Helper Or Enabler?

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by Inderjeet Kaur, May 11, 2018.

  1. Inderjeet Kaur

    Inderjeet Kaur Writer SPNer Supporter

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    A situation in my life has come up and developed in a way that makes me wonder if I have stepped beyond being a friend and helper to being an enabler. I could really use some feedback on this.

    By the way, nobody involved uses either drugs or alcohol; it isn't that sort of a problem.
     
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  2. Sikhilove

    Sikhilove Writer SPNer

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    Hi

    Yeh i'm currently in a similar situation. I've let a friend get away with so much that now they completely take me for granted and feel as if they're allowed to treat me badly. So i've had to distance myself from them. They almost literally had no boundaries when it came to me so i'm establishing some.

    You should do the same and leave your friend to their own devices if your input is inadvertently leading to more harm than good to the person.
     
  3. Kanwaljit.Singh

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    you can not be enabler of a problem if intentions are right. still if you think it will be beneficial for the affected person, give them space.
     
  4. Ishna

    Ishna Enthusiast Writer SPNer

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    I find honesty helps, if it's that kind of situation.
     
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  5. RicktheSikh

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    I agree. If the situation allows for it, an open discussion with the other party involved about your concerns would be the best way to get to a resolution.
     

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