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<blockquote data-quote="Siri Kamala" data-source="post: 138306" data-attributes="member: 13802"><p>Sat Sri Akal, Sardip Singh ji,</p><p></p><p>Truthfully and humbly, none of us here can know what it is like to walk in this woman's shoes or the shoes of any other woman struggling with this problem. It may, for whatever reason, be incredibly embarrassing or even disabling to her to have a noticeable amount of unwanted hair on her face. It may prevent her from being hired for a job she might otherwise enjoy and be highly qualified for. It might prevent her from being in a relationship that might otherwise bring her and the other person great joy. It's easy to say, "Oh, well if the hiring manager / potential mate is so shallow as to not be able to see past some facial hair on a woman she doesn't want to pursue that anyway." </p><p></p><p>I do not think that is a fair, kind, or empathetic attitude to take. We all have to coexist with other people in the real world, not the ideal world, and in the real world, people make positive or negative judgments about us based in part on their first impression of our physical appearance.</p><p></p><p>Here are my thoughts -- and I want to start first with two questions that I realize you may not be able to answer b/c this is a friend of your relative and not someone you know well personally, but really these would be good questions to answer for *any* female (Sikh or otherwise) who is struggling with unwanted facial hair:</p><p></p><p>1) How long has she had this problem? Was it an issue for her even as a child or is it something that she has only started to experience later in life? If it was a problem as a child it may be more of a hereditary issue. If later in life it may be a symptom of PCOS (Polycystic Ovary Syndrome)</p><p></p><p>2) Has she seen a physician, specifically a *specialist* who understands hormonal and metabolic imbalances -- an <strong>endocrinologist</strong> -- who can thoroughly evaluate her situation and see if there may be some sort of imbalance that is causing this problem?</p><p></p><p>If not, she may want to look into making an appointment with such a specialist as there may be a hormonal therapy that could correct the imbalance naturally such that she would not need to remove the hair -- it would go away on its own with the proper treatment. There's an excellent article about this here:</p><p><a href="http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/521355" target="_blank">http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/521355</a></p><p></p><p>This insistence that all hair must remain untouched, no matter what, "<em>because it's natural</em>" is a straw man argument. Our bodies do all manner of "natural" things that are unsightly, undesirable, unhealthy, or even deadly. Using that logic, hey, cancer is natural so we should allow it to run its course and not fight it with chemotherapy or surgery. And God forbid we should have to shave someone's head or body in preparation for that surgery, right?</p><p></p><p>Do you see how quickly that argument degenerates into absurdity?</p><p></p><p>As someone pointed out in another forum on this same topic:</p><p></p><p></p><p>Furthermore, I believe this is a moot point as <strong><em>kesh</em></strong> only refers to the long hair found on the head on both males and females and on the faces of males. It does not refer to body hair. The proper Punjabi word for that is valha. If the Guru had meant for us not to touch the valha specifically, I'm sure that would have been mentioned but it was not, to my knowledge. Please correct me if I am wrong on that count.</p><p></p><p>Personally, I think God cares far more about what's going on *inside* my head than what's going on *outside* it. I don't need to wear a uniform that identifies me as God's Own Forever. I don't need to be able to read or speak in a secret code that no one outside of 17th Century Punjab could really understand. God meets me where I am because I am God's child and I am too weak and small to fully meet God where God is. And so it is for all of us.</p><p></p><p>I am reminded here of a lovely song I learned back when I was a Christian by a lady named Nichole Nordemann. It's called "Small Enough" and I think there are parts of it that speak to anyone who loves and believes in The One God:</p><p></p><p><em>All praise and all the honor be </em></p><p><em>To the God of ancient mysteries </em></p><p><em>Whose every sign and wonder </em></p><p><em>Turn the pages of our history, </em></p><p><em>But tonight my heart is heavy </em></p><p><em>And I cannot keep from whispering this prayer: </em></p><p><em>"Are You there?"</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>And I know You could leave writing on the wall that's just for me </em></p><p><em>Or send wisdom while I'm sleeping, like in Solomon's sweet dreams </em></p><p><em>But I don't need the strength of Samson or a chariot in the end </em></p><p><em>Just want to know that You still know how many hairs are on my head </em></p><p><em>Oh great God, be small enough to hear me now...</em></p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 9px">If anyone is interested in hearing the song it's available here:</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 9px"><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_r5u5-Wc-vo" target="_blank">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_r5u5-Wc-vo</a></span></p><p></p><p>It still gives me goosebumps every time I listen to it -- it's just that lovely. <img src="/images/smilies/sikhsmileys/happykudi.jpg" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":happykudi:" title="Happykudi :happykudi:" data-shortname=":happykudi:" /></p><p></p><p>So yes, God is in me, and God is small enough to know how many hairs are on my head. And God is also big enough to know that what I do with my hair says little or nothing of consequence about <em>what is in my heart</em>. I very much respect anyone who wishes to keep kesh and I will actively fight for their right to do so. But by that same token I do not believe it is necessary to keep kesh for God to know me, to feel the devotion that is in my heart,...or for me to connect with The Divine. My :2cents: , humbly submitted. gingerteakaur</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Siri Kamala, post: 138306, member: 13802"] Sat Sri Akal, Sardip Singh ji, Truthfully and humbly, none of us here can know what it is like to walk in this woman's shoes or the shoes of any other woman struggling with this problem. It may, for whatever reason, be incredibly embarrassing or even disabling to her to have a noticeable amount of unwanted hair on her face. It may prevent her from being hired for a job she might otherwise enjoy and be highly qualified for. It might prevent her from being in a relationship that might otherwise bring her and the other person great joy. It's easy to say, "Oh, well if the hiring manager / potential mate is so shallow as to not be able to see past some facial hair on a woman she doesn't want to pursue that anyway." I do not think that is a fair, kind, or empathetic attitude to take. We all have to coexist with other people in the real world, not the ideal world, and in the real world, people make positive or negative judgments about us based in part on their first impression of our physical appearance. Here are my thoughts -- and I want to start first with two questions that I realize you may not be able to answer b/c this is a friend of your relative and not someone you know well personally, but really these would be good questions to answer for *any* female (Sikh or otherwise) who is struggling with unwanted facial hair: 1) How long has she had this problem? Was it an issue for her even as a child or is it something that she has only started to experience later in life? If it was a problem as a child it may be more of a hereditary issue. If later in life it may be a symptom of PCOS (Polycystic Ovary Syndrome) 2) Has she seen a physician, specifically a *specialist* who understands hormonal and metabolic imbalances -- an [B]endocrinologist[/B] -- who can thoroughly evaluate her situation and see if there may be some sort of imbalance that is causing this problem? If not, she may want to look into making an appointment with such a specialist as there may be a hormonal therapy that could correct the imbalance naturally such that she would not need to remove the hair -- it would go away on its own with the proper treatment. There's an excellent article about this here: [URL="http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/521355"]http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/521355[/URL] This insistence that all hair must remain untouched, no matter what, "[I]because it's natural[/I]" is a straw man argument. Our bodies do all manner of "natural" things that are unsightly, undesirable, unhealthy, or even deadly. Using that logic, hey, cancer is natural so we should allow it to run its course and not fight it with chemotherapy or surgery. And God forbid we should have to shave someone's head or body in preparation for that surgery, right? Do you see how quickly that argument degenerates into absurdity? As someone pointed out in another forum on this same topic: Furthermore, I believe this is a moot point as [B][I]kesh[/I][/B] only refers to the long hair found on the head on both males and females and on the faces of males. It does not refer to body hair. The proper Punjabi word for that is valha. If the Guru had meant for us not to touch the valha specifically, I'm sure that would have been mentioned but it was not, to my knowledge. Please correct me if I am wrong on that count. Personally, I think God cares far more about what's going on *inside* my head than what's going on *outside* it. I don't need to wear a uniform that identifies me as God's Own Forever. I don't need to be able to read or speak in a secret code that no one outside of 17th Century Punjab could really understand. God meets me where I am because I am God's child and I am too weak and small to fully meet God where God is. And so it is for all of us. I am reminded here of a lovely song I learned back when I was a Christian by a lady named Nichole Nordemann. It's called "Small Enough" and I think there are parts of it that speak to anyone who loves and believes in The One God: [I]All praise and all the honor be To the God of ancient mysteries Whose every sign and wonder Turn the pages of our history, But tonight my heart is heavy And I cannot keep from whispering this prayer: "Are You there?" And I know You could leave writing on the wall that's just for me Or send wisdom while I'm sleeping, like in Solomon's sweet dreams But I don't need the strength of Samson or a chariot in the end Just want to know that You still know how many hairs are on my head Oh great God, be small enough to hear me now...[/I] [SIZE="1"]If anyone is interested in hearing the song it's available here: [url="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_r5u5-Wc-vo"]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_r5u5-Wc-vo[/url][/SIZE] It still gives me goosebumps every time I listen to it -- it's just that lovely. :happykudi: So yes, God is in me, and God is small enough to know how many hairs are on my head. And God is also big enough to know that what I do with my hair says little or nothing of consequence about [I]what is in my heart[/I]. I very much respect anyone who wishes to keep kesh and I will actively fight for their right to do so. But by that same token I do not believe it is necessary to keep kesh for God to know me, to feel the devotion that is in my heart,...or for me to connect with The Divine. My :2cents: , humbly submitted. gingerteakaur [/QUOTE]
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