Atheist Son Of Sikh Parents Need Advice Asap

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  1. mumsikh

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    i am 18 years old, pursuing computer engineering in a well reputed college in mumbai. i have always had cool friends and supporting parents. but, i've never been a staunch believer in religion. i always find religion to be pointless, following what some person(s) said/wrote hundreds or thousands or years ago and having to follow their rules and the way they want us to lead our lives just doesn't seem right to me at all. i've been smoking weed since a year, and quite regularly. my grades are not affected by,and i've not been as irritable i was since a long time. i never intended to let my parents know about me smoking pot, but nowadays the paranoia associated with weed is taking over the better of me sometimes because of the guilt i feel hiding it from my parents. i have many friends who smoke weed and all of them are really nice people, so why should what i do in my personal life be associated with my morality?
    i really feel smoking weed isn't bad for me but i don't wanna live in hiding from my parents.
    i am a turbaned sikh and my parents are really good role models, just that i do not believe in the same things as me. is there any way i can come off to them and tell them about me smoking the jane?
     
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  3. Tejwant Singh

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    OK. So, what's your point?
    How can we be of any help?
     
  4. mumsikh

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    my point is what do y'all sikhs on this forum think about being in my parents' shoes and what do you think is wrong in what i am doing. i really just want to start a dialogue with my parents on this but i don't really understand sikhism, so i wanna know know another sikh's point of view
     
  5. Tejwant Singh

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    We do not judge anyone here. This is between you and your parents. I have no idea if all the Atheists smoke weed. You have to learn how to manage and conduct your life in a fruitful manner for your own sake. Sikhi has nothing to do with your situation.
     
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  6. sukhsingh

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    Bro I don't understand the problem?
    You have a disconnect between your views and your parents.. But that is not what you are actually talking about.
    You seem to be unhappy about the conflict between the way you live and the way you project yourself vis a vis your parents..
    You make some interesting points
    1. You don't believe in religion because it was written hundreds of years ago... Just think about that.
    You are a computer engineer in training, so must therefore believe in rational logical thought, mathematics all of which are predicated on a body of knowledge developed over thousands of years

    2. You seem to be saying that your parents don't understand you.
    What have you done to articulate your feelings?
    Seems like you don't want to challenge the status quo.. If that is your truth then what you scared of
     
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  7. RicktheSikh

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    Be brave tell the truth
     
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  8. ActsOfGod

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    My recommendation is that you take some time and learn about Sikhism. Treat this project like any other class you might take in college. Take it seriously, devote some time regularly (e.g. an hour a day) and be diligent and earnest and focused, and learn about Sikhi. It is true what you state, that you don't really understand Sikhism. I will daresay that all your problems stem from this ignorance.

    A little spoiler here: it's not what you think it is.

    All the best for your future. Guru Sahib kirpa karan!
    [AoG]
     
  9. Sikhilove

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    Weed has negative effects on a human if taken as an intoxicant. It ruins lives, relationships, jobs etc.

    Of course you should stop, but it's up to you, we're free to do what we want.
     

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