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ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="WWW" data-source="post: 159041" data-attributes="member: 15774"><p>Hi Phil,</p><p> I am a gora married to a punjabi girl, and I am going to give you some advice based on my experience. It may seem harsh, but its good advice. I try to give it when I hear guys like you, because I remember the feeling.</p><p> </p><p>1. Be a man. Tell her either you are introduced to her family or the relationship is over. She will either respect you for it, break up with you, or you will find out how the family feels and either have to end it / can move forward. In any case this creeping around behind the family's back is not going to earn you respect. If her dad says no, you need to respect his right over her and end it.</p><p>2. Strongly consider ending it. Interfaith/cultural marriage is difficult, and I advise against it. It worked for me, but it was a long hard road and you still have to deal with BS. Also, think of the children... what religion will they be? How will they culturally identify? Mixed kids can have a hard life, this is something that I worry about constantly with my daughter.</p><p>3. You will never be fully accepted into the punjabi community. You just wont. Make sure you are ok with this. You should go ahead and start lifting some weights, because you WILL face the occasional alpha male punjabi man who is gonna want to kick your *** for marrying a punjabi girl. Some people will always resent you for it.</p><p>4. At the end of the day you should focus on yourself and your career. I am about a year away from being a doctor, and I can tell you that indians are absolutely obsessed with doctors. My daughter is marrying a gora sounds bad to parents, my daughter is marrying a gora doctor sounds much much better. Its all about respect and how the family is percieved in the community.</p><p>5. Their are very few resources for learning Punjabi (the language is even dying in punjab) so it can be difficult to talk to her family.</p><p>Now the good stuff.</p><p>1. Once you are accepted by the family, they are amazing. Extremely loyal, protective of you, and always can be relied on. Family is very important to punjabis, and once you are in it is a beautiful thing. I had a very hard time earning the respect of my father in law, but now that I have it I love the man like my own father and he treats me like a son. Hard earned, hard lost.</p><p>2. Indian weddings are fun as hell.</p><p>3. This is the biggest point. Even if you leave this girl, I strongly suggest you learn about the sikh religion. It has perhaps been the greatest gift that I have received from my wife. I think it is the greatest gift punjabis have to bring to the world. I am not saying you need to take amrit and get up at 3:00 am ( i dont ) but the more you learn from the Gurus the more you will love them and the more they will help you lead a good satisfying life. You just have to sift through the BS... the religion is being engulfed by hindu influence and the pure, practical religion that the Gurus taught is sometimes hard to find underneath all the cultural/superstitious baggage.</p><p></p><p>I hope that helped!</p><p>-W</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WWW, post: 159041, member: 15774"] Hi Phil, I am a gora married to a punjabi girl, and I am going to give you some advice based on my experience. It may seem harsh, but its good advice. I try to give it when I hear guys like you, because I remember the feeling. 1. Be a man. Tell her either you are introduced to her family or the relationship is over. She will either respect you for it, break up with you, or you will find out how the family feels and either have to end it / can move forward. In any case this creeping around behind the family's back is not going to earn you respect. If her dad says no, you need to respect his right over her and end it. 2. Strongly consider ending it. Interfaith/cultural marriage is difficult, and I advise against it. It worked for me, but it was a long hard road and you still have to deal with BS. Also, think of the children... what religion will they be? How will they culturally identify? Mixed kids can have a hard life, this is something that I worry about constantly with my daughter. 3. You will never be fully accepted into the punjabi community. You just wont. Make sure you are ok with this. You should go ahead and start lifting some weights, because you WILL face the occasional alpha male punjabi man who is gonna want to kick your *** for marrying a punjabi girl. Some people will always resent you for it. 4. At the end of the day you should focus on yourself and your career. I am about a year away from being a doctor, and I can tell you that indians are absolutely obsessed with doctors. My daughter is marrying a gora sounds bad to parents, my daughter is marrying a gora doctor sounds much much better. Its all about respect and how the family is percieved in the community. 5. Their are very few resources for learning Punjabi (the language is even dying in punjab) so it can be difficult to talk to her family. Now the good stuff. 1. Once you are accepted by the family, they are amazing. Extremely loyal, protective of you, and always can be relied on. Family is very important to punjabis, and once you are in it is a beautiful thing. I had a very hard time earning the respect of my father in law, but now that I have it I love the man like my own father and he treats me like a son. Hard earned, hard lost. 2. Indian weddings are fun as hell. 3. This is the biggest point. Even if you leave this girl, I strongly suggest you learn about the sikh religion. It has perhaps been the greatest gift that I have received from my wife. I think it is the greatest gift punjabis have to bring to the world. I am not saying you need to take amrit and get up at 3:00 am ( i dont ) but the more you learn from the Gurus the more you will love them and the more they will help you lead a good satisfying life. You just have to sift through the BS... the religion is being engulfed by hindu influence and the pure, practical religion that the Gurus taught is sometimes hard to find underneath all the cultural/superstitious baggage. I hope that helped! -W [/QUOTE]
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