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Guru Granth Sahib
Composition, Arrangement & Layout
ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="ActsOfGod" data-source="post: 203879" data-attributes="member: 18366"><p>I know how you feel. It's so difficult to try and be something you're not.</p><p></p><p>Keeping your hair isn't so much about following the rules as it is about love.</p><p></p><p>How do view the drinking/smoking/etc. as sins? Think of it more as cause-and-effect, actions will sow the seed and the you (the sower) will reap the reward.</p><p></p><p>It must be tough on your mother, she has gone through a lot since enduring the loss of your father. I can imagine that it must have been extremely difficult for you as well. Let her know all the things you appreciate about her. She probably feels that if you cut your hair, she will have failed somehow. That will just make her feel even more miserable.</p><p></p><p>I don't know you and don't know what's going on in your life, but I'm willing to bet that deep in your heart, you're a really good guy who will offer help to people who are in need, who is thoughtful and caring, and who is very intelligent and can understand and grasp a lot of things that older people can't.</p><p></p><p>If that is you, then you owe it to yourself to delve a little deeper. Currently you are at the physical/surface level ("keep hair"/"cut hair"). In the grand scheme of things, nothing is going to happen if you cut your hair. You'll look different, which will elicit different responses from people. For a while, you might feel you're free of some perceived burden.</p><p></p><p>But inside, you will feel the same. Your pain, your hurt, the depression, the sadness and loneliness won't magically go away. It won't. So you'll be back to square one, looking for a way to get out of the pain.</p><p></p><p>Alcohol won't solve the problem. Drugs won't solve the problem. Sex won't solve the problem. These things will only numb the pain for a while, and will destroy your body and your life in the process.</p><p></p><p>I think you have a lot of untapped, unrealized potential. I think you are wonderful. I think you are smart, and I believe you have a huge heart and that there's nothing you wouldn't do for a friend in need.</p><p></p><p>Today, you are that friend you need. So be kind to yourself.</p><p></p><p>Before you make a final decision, I would advise that you do a little bit of introspection. Look inside your heart. From that place, talk to Guru Sahib. As if you were talking to your best friend in the world, who understands you totally, and knows all your problems, fears, and hurt. There are no rules when talking with Guru, just be yourself, your real self.</p><p></p><p>Regardless of what decision you make, as you grow, I hope you stay in touch with Sikhi, and I hope you learn more about Sikhi, about Guru Sahibs and about their lives. I hope you take the time to read and understand Gurbani, even if it is just one bani at a time. You will learn things you never knew you never knew<img src="http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/images/smilies/orangeturban.png" alt="" class="fr-fic fr-dii fr-draggable " style="" /></p><p></p><p>Guru Sahib is ever merciful. Unlike any other human being that ever existed, or will ever exist. Guru Sahib is perfect. Guru Sahib does not make mistakes. Guru Sahib is the ocean of peace. Nobody comes away empty-handed from the Guru.</p><p></p><p>All the best!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ActsOfGod, post: 203879, member: 18366"] I know how you feel. It's so difficult to try and be something you're not. Keeping your hair isn't so much about following the rules as it is about love. How do view the drinking/smoking/etc. as sins? Think of it more as cause-and-effect, actions will sow the seed and the you (the sower) will reap the reward. It must be tough on your mother, she has gone through a lot since enduring the loss of your father. I can imagine that it must have been extremely difficult for you as well. Let her know all the things you appreciate about her. She probably feels that if you cut your hair, she will have failed somehow. That will just make her feel even more miserable. I don't know you and don't know what's going on in your life, but I'm willing to bet that deep in your heart, you're a really good guy who will offer help to people who are in need, who is thoughtful and caring, and who is very intelligent and can understand and grasp a lot of things that older people can't. If that is you, then you owe it to yourself to delve a little deeper. Currently you are at the physical/surface level ("keep hair"/"cut hair"). In the grand scheme of things, nothing is going to happen if you cut your hair. You'll look different, which will elicit different responses from people. For a while, you might feel you're free of some perceived burden. But inside, you will feel the same. Your pain, your hurt, the depression, the sadness and loneliness won't magically go away. It won't. So you'll be back to square one, looking for a way to get out of the pain. Alcohol won't solve the problem. Drugs won't solve the problem. Sex won't solve the problem. These things will only numb the pain for a while, and will destroy your body and your life in the process. I think you have a lot of untapped, unrealized potential. I think you are wonderful. I think you are smart, and I believe you have a huge heart and that there's nothing you wouldn't do for a friend in need. Today, you are that friend you need. So be kind to yourself. Before you make a final decision, I would advise that you do a little bit of introspection. Look inside your heart. From that place, talk to Guru Sahib. As if you were talking to your best friend in the world, who understands you totally, and knows all your problems, fears, and hurt. There are no rules when talking with Guru, just be yourself, your real self. Regardless of what decision you make, as you grow, I hope you stay in touch with Sikhi, and I hope you learn more about Sikhi, about Guru Sahibs and about their lives. I hope you take the time to read and understand Gurbani, even if it is just one bani at a time. You will learn things you never knew you never knew[IMG]http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/images/smilies/orangeturban.png[/IMG] Guru Sahib is ever merciful. Unlike any other human being that ever existed, or will ever exist. Guru Sahib is perfect. Guru Sahib does not make mistakes. Guru Sahib is the ocean of peace. Nobody comes away empty-handed from the Guru. All the best! [/QUOTE]
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