. everyday she felt guilty for lying to her parents and she said the only time she would forget it and be happy is with me so we spent a lot of time together and it truly was perfect even if it meant us just sitting under a tree and talking.</p><p></p><p>But now the pressure was too much for her to handle and she loves me and wants a future with me and I do too, but since she's not allowed to it destroyed us and were not together but still talk and try to hide our true feelings and it kills us. </p><p></p><p>I understand if her dad didnt catch us then we could still be together and her mum did say yh tht she could marry a christian but said no in the end cause obviously if u find your daughter with a guy your going to get angry. Ive read alot of posts and youtube videos and they all have a similar trend of saying if the parents see that their daughter is going to be with someone that loves her and someone successful its easier to accept. And if not we have to be strong and say yes we want to be together and give her family time to accept us. </p><p></p><p>Please can someone give me some help in this situation, it would be amazing if anyone has been in this similar circumstance and can tell me your story. We feel so alone and lost and confused. In the sikh reyat maryada it does say tht caste shouldnt matter so if her parents but also that a sikh's daughter should marry a sikh. So her being jatt shouldnt be that much of a problem but i kno in reality it will be, also I have looked up a lot on sikhism and i try to learn and understand punjabi on my own intention to show her and her family that i love her for who she is and i respect her and her culture and religion. I dont want her to convert to christianity or if we do get married raise our children christian becuase if it makes her happy id love our children to be anything that she wants them to be. </p><p></p><p>Please any advice would be so amazing!!! THANK YOU</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LoveORPressure, post: 173446, member: 18666"] Ive been searching and reading up on a lot of posts about sikh and non sikh relationships/marriages. I am in the same situation and I tried to use the advice and criticism given to my own circumstance, however I would greatly appreciate any help on my problem as I feel so alone and deserted. I have been dating this sikh (jatt) girl for sometime now, but at first we both knew what we was getting into and i tried to break it up but she said she would fight for me and we continued. When we started she asked her mum if it would be okay for her to marry a Christian guy (me, but i am not a gorah im Indian) and surprisingly her mum said yh (this gave us some hope to carry-on). Yet we received a lot of criticism from friends saying its "wrong" and "your meant to marry someone from ur caste not a whole different religion" and emotional blackmail about her parents disowning her. This hurt us a lot but we didn't let it influence us and down the line, we both realised how much we love each other and how much we mean to one another and its the most amazing and beautiful feeling ever! Last month however I was walking her home and her dad saw us. She got into so much trouble, its unbelievable. And through all the pressure of things she broke up with me, since then we started to be friends and saw each other and then we realised we couldn't hide it and got back together. everyday she felt guilty for lying to her parents and she said the only time she would forget it and be happy is with me so we spent a lot of time together and it truly was perfect even if it meant us just sitting under a tree and talking. But now the pressure was too much for her to handle and she loves me and wants a future with me and I do too, but since she's not allowed to it destroyed us and were not together but still talk and try to hide our true feelings and it kills us. I understand if her dad didnt catch us then we could still be together and her mum did say yh tht she could marry a christian but said no in the end cause obviously if u find your daughter with a guy your going to get angry. Ive read alot of posts and youtube videos and they all have a similar trend of saying if the parents see that their daughter is going to be with someone that loves her and someone successful its easier to accept. And if not we have to be strong and say yes we want to be together and give her family time to accept us. Please can someone give me some help in this situation, it would be amazing if anyone has been in this similar circumstance and can tell me your story. We feel so alone and lost and confused. In the sikh reyat maryada it does say tht caste shouldnt matter so if her parents but also that a sikh's daughter should marry a sikh. So her being jatt shouldnt be that much of a problem but i kno in reality it will be, also I have looked up a lot on sikhism and i try to learn and understand punjabi on my own intention to show her and her family that i love her for who she is and i respect her and her culture and religion. I dont want her to convert to christianity or if we do get married raise our children christian becuase if it makes her happy id love our children to be anything that she wants them to be. Please any advice would be so amazing!!! THANK YOU [/QUOTE]
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