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ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="chazSingh" data-source="post: 163012" data-attributes="member: 17409"><p>Satnaam Confused Ji,</p><p> </p><p>You make some very valid points.</p><p> </p><p>Life is a constant evaluation of oneself...I spent most of my life blaming things on others...looking for outwardly reasons for everything...sometimes blaming god.</p><p>God has put me in some testing situations...and i honestly believe if it wasnt for my now love and dedication for Simran that I would have reacted in many situations with Anger, Hate, Ego etc etc...</p><p> </p><p>I spent 3 years of my life 'looking for a wife' my parents were actively looking...i was meeting girls with a view to getting married. I thought of myself as religious...went to the gurdwara...etc etc my view was that i was a really nice guy that didnt do much wrong....and i was seeking similar attributes in a wife to myself.</p><p> </p><p>When i eventually got married, my now wifes character started to come out...she wasnt interested in God, infact she stated she 'hates' the thought of god. She once screamed out "what will you find in that big book of ours". She's now stated she wants to cut the hair of any future kids because she "cannot be bothered with the hassle", she doesnt want to go to the temple...or do any Seva... she's very self centered. I started to wonder what i have done to get into such a relationship. I've been threatened by her family because she complained to them that we don't have enough money (when we do). </p><p> </p><p>you see marriage is there so that you can come face to face with your own negatives. Theres no escaping it...marriage is like a mirror.</p><p>In anger my wife has shouted "you think you're religious, but you've not done this...and you dont do that...and sometimes you can come across like this and that" </p><p>I could have reacted in anger...got involved in many arguments but i started to self evaluate...rather than look at my wifes negatives...i realised i wasnt putting the effort in to do Simran, wasnt doing much Seva at all, wasnt sharing my earning with people that are in need.... i was static...she pointed out so many of my negatives..</p><p> </p><p>So i started a regular daily Simran/meditaton...i'm always looking for ways to do Seva now, and to start giving more... meeting my wife has been a blessing...she is a blessing..</p><p> </p><p>But, we are completely different characters at the moment. I almost have a seperate life to her (in terms of my spirituality)...what do I do?</p><p> </p><p>Do i run, have a divorce? nope...i put my faith in guru Ji that whatever situation he puts me into i will accept...and in the meantime i will continue my Simran, Seva (which is also to serve my wife) and to share with others. good can come out of any situation that may appear bad.</p><p> </p><p>In one situation, my wife had a 2 hour bout of Extreme Anger...she was throwing things, breaking things, shouting the most disgusting abuse...and all i did was sit there...in complete calm, observing....she threatened to leave me for the 5th time...so i picked up a small suitcase and gently started putting her clothes into it.</p><p> </p><p>She stopped...and there was a deafening silence...she asked what i was doing...</p><p>I said..."you seem really unhappy and keep threatening to leave...i;ll help you pack your bags...this is not a prison, you're free to leave anytime..."</p><p> </p><p>Since that day her anger has subsided...her threats of leaving have dissapeared.</p><p> </p><p>for me this is all the power of simran....to reduce attachment...the fear of losing something, to subdue anger, jelousey, desire <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p> </p><p> </p><p>God bless all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="chazSingh, post: 163012, member: 17409"] Satnaam Confused Ji, You make some very valid points. Life is a constant evaluation of oneself...I spent most of my life blaming things on others...looking for outwardly reasons for everything...sometimes blaming god. God has put me in some testing situations...and i honestly believe if it wasnt for my now love and dedication for Simran that I would have reacted in many situations with Anger, Hate, Ego etc etc... I spent 3 years of my life 'looking for a wife' my parents were actively looking...i was meeting girls with a view to getting married. I thought of myself as religious...went to the gurdwara...etc etc my view was that i was a really nice guy that didnt do much wrong....and i was seeking similar attributes in a wife to myself. When i eventually got married, my now wifes character started to come out...she wasnt interested in God, infact she stated she 'hates' the thought of god. She once screamed out "what will you find in that big book of ours". She's now stated she wants to cut the hair of any future kids because she "cannot be bothered with the hassle", she doesnt want to go to the temple...or do any Seva... she's very self centered. I started to wonder what i have done to get into such a relationship. I've been threatened by her family because she complained to them that we don't have enough money (when we do). you see marriage is there so that you can come face to face with your own negatives. Theres no escaping it...marriage is like a mirror. In anger my wife has shouted "you think you're religious, but you've not done this...and you dont do that...and sometimes you can come across like this and that" I could have reacted in anger...got involved in many arguments but i started to self evaluate...rather than look at my wifes negatives...i realised i wasnt putting the effort in to do Simran, wasnt doing much Seva at all, wasnt sharing my earning with people that are in need.... i was static...she pointed out so many of my negatives.. So i started a regular daily Simran/meditaton...i'm always looking for ways to do Seva now, and to start giving more... meeting my wife has been a blessing...she is a blessing.. But, we are completely different characters at the moment. I almost have a seperate life to her (in terms of my spirituality)...what do I do? Do i run, have a divorce? nope...i put my faith in guru Ji that whatever situation he puts me into i will accept...and in the meantime i will continue my Simran, Seva (which is also to serve my wife) and to share with others. good can come out of any situation that may appear bad. In one situation, my wife had a 2 hour bout of Extreme Anger...she was throwing things, breaking things, shouting the most disgusting abuse...and all i did was sit there...in complete calm, observing....she threatened to leave me for the 5th time...so i picked up a small suitcase and gently started putting her clothes into it. She stopped...and there was a deafening silence...she asked what i was doing... I said..."you seem really unhappy and keep threatening to leave...i;ll help you pack your bags...this is not a prison, you're free to leave anytime..." Since that day her anger has subsided...her threats of leaving have dissapeared. for me this is all the power of simran....to reduce attachment...the fear of losing something, to subdue anger, jelousey, desire :) God bless all. [/QUOTE]
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