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Burnt Roti!

Jan 6, 2005
Metro-Vancouver, B.C., Canada

I remember as a kid that my working mom also used to cook dinner for all of us.

I remember one night in particular, when she cooked dinner after a long, hard day at work.

On that evening mom served a plate of vegetables, dal and a little burnt rotis to of my dad.

I remember waiting to see how Dad reacted!

My dad reached for his roti, smiled at my mom and asked me how my day was at school.

I don't remember what I told him but I do remember watching him smear butter and jelly on that roti and eat every bite!

When I got up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad for burning the roti.

I'll never forget what he said: "Honey, I love burnt rotis."

Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked if he really liked his rotis burnt.

He wrapped me in his arms and said, "Your Mom put in a hard day at work today and she's real tired. Besides a little burnt roti never hurt anyone!"

Life is full of imperfect things.....and imperfect people. I'm not the best at many things.

I also forget birthdays and anniversaries just like many others.

But what I've learnt over the years is to accept each others faults, to choose to tolerate mutual differences - is a very important key to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship.

And that's my prayer for you today.

That you will learn to take the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of your life and lay them at the feet of God.

Because in the end, He's the only One who will be able to give you a relationship where a burnt roti is NOT a deal-breaker!

We could extend this to any relationship.

In fact, understanding is the base of any relationship, be it a husband-wife or parent-child or

brother-sister or friendship!

"Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket - keep it in your own."

So for me a roti, and yes, the burnt one will do Just fine.!.!.!.!

- unknown autor -


1947-2014 (Archived)
Jun 17, 2004
Re: Burnt Roti !

Wonderful to remind ourselves about "a deal-breaker" what is and what is not. Now on to wondering whether the world is changing and along with it the willingness to let some things pass because they are simply not "deal-breakers." Just a thought.
Jan 6, 2005
Metro-Vancouver, B.C., Canada
Re: Burnt Roti !

For a soul that WALKS the spiritual life-path in this era of Kaljug:

Trinity of all "deal-breakers":

lust/addiction, wrath/rage/anger, materialistic greed, attachment/worldly infatuation and ego/pride respectively.


Wisdom (gyan) : is the complete knowledge of a set of religious principles. It can be achieved by hearing good, thinking good and doing good. A man of wisdom tries to achieve a high moral standard in his life and interaction with others. According to Sikhism, the first steps to wisdom is to consider oneself as an ignorant person who has to learn a lot in life.

Truthful Living (sat) : This is more than 'truth'. It means living according to the way of God i.e. the thoughts should match the words that a person speaks and his actions should also match his words. Truthful living brings a person closer to God.

Justice (niaon) : means freedom and equal oppurtunities for all. Respect for the rights of others and strict absence of attempts to exploit a fellowbeing. Sikhism forbids the desire to loot anothers property. It also strictly instructs the Sikhs to show respect even for the women and children of an enemy.

Temperance (santokh) : means self control which has to be developed through meditation and prayers. A Sikh has to banish evil thoughts from his mind by constantly repeating Gods name and reciting prayers. Torture to the body to develop self-control is not advocated in Sikhism.

Patience (dhiraj) : implies a high level of tolerance and empathy for others. It requires control over ones ego and willingness to overlook anothers weakness or mistakes. It requires that a Sikh should be strongwilled, but kind hearted.

Courage (himmat) : means bravery i.e. absence of fear. It is the ability to stake ones life for ones convictions and for saving others from injustice or cruelty.

Humility (namarta) : is a deliberate denial of pleasure at one's own praise and admiration. It means underplaying ones own strengths and respecting the abilities of others. It is the antidote to 'ahankar'

Contentment (sabar) : means refraining from worldly fears and submitting oneself to the will of God. The typical worldly fears can be fear of death, poverty, disrespect and defeat. It is this virtue that has given the Sikhs the moral strength to withstand the various atrocities committed on their community in the last three centuries.



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