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<blockquote data-quote="Balbir27" data-source="post: 214506" data-attributes="member: 21905"><p>My Dear Sister “Satnamkor”</p><p></p><p>God works in mysterious ways which are beyond human comprehension. Help and/or advice for you and your son may arrive in different ways and sometimes we are unable to recognise even this. Even the fact that your son is going through a difficult time, may be his own help.</p><p></p><p>Take heart that God never forsakes us. He has different lessons and roles for us to play on this stage, called the World. Some of us have high positions, some have low positions. Some of us suffer great pain and some of us pass our lives in merriment.</p><p></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff"><strong><em>ਹੁਕਮੀਉਤਮੁਨੀਚੁਹੁਕਮਿਲਿਖਿਦੁਖਸੁਖਪਾਈਅਹਿ</em></strong>॥ </span></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff">Hukmī uṯam nīcẖ hukam likẖ ḏukẖ sukẖ pā▫ī▫ah. </span></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff">By His Command, some are high and some are low; by His Written Command, pain and pleasure are obtained.</span></p><p></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff">ਇਕਨਾਹੁਕਮੀਬਖਸੀਸਇਕਿਹੁਕਮੀਸਦਾਭਵਾਈਅਹਿ॥ </span></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff">Iknā hukmī bakẖsīs ik hukmī saḏā bẖavā▫ī▫ah. </span></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff">Some, by His Command, are blessed and forgiven; others, by His Command, wander aimlessly forever.</span></p><p></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff"><strong><em>ਹੁਕਮੈਅੰਦਰਿਸਭੁਕੋਬਾਹਰਿਹੁਕਮਨਕੋਇ</em></strong>॥ </span></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff">Hukmai anḏar sabẖ ko bāhar hukam na ko▫e. </span></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff">Everyone is subject to His Command; no one is beyond His Command.</span></p><p></p><p></p><p>And, what your son is experiencing is still within God’s Command -</p><p></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff"><strong><em>ਜਿਵਫੁਰਮਾਏਤਿਵਤਿਵਪਾਹਿ</em></strong>॥ </span></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff">Jiv furmā▫e ṯiv ṯiv pāhi. </span></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff">As He ordains, so do we receive.</span></p><p></p><p></p><p><span style="color: #000000">Your womb was chosen for the soul of your son to be born into this world -</span></p><p></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff"><strong><em>ਹੁਕਮੀਹੋਵਨਿਆਕਾਰਹੁਕਮੁਨਕਹਿਆਜਾਈ</em></strong>॥ </span></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff">Hukmī hovan ākār hukam na kahi▫ā jā▫ī. </span></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff">By His Command, bodies are created; His Command cannot be described.</span></p><p></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff">ਹੁਕਮੀਹੋਵਨਿਜੀਅਹੁਕਮਿਮਿਲੈਵਡਿਆਈ॥ </span></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff">Hukmī hovan jī▫a hukam milai vadi▫ā▫ī. </span></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff">By His Command, souls come into being; by His Command, glory and greatness are obtained.</span></p><p></p><p></p><p>Your son’s present position appears to have been decided by God –</p><p></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff"><strong><em>ਕਰਮੀਆਵੈਕਪੜਾਨਦਰੀਮੋਖੁਦੁਆਰੁ</em></strong>॥ </span></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff">Karmī āvai kapṛā naḏrī mokẖ ḏu▫ār. </span></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff">By the karma of past actions, the robe of this physical body is obtained. By His Grace, the Gate of Liberation is found.</span></p><p></p><p></p><p>Will you not help your son find his way to his liberation, regardless if in this, or, another life?</p><p></p><p>Remember that you have the faith in God, you have the insight, you can see right from wrong. So you carry a God-given responsibility towards your son –</p><p></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff"><strong><em>ਮੰਨੈਪਰਵਾਰੈਸਾਧਾਰੁ</em></strong>॥ </span></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff">Mannai parvārai sāḏẖār. </span></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff">The faithful uplift and redeem their family and relations.</span></p><p></p><p></p><p>You and your husband carry the mantle of responsibility for the care of your son, regardless of age. You and your husband are his <em><strong>rock</strong></em>. To a “lost” soul, there is nothing greater than the knowledge that it has a home to come back to, that there are people who love it, that there are people who care about it and despite what “crimes or sins” it may commit, that rock is always there. True, God is our true rock. But humans are weak in many ways and seek something they can see, touch, and smell etc. because the concept of God is beyond them. So a weak soul needs a human rock.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Even if you decide not to provide any support to your son, God will provide –</p><p></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff"><strong><em>ਦੇਦਾਦੇਲੈਦੇਥਕਿਪਾਹਿ</em></strong>॥ </span></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff">Ḏeḏā ḏe laiḏe thak pāhi. </span></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff">The Great Giver keeps on giving, while those who receive grow weary of receiving.</span></p><p></p><p></p><p>In the end you, your husband and your son, will reap the benefits of your own decisions –</p><p></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff"><strong><em>ਆਪੇਬੀਜਿਆਪੇਹੀਖਾਹੁ</em></strong>॥ </span></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff">Āpe bīj āpe hī kẖāhu. </span></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff">You shall harvest what you plant.</span></p><p></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff">ਨਾਨਕਹੁਕਮੀਆਵਹੁਜਾਹੁ॥੨੦॥ </span></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff">Nānak hukmī āvhu jāhu. ||20|| </span></p><p><span style="color: #0080ff">O Nanak, by the Hukam of God's Command, we come and go in reincarnation. ||20||</span></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>The message, from God, to you and your family (and for all of us) is loud and clear. In the end we all are responsible for our own actions (free will), within the “walls” of God’s Commands.</p><p></p><p><strong>Note</strong>: The extracts quoted are from Guru Nanak’s own thoughts as enshrined in the Jap Ji Sahib. I have not given any page numbers because I believe the search itself is a form of learning. There are no short cuts.</p><p></p><p>As always, a servant, open to any and all corrections.</p><p></p><p>Sat Sri Akal</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Balbir27, post: 214506, member: 21905"] My Dear Sister “Satnamkor” God works in mysterious ways which are beyond human comprehension. Help and/or advice for you and your son may arrive in different ways and sometimes we are unable to recognise even this. Even the fact that your son is going through a difficult time, may be his own help. Take heart that God never forsakes us. He has different lessons and roles for us to play on this stage, called the World. Some of us have high positions, some have low positions. Some of us suffer great pain and some of us pass our lives in merriment. [COLOR=#0080ff][B][I]ਹੁਕਮੀਉਤਮੁਨੀਚੁਹੁਕਮਿਲਿਖਿਦੁਖਸੁਖਪਾਈਅਹਿ[/I][/B]॥ Hukmī uṯam nīcẖ hukam likẖ ḏukẖ sukẖ pā▫ī▫ah. By His Command, some are high and some are low; by His Written Command, pain and pleasure are obtained.[/COLOR] [COLOR=#0080ff]ਇਕਨਾਹੁਕਮੀਬਖਸੀਸਇਕਿਹੁਕਮੀਸਦਾਭਵਾਈਅਹਿ॥ Iknā hukmī bakẖsīs ik hukmī saḏā bẖavā▫ī▫ah. Some, by His Command, are blessed and forgiven; others, by His Command, wander aimlessly forever.[/COLOR] [COLOR=#0080ff][B][I]ਹੁਕਮੈਅੰਦਰਿਸਭੁਕੋਬਾਹਰਿਹੁਕਮਨਕੋਇ[/I][/B]॥ Hukmai anḏar sabẖ ko bāhar hukam na ko▫e. Everyone is subject to His Command; no one is beyond His Command.[/COLOR] And, what your son is experiencing is still within God’s Command - [COLOR=#0080ff][B][I]ਜਿਵਫੁਰਮਾਏਤਿਵਤਿਵਪਾਹਿ[/I][/B]॥ Jiv furmā▫e ṯiv ṯiv pāhi. As He ordains, so do we receive.[/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000]Your womb was chosen for the soul of your son to be born into this world -[/COLOR] [COLOR=#0080ff][B][I]ਹੁਕਮੀਹੋਵਨਿਆਕਾਰਹੁਕਮੁਨਕਹਿਆਜਾਈ[/I][/B]॥ Hukmī hovan ākār hukam na kahi▫ā jā▫ī. By His Command, bodies are created; His Command cannot be described.[/COLOR] [COLOR=#0080ff]ਹੁਕਮੀਹੋਵਨਿਜੀਅਹੁਕਮਿਮਿਲੈਵਡਿਆਈ॥ Hukmī hovan jī▫a hukam milai vadi▫ā▫ī. By His Command, souls come into being; by His Command, glory and greatness are obtained.[/COLOR] Your son’s present position appears to have been decided by God – [COLOR=#0080ff][B][I]ਕਰਮੀਆਵੈਕਪੜਾਨਦਰੀਮੋਖੁਦੁਆਰੁ[/I][/B]॥ Karmī āvai kapṛā naḏrī mokẖ ḏu▫ār. By the karma of past actions, the robe of this physical body is obtained. By His Grace, the Gate of Liberation is found.[/COLOR] Will you not help your son find his way to his liberation, regardless if in this, or, another life? Remember that you have the faith in God, you have the insight, you can see right from wrong. So you carry a God-given responsibility towards your son – [COLOR=#0080ff][B][I]ਮੰਨੈਪਰਵਾਰੈਸਾਧਾਰੁ[/I][/B]॥ Mannai parvārai sāḏẖār. The faithful uplift and redeem their family and relations.[/COLOR] You and your husband carry the mantle of responsibility for the care of your son, regardless of age. You and your husband are his [I][B]rock[/B][/I]. To a “lost” soul, there is nothing greater than the knowledge that it has a home to come back to, that there are people who love it, that there are people who care about it and despite what “crimes or sins” it may commit, that rock is always there. True, God is our true rock. But humans are weak in many ways and seek something they can see, touch, and smell etc. because the concept of God is beyond them. So a weak soul needs a human rock. Even if you decide not to provide any support to your son, God will provide – [COLOR=#0080ff][B][I]ਦੇਦਾਦੇਲੈਦੇਥਕਿਪਾਹਿ[/I][/B]॥ Ḏeḏā ḏe laiḏe thak pāhi. The Great Giver keeps on giving, while those who receive grow weary of receiving.[/COLOR] In the end you, your husband and your son, will reap the benefits of your own decisions – [COLOR=#0080ff][B][I]ਆਪੇਬੀਜਿਆਪੇਹੀਖਾਹੁ[/I][/B]॥ Āpe bīj āpe hī kẖāhu. You shall harvest what you plant.[/COLOR] [COLOR=#0080ff]ਨਾਨਕਹੁਕਮੀਆਵਹੁਜਾਹੁ॥੨੦॥ Nānak hukmī āvhu jāhu. ||20|| O Nanak, by the Hukam of God's Command, we come and go in reincarnation. ||20||[/COLOR] The message, from God, to you and your family (and for all of us) is loud and clear. In the end we all are responsible for our own actions (free will), within the “walls” of God’s Commands. [B]Note[/B]: The extracts quoted are from Guru Nanak’s own thoughts as enshrined in the Jap Ji Sahib. I have not given any page numbers because I believe the search itself is a form of learning. There are no short cuts. As always, a servant, open to any and all corrections. Sat Sri Akal [/QUOTE]
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