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ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="Naamsimiran" data-source="post: 159852" data-attributes="member: 16792"><p>Wahe Guru Ji Ka Khalsa Wahe Guru Ji Ke Fateh</p><p></p><p>I am not completely sure its part of a women's DNA. I think we need to look at other factors if we are going to move on as a community Ji. If we just in point this on DNA, it means women and men don't have a choice or can not become aware of their actions, either through meditation/prayer or psychological analyses. </p><p></p><p>I personally think it is to do with the level of frustration and unhappiness a women feels and other factors. </p><p></p><p>1. As most women get a hard time, either in India or the UK, and the level of power is minimal until they become an elder or mother in law / sister in law, they exert their power fully and abuse it. There then becomes a cycle, where as daughter in laws become mother in laws, they carry out the same kind of nastiness.</p><p></p><p>2. If one is frustrated with ones life, either because certain choices are made for them or have been taken away, or have been abused, the mind gets bitter and wishes to unleash its frustrations on others. I have seen this happen many times. Where even the nicest of women, have become quite nasty, because really inside they are unhappy.</p><p></p><p>3. If an arrange marriage takes place where neither party is really happy with it, both male and female again feel that sense of bitterness. The man may turn to drink or unfortunately find someone else, the women is resentful and turns into something she may not have initially wanted to be. Arrange marriages work for some, but can be very destructive too, especially if both involved don't really want one and may have been nudged, guilt tripped, coerced into having one. </p><p></p><p>4. Men can also be very nasty to each other. They put each other down and also bully each other. So is this their DNA?, for both men and women, also ego comes into play e.g 'I am better than you' , 'my children are doing something better than yours etc'. When Indian's migrate to England through marriage or other means, especially if they come from a a poor family, and they do well in England it is difficult to be aware of the ego, as they had so little and want to rejoice, but perhaps do not really know how, but to show off. Others who are wealthy, and because we are so hung up on status, show off anyway. Again all this is to do with the ego.</p><p></p><p>5. Also their is a huge sense of fear in our communities, built up through various avenues, so people take this out on each other. </p><p></p><p>As Yoda says in Star Wars 'Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering'.</p><p></p><p>So I don't think its black and white. Also I feel it is more useful to look at the bigger picture so change can take place. Questions we could ask ourselves as a community may be:</p><p></p><p>1. Are there factors that are affecting men and women's well being that we can do something about?</p><p>2. Are all arranged/forced marriages OK? Are both people really wanting it?</p><p>3. Why are our women unhappy? (apart from the separation from Waheguru)</p><p>4. Why are men unhappy? (apart from the separation from Waheguru)</p><p>5. Are there ways of getting women to talk about the bullying? And men to talk about it?</p><p>6. Instead of focusing on egotistical gains, how can we improve our communities and or wider communities?</p><p></p><p>Anyway that is my humble opinion. Apologies if I offended anyone.</p><p></p><p>Sat Naam. icecreamkaur</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Naamsimiran, post: 159852, member: 16792"] Wahe Guru Ji Ka Khalsa Wahe Guru Ji Ke Fateh I am not completely sure its part of a women's DNA. I think we need to look at other factors if we are going to move on as a community Ji. If we just in point this on DNA, it means women and men don't have a choice or can not become aware of their actions, either through meditation/prayer or psychological analyses. I personally think it is to do with the level of frustration and unhappiness a women feels and other factors. 1. As most women get a hard time, either in India or the UK, and the level of power is minimal until they become an elder or mother in law / sister in law, they exert their power fully and abuse it. There then becomes a cycle, where as daughter in laws become mother in laws, they carry out the same kind of nastiness. 2. If one is frustrated with ones life, either because certain choices are made for them or have been taken away, or have been abused, the mind gets bitter and wishes to unleash its frustrations on others. I have seen this happen many times. Where even the nicest of women, have become quite nasty, because really inside they are unhappy. 3. If an arrange marriage takes place where neither party is really happy with it, both male and female again feel that sense of bitterness. The man may turn to drink or unfortunately find someone else, the women is resentful and turns into something she may not have initially wanted to be. Arrange marriages work for some, but can be very destructive too, especially if both involved don't really want one and may have been nudged, guilt tripped, coerced into having one. 4. Men can also be very nasty to each other. They put each other down and also bully each other. So is this their DNA?, for both men and women, also ego comes into play e.g 'I am better than you' , 'my children are doing something better than yours etc'. When Indian's migrate to England through marriage or other means, especially if they come from a a poor family, and they do well in England it is difficult to be aware of the ego, as they had so little and want to rejoice, but perhaps do not really know how, but to show off. Others who are wealthy, and because we are so hung up on status, show off anyway. Again all this is to do with the ego. 5. Also their is a huge sense of fear in our communities, built up through various avenues, so people take this out on each other. As Yoda says in Star Wars 'Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering'. So I don't think its black and white. Also I feel it is more useful to look at the bigger picture so change can take place. Questions we could ask ourselves as a community may be: 1. Are there factors that are affecting men and women's well being that we can do something about? 2. Are all arranged/forced marriages OK? Are both people really wanting it? 3. Why are our women unhappy? (apart from the separation from Waheguru) 4. Why are men unhappy? (apart from the separation from Waheguru) 5. Are there ways of getting women to talk about the bullying? And men to talk about it? 6. Instead of focusing on egotistical gains, how can we improve our communities and or wider communities? Anyway that is my humble opinion. Apologies if I offended anyone. Sat Naam. icecreamkaur [/QUOTE]
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