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ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="gorasikh" data-source="post: 146899" data-attributes="member: 15626"><p><strong>Sat Sri Akal!</strong></p><p>I really appreciate the chance to get some advice and guidance from my Sikhi brothers/ sisters!</p><p>I have read about inter-faith and intercast marriage and have gained some understanding - my situation however is different and I have very few people to talk to. There is alot of detail to this but I will be as brief as i can describing the most pertinent points.</p><p> </p><p><u>The Background:</u></p><p>I am a 26 year old lawyer, I started learning about sikhism through work colleagues and my own studies (sikhphilosophy included <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" />. have considered myself a sikh for 1.5 years and I am very happy with the path I am on. I have known this girl for a very long time though as friends, and for about a year we have become very close. We actively share our faith and do some great simran together, we have strong shared morals and future plans. I know I want to marry this Kaur and Know she feels the same. It is sometimes difficult to see each other as her family like to keep tabs on her, but I accept that and actively try not to make life difficult for her.</p><p> </p><p><u>Some detail:</u></p><p>I have met her Mother on several occasions at Gurdwara and its been great, she is very sweet and has been sending me gifts. I was worried what the future would hold for us, so i phoned her and said "with an open heart I believe i have found my soul-partner in your daughter and i will always honour her" she said that we will talk about it in more detail later - this was a few months ago (quite encouraging I thought: although father does not know)</p><p> </p><p><u>Present time:</u></p><p>My Kaur has been under alot of stress and we have been more distant too since we have both been very busy. Her brother is going to get engaged and that has changed the family dynamic and maybe made her more aware of her future and pressures (but i obviously dont have much experience of punjabi family life).</p><p> </p><p>I recently sat down with her and explained how I felt and what i wanted for out future. I said that I realise that it will be hard and we will face some attrition but i will always be a support and together we can face anything - She told me with tears rolling down her cheeks about Izzat but not about what it meant for us. I have done my research and studied what Izzat entails but am very unsure about what the future holds - this is causing me alot of anxiety... </p><p> </p><p>I am a truely devoted to Waheguru and aspire to being amrithari (we both do) I am from a successful family and have a prosperous career ahead of me as a Barrister. I have strong, sound morals and will always treat my wife with respect and honour her.</p><p>In terms of the future I also want my children to understand the important elements of sikhi so they can have a personal relationship with Guru ji if they choose.</p><p> </p><p><u>Future</u></p><p>I know I should try and remain detached and that guru ji has everything planned out. But this is hard when i think we are meant to be together and that it is Izzat of the Ramgharia influencing her. I would appreciate advice of what to do from the Sangat about what to do, bearing in mind I have big exams coming up and am trying to fight off emotional upset at this time so my future isn jeapordised.</p><p> </p><p><strong>Waheguru Ji Ka</strong> <strong>Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh</strong></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gorasikh, post: 146899, member: 15626"] [B]Sat Sri Akal![/B] I really appreciate the chance to get some advice and guidance from my Sikhi brothers/ sisters! I have read about inter-faith and intercast marriage and have gained some understanding - my situation however is different and I have very few people to talk to. There is alot of detail to this but I will be as brief as i can describing the most pertinent points. [U]The Background:[/U] I am a 26 year old lawyer, I started learning about sikhism through work colleagues and my own studies (sikhphilosophy included :). have considered myself a sikh for 1.5 years and I am very happy with the path I am on. I have known this girl for a very long time though as friends, and for about a year we have become very close. We actively share our faith and do some great simran together, we have strong shared morals and future plans. I know I want to marry this Kaur and Know she feels the same. It is sometimes difficult to see each other as her family like to keep tabs on her, but I accept that and actively try not to make life difficult for her. [U]Some detail:[/U] I have met her Mother on several occasions at Gurdwara and its been great, she is very sweet and has been sending me gifts. I was worried what the future would hold for us, so i phoned her and said "with an open heart I believe i have found my soul-partner in your daughter and i will always honour her" she said that we will talk about it in more detail later - this was a few months ago (quite encouraging I thought: although father does not know) [U]Present time:[/U] My Kaur has been under alot of stress and we have been more distant too since we have both been very busy. Her brother is going to get engaged and that has changed the family dynamic and maybe made her more aware of her future and pressures (but i obviously dont have much experience of punjabi family life). I recently sat down with her and explained how I felt and what i wanted for out future. I said that I realise that it will be hard and we will face some attrition but i will always be a support and together we can face anything - She told me with tears rolling down her cheeks about Izzat but not about what it meant for us. I have done my research and studied what Izzat entails but am very unsure about what the future holds - this is causing me alot of anxiety... I am a truely devoted to Waheguru and aspire to being amrithari (we both do) I am from a successful family and have a prosperous career ahead of me as a Barrister. I have strong, sound morals and will always treat my wife with respect and honour her. In terms of the future I also want my children to understand the important elements of sikhi so they can have a personal relationship with Guru ji if they choose. [U]Future[/U] I know I should try and remain detached and that guru ji has everything planned out. But this is hard when i think we are meant to be together and that it is Izzat of the Ramgharia influencing her. I would appreciate advice of what to do from the Sangat about what to do, bearing in mind I have big exams coming up and am trying to fight off emotional upset at this time so my future isn jeapordised. [B]Waheguru Ji Ka[/B] [B]Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh[/B] [/QUOTE]
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