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Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
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Gurbani (527-536)
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Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
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Gurbani (595-634)
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Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
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ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
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Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
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Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
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ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
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Gurbani (1319-23)
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Gurbani (1327-1341)
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Gurbani (1352-53)
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<blockquote data-quote="Harry Haller" data-source="post: 201333" data-attributes="member: 14641"><p>it sounds to me like you have a dream, which you seem unable to fulfil. You remind me very much of myself when I was your age, 20 years later, I have realised a lot and learned a lot, and lived a lot, and now I realise there is no dream princess or prince, everything comes from within, and if you are happy within, then you will be happy with people round you. I guarantee you if you met your dream prince now, he would run a mile, because you would need him to be happy, not the best foundation for any relationship. But then again it took me 20 years to learn that. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>its easier than trying to find peace within yourself, but then, a different city, a different town, even a different country, it makes no difference, we will screw up just as we did before, and I speak, again, from experience. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>you have little self confidence, just as I used to, actually, I don't really believe I am blessed with self confidence now, I am just at peace with myself, I only have myself to answer to, and it is only my own opinion of myself that is important. If you were to find peace within yourself, it would not worry you if someone left or not, I worry that you are going to be very hurt in relationships as you will give everything and then wonder why you are not getting anything back, the world is full of people that follow human nature. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Again, I had the same problem, my parents loved me and bailed me out time and time again, to the point where I was unable to stand on my own two feet, there was no hunger, no cold, sure I went through some tough times on my own, but they have always been there for me, no matter what. So you have two loving parents, stop using them and stand on your own two feet, I know at the moment you probably feel weak and childlike, well it is up to you whether that continues, you can carry on being a child, and running home to mummy when things go wrong, or you can try and stand on your own two feet, start taking responsibility for your life, stop dreaming about fantasies, look around you, one day your parents will need you to help them, you need to be strong for that day, because one day there will be no one left to run to, to cry to, and I am sure your parents want an adult for a son, not a child. You have had a good run, stop blaming them for their kindness, you have a brain, you can see what is going on, take the rough road, sweat a bit, it will do you good. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>this is very natural, in times of hardship, it is our nature to run away, and the best and the biggest run away is suicide, it ticks all the boxes, sympathy, self pity, drama, but it would be the death of your parents, so try and be positive and a little less selfish, if you find these thoughts start dominating your mind, feel free to PM me and I can continue our dialogue in private. I have also had experience on this subject, but for different reasons. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>if you keep making the same problems again and again, people tend to put their energies into more receptive situations. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Anytime you have posted a request for help, several people including myself have taken the time to try and assist</p><p></p><p></p><p>If I look back at my life and times when I was feeling like you do now, in hindsight, the best advice actually is just get on with it.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I do not think your sexuality is a problem, I do think the guilt is killing you. Its the guilt you have to deal with, not the sexuality. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>put your sexuality and the search for the dream prince on the backburner, focus on your education and your job, both will enable you to be free and live how you wish, if you do not do this, then you will be reliant on your parents for income forever, and you will never be able to walk your own path, for this reason, being able to earn your own money is vital. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>as petrifying as living at home in a false marriage in a false life?</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>get your priorities right, there is no way you are going to find a boyfriend in the needy reliant state you are in. </p><p>.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Harry Haller, post: 201333, member: 14641"] it sounds to me like you have a dream, which you seem unable to fulfil. You remind me very much of myself when I was your age, 20 years later, I have realised a lot and learned a lot, and lived a lot, and now I realise there is no dream princess or prince, everything comes from within, and if you are happy within, then you will be happy with people round you. I guarantee you if you met your dream prince now, he would run a mile, because you would need him to be happy, not the best foundation for any relationship. But then again it took me 20 years to learn that. its easier than trying to find peace within yourself, but then, a different city, a different town, even a different country, it makes no difference, we will screw up just as we did before, and I speak, again, from experience. you have little self confidence, just as I used to, actually, I don't really believe I am blessed with self confidence now, I am just at peace with myself, I only have myself to answer to, and it is only my own opinion of myself that is important. If you were to find peace within yourself, it would not worry you if someone left or not, I worry that you are going to be very hurt in relationships as you will give everything and then wonder why you are not getting anything back, the world is full of people that follow human nature. Again, I had the same problem, my parents loved me and bailed me out time and time again, to the point where I was unable to stand on my own two feet, there was no hunger, no cold, sure I went through some tough times on my own, but they have always been there for me, no matter what. So you have two loving parents, stop using them and stand on your own two feet, I know at the moment you probably feel weak and childlike, well it is up to you whether that continues, you can carry on being a child, and running home to mummy when things go wrong, or you can try and stand on your own two feet, start taking responsibility for your life, stop dreaming about fantasies, look around you, one day your parents will need you to help them, you need to be strong for that day, because one day there will be no one left to run to, to cry to, and I am sure your parents want an adult for a son, not a child. You have had a good run, stop blaming them for their kindness, you have a brain, you can see what is going on, take the rough road, sweat a bit, it will do you good. this is very natural, in times of hardship, it is our nature to run away, and the best and the biggest run away is suicide, it ticks all the boxes, sympathy, self pity, drama, but it would be the death of your parents, so try and be positive and a little less selfish, if you find these thoughts start dominating your mind, feel free to PM me and I can continue our dialogue in private. I have also had experience on this subject, but for different reasons. if you keep making the same problems again and again, people tend to put their energies into more receptive situations. Anytime you have posted a request for help, several people including myself have taken the time to try and assist If I look back at my life and times when I was feeling like you do now, in hindsight, the best advice actually is just get on with it. I do not think your sexuality is a problem, I do think the guilt is killing you. Its the guilt you have to deal with, not the sexuality. put your sexuality and the search for the dream prince on the backburner, focus on your education and your job, both will enable you to be free and live how you wish, if you do not do this, then you will be reliant on your parents for income forever, and you will never be able to walk your own path, for this reason, being able to earn your own money is vital. as petrifying as living at home in a false marriage in a false life? get your priorities right, there is no way you are going to find a boyfriend in the needy reliant state you are in. . [/QUOTE]
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