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ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="Naamsimiran" data-source="post: 159865" data-attributes="member: 16792"><p>Fatheh Ji</p><p></p><p>As for women who are getting bullied:</p><p></p><p>- perhaps get in touch with South Asian women centres that help with such cases.</p><p> </p><p>- don't feel guilty about 'bring shame' - as it is not your fault.</p><p></p><p>- if you can, yes do stand up. If you get physically abused for this... then there are laws in this country which will protect you.</p><p></p><p>- if you have a good relationship with your husband and the mother-in-law is the problem, talk to them, The husbands need to stand up to their mother as any mental, physical, verbal abuse is against Sikh principles and just principles of humanity.</p><p></p><p>- it is not just the role of the husband or the women being bullied, if you are part of a family where this is going on, stop fearing 'shame' and do something about it. You can ring the police anonymously or get help from South Asian help groups on their behalf. Ring up for them or give them the number to ring (see below for links).</p><p></p><p>- If it is really bad for the women, then she really needs to get out of the situation and other family members need to help her do this. We can't continue to let this happen.</p><p></p><p>- The women needs to find people within the family who will be on her side or even a friend. And if someone in this situation comes to you - help them.</p><p></p><p>Something needs to be set up in Gudwaras to deal with this too. Forums or help centres.</p><p></p><p>Some good websites for women in this situation:</p><p></p><p>SAWNET</p><p><a href="http://www.sawnet.org/orgns/violence.php" target="_blank">http://www.sawnet.org/orgns/violence.php</a></p><p></p><p>The SHARAN Project</p><p><a href="http://www.sharan.org.uk/" target="_blank">http://www.sharan.org.uk/</a></p><p></p><p>Women's Aid:</p><p><a href="http://www.womensaid.org.uk/?gclid=CLjBuIDW8q0CFQcNtAodnkGEsA" target="_blank">http://www.womensaid.org.uk/?gclid=CLjBuIDW8q0CFQcNtAodnkGEsA</a></p><p></p><p>Sakhi</p><p><a href="http://www.sakhi.org/#" target="_blank">http://www.sakhi.org/#</a> (New york)</p><p></p><p>Refuge</p><p><a href="http://refuge.org.uk/about-us/what-we-do/asian-services/" target="_blank">http://refuge.org.uk/about-us/what-we-do/asian-services/</a></p><p></p><p>Apologies again if I have made any mistakes in what I have said. I just feel passionately about this and it needs to stop. Lets not remain passive, but take action like our Gurus did.</p><p></p><p>Guru Nanak came from a Hindu family. Did he fear the 'shame' that his father may have felt in his community when Guru Ji went against Hindu rituals, like tying a black thread around your wrist? Can you imagine if Guru Nanak did fear the 'shame' he might bring, we would not have Sikhi!</p><p></p><p>I am also not just saying this with mere words. I have supported many women to find ways either not to get themselves into a marriage they didn't want or supported them in a difficult situation. </p><p></p><p>Sometimes we argue and say well they were Gurus. <u>But we forget the Guru's light is within us. </u><u>So lets use it.</u></p><p></p><p>Stand up to it or help others to stand up. Support each other.</p><p></p><p>Sat Nam.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Naamsimiran, post: 159865, member: 16792"] Fatheh Ji As for women who are getting bullied: - perhaps get in touch with South Asian women centres that help with such cases. - don't feel guilty about 'bring shame' - as it is not your fault. - if you can, yes do stand up. If you get physically abused for this... then there are laws in this country which will protect you. - if you have a good relationship with your husband and the mother-in-law is the problem, talk to them, The husbands need to stand up to their mother as any mental, physical, verbal abuse is against Sikh principles and just principles of humanity. - it is not just the role of the husband or the women being bullied, if you are part of a family where this is going on, stop fearing 'shame' and do something about it. You can ring the police anonymously or get help from South Asian help groups on their behalf. Ring up for them or give them the number to ring (see below for links). - If it is really bad for the women, then she really needs to get out of the situation and other family members need to help her do this. We can't continue to let this happen. - The women needs to find people within the family who will be on her side or even a friend. And if someone in this situation comes to you - help them. Something needs to be set up in Gudwaras to deal with this too. Forums or help centres. Some good websites for women in this situation: SAWNET [url]http://www.sawnet.org/orgns/violence.php[/url] The SHARAN Project [url]http://www.sharan.org.uk/[/url] Women's Aid: [url]http://www.womensaid.org.uk/?gclid=CLjBuIDW8q0CFQcNtAodnkGEsA[/url] Sakhi [url]http://www.sakhi.org/#[/url] (New york) Refuge [url]http://refuge.org.uk/about-us/what-we-do/asian-services/[/url] Apologies again if I have made any mistakes in what I have said. I just feel passionately about this and it needs to stop. Lets not remain passive, but take action like our Gurus did. Guru Nanak came from a Hindu family. Did he fear the 'shame' that his father may have felt in his community when Guru Ji went against Hindu rituals, like tying a black thread around your wrist? Can you imagine if Guru Nanak did fear the 'shame' he might bring, we would not have Sikhi! I am also not just saying this with mere words. I have supported many women to find ways either not to get themselves into a marriage they didn't want or supported them in a difficult situation. Sometimes we argue and say well they were Gurus. [U]But we forget the Guru's light is within us. [/U][U]So lets use it.[/U] Stand up to it or help others to stand up. Support each other. Sat Nam. [/QUOTE]
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