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ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="Chaan Pardesi" data-source="post: 182671" data-attributes="member: 7047"><p>Raj, Congratulations for your coming marriage, The Sikh marriage is a very straight forward and simple affair that has been made a very complicated issue by everyone trying to outdo the next person with acts that do not often really constitue part of the Sikh anand karaj union in marriage.</p><p> </p><p>I have just attended a marriage where Sukhmani sahib da path took place one day.Then there was the Mehndi evening the next day.Then sangeet afternoon and evening the next day, with bhatna the next morning.</p><p> </p><p>This was followed by pre wedding dinner the next evening.,Then the barat went up to the North and stayed in a hotel.That same evening was dinner and dance.The next morning was the anand karaj followed by a dinner / lunch party.This was followed by a dinner party the next evening.This was then followed by another bhog to thank waheguru for the successful completion of the whole affair.The whole affair took about 6 days, and I just about had enough, in fact we did not attend one day in between.</p><p> </p><p>This does not include some of the strange pratices I observed and wondered where they had come from.</p><p> </p><p>Just thought, I will share this all.</p><p> </p><p>In Sikh way of life,marriage is not a business deal or simply the meeting of two individuals;but a way of life based on good, sacred and humanitarian conduct for life shared by both individuals.It is not simply a union of two bodies but of two souls.</p><p> </p><p>Mutual equality, explicit understanding and full mutual trust are the prop and pillar of the Anand karaj concept of marriage.</p><p> </p><p>The main factor that adds sanctity to this concept is that it is solemnised under the patronage of eternal and Timeless holy Gurbani, of Guru Granth sahib.The Guru's Exalted authority provides the marrying couple strong base to live disciplined , happy and cheerful life.</p><p> </p><p>If you can understand all that -then things will appear simple and easy and guide you easily.</p><p> </p><p>I know you have asked the whats, and when to do, these are a little more complicated to explain, as the more people you ask, the more you will be told to do.</p><p> </p><p>As I understand many of these do and don'ts are covered under the cultural and ritual aspects -that really have no connection nor meaning in Sikh anand karaj, but nevertheless people will do it; otherwise many will tell you it is not a good shagan if you don't..so I will try and not thread there.I call this jaimala acts-which are really unacceptable acts in Sikhi.</p><p> </p><p> </p><p> </p><p>Like ' lavan before noon'otherwise it is bad shagan is utter nonsense.</p><p> </p><p>There are other issues that would help you and your bride understand why the male leads in the lavan.There has been a great decadence in Sikh society, and unfortunately this has affected the Sikh marriages as well.It would help to understand these and it will help you save expensive money exercise that serve no purpose, like roka ceremonies and the takha .The chunni ceremony is another one that has no place.But people do it, as they witness others do.</p><p> </p><p>The subject is really very wide if we go into detail.The final choices rests upon the individuals and what they prefer and want.</p><p> </p><p>Good luck, I hope I have not confused you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Chaan Pardesi, post: 182671, member: 7047"] Raj, Congratulations for your coming marriage, The Sikh marriage is a very straight forward and simple affair that has been made a very complicated issue by everyone trying to outdo the next person with acts that do not often really constitue part of the Sikh anand karaj union in marriage. I have just attended a marriage where Sukhmani sahib da path took place one day.Then there was the Mehndi evening the next day.Then sangeet afternoon and evening the next day, with bhatna the next morning. This was followed by pre wedding dinner the next evening.,Then the barat went up to the North and stayed in a hotel.That same evening was dinner and dance.The next morning was the anand karaj followed by a dinner / lunch party.This was followed by a dinner party the next evening.This was then followed by another bhog to thank waheguru for the successful completion of the whole affair.The whole affair took about 6 days, and I just about had enough, in fact we did not attend one day in between. This does not include some of the strange pratices I observed and wondered where they had come from. Just thought, I will share this all. In Sikh way of life,marriage is not a business deal or simply the meeting of two individuals;but a way of life based on good, sacred and humanitarian conduct for life shared by both individuals.It is not simply a union of two bodies but of two souls. Mutual equality, explicit understanding and full mutual trust are the prop and pillar of the Anand karaj concept of marriage. The main factor that adds sanctity to this concept is that it is solemnised under the patronage of eternal and Timeless holy Gurbani, of Guru Granth sahib.The Guru's Exalted authority provides the marrying couple strong base to live disciplined , happy and cheerful life. If you can understand all that -then things will appear simple and easy and guide you easily. I know you have asked the whats, and when to do, these are a little more complicated to explain, as the more people you ask, the more you will be told to do. As I understand many of these do and don'ts are covered under the cultural and ritual aspects -that really have no connection nor meaning in Sikh anand karaj, but nevertheless people will do it; otherwise many will tell you it is not a good shagan if you don't..so I will try and not thread there.I call this jaimala acts-which are really unacceptable acts in Sikhi. Like ' lavan before noon'otherwise it is bad shagan is utter nonsense. There are other issues that would help you and your bride understand why the male leads in the lavan.There has been a great decadence in Sikh society, and unfortunately this has affected the Sikh marriages as well.It would help to understand these and it will help you save expensive money exercise that serve no purpose, like roka ceremonies and the takha .The chunni ceremony is another one that has no place.But people do it, as they witness others do. The subject is really very wide if we go into detail.The final choices rests upon the individuals and what they prefer and want. Good luck, I hope I have not confused you. [/QUOTE]
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