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<blockquote data-quote="Harkiran Kaur" data-source="post: 192286" data-attributes="member: 18224"><p>Where we differ is that I don't see domestic chores as 'womanly' I see them just as chores that both a husband and wife can do together. And I don't really think that the things I do should be considered as just for men... why do we need to keep assigning gender to everything?? WHy can't tasks just be.... tasks??? </p><p></p><p>I feel my contribution to the Navy is as good as any other sailor. Why does it have to be considered that I am trying to 'be a man'?? When I go to sea, none of us on the submarine think about gender at all... we just become 'crew mates' I have always had an innate drive to be where the action is, to want to jump into that action and help. Even in my hobbies it shows... I volunteer as a medical responder. To me, the adrenaline rush of emergency medicine, and the feeling I get when I actually get to help someone in a emergency... to me I prefer that to say - babysitting or personal care work. </p><p></p><p>I have always been more drawn to that stuff than staying behind the lines, at home, and doing domestic work. I guess I feel like I am not using my brain as much with that stuff... it's just hugely mundane to me. I actually thrive in stressful situations and situations where I have to think quick. For example, standing as watch leader on the submarine in the sonar section... I get to yell on the 'net' calling out contacts and urgent reports, and the feeling when I successfully direct the sound room team, guys working under me and get fast paced reports out to command that could save the submarine feels amazing! Like a huge accomplishment that I worked very hard for!!!</p><p></p><p>Cleaning the toilet... not so much! I just don't get the same feeling of accomplishment. Don't get me wrong... I do keep my place clean!! I just don't feel the same sense of accomplishment, perseverance, etc as compared to something I worked really hard for. </p><p></p><p>I guess my problem with gender roles... in the traditional sense... is that men were the ones who always got to feel that sense of accomplishment. They were the only ones who got to challenge themselves with difficult tasks that required studying, hard work etc. They were the only ones who got any recognition... and that's why women were seen as not being able to vote even until recent times. Women were seen as simple, not smart, not capable... all because they were limited to simple domestic chores and not allowed to grow and develop themselves and challenge themselves. Society as a whole is better now because women have been able to contribute in very meaningful ways, like advances in medicine, science, etc! And there are women fighter pilots, astronauts (and btw women consistently score higher in men in tracking multiple enemy aircraft and engaging them when flying fighter jets - something about that multitasking ability!). </p><p></p><p>I also disagree that a child can't be loved and properly cared for when both parents work. I think it's the choice of the parents and their situation, but any that I know, still spend tons of time with their kids and love them to death. They have every evening and weekend and do things as a family. Both parents chip in on housework and both have great careers. Also, I have seen it where the woman works and the husband decided to stay home because she made more income and it made sense. They are also happy with their situations. The hubby uses a lot of the time to work in his shop at home doing carpentry making cabinets etc. </p><p></p><p>I'm not all 'tom boy' I suppose some 'feminine' things I like are the colour pink... pretty salwar kameez... shopping... feminine scents in a bubble bath etc. I do wear a little bit of makeup sometimes... not caked on or anything just a bit of flavoured lip gloss and a brow pencil (since I don't pluck my brows it shapes them better). Definitely shopping... but I prefer shopping for techy gadgets over shoes etc. lol. </p><p></p><p>I just think that whether a woman is domestic or career oriented, should be her choice and if she chooses a career she shouldn't be seen as trying to 'be a man' SAme as I think the men who stay home with kids shouldn't be seen as being emasculated.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Harkiran Kaur, post: 192286, member: 18224"] Where we differ is that I don't see domestic chores as 'womanly' I see them just as chores that both a husband and wife can do together. And I don't really think that the things I do should be considered as just for men... why do we need to keep assigning gender to everything?? WHy can't tasks just be.... tasks??? I feel my contribution to the Navy is as good as any other sailor. Why does it have to be considered that I am trying to 'be a man'?? When I go to sea, none of us on the submarine think about gender at all... we just become 'crew mates' I have always had an innate drive to be where the action is, to want to jump into that action and help. Even in my hobbies it shows... I volunteer as a medical responder. To me, the adrenaline rush of emergency medicine, and the feeling I get when I actually get to help someone in a emergency... to me I prefer that to say - babysitting or personal care work. I have always been more drawn to that stuff than staying behind the lines, at home, and doing domestic work. I guess I feel like I am not using my brain as much with that stuff... it's just hugely mundane to me. I actually thrive in stressful situations and situations where I have to think quick. For example, standing as watch leader on the submarine in the sonar section... I get to yell on the 'net' calling out contacts and urgent reports, and the feeling when I successfully direct the sound room team, guys working under me and get fast paced reports out to command that could save the submarine feels amazing! Like a huge accomplishment that I worked very hard for!!! Cleaning the toilet... not so much! I just don't get the same feeling of accomplishment. Don't get me wrong... I do keep my place clean!! I just don't feel the same sense of accomplishment, perseverance, etc as compared to something I worked really hard for. I guess my problem with gender roles... in the traditional sense... is that men were the ones who always got to feel that sense of accomplishment. They were the only ones who got to challenge themselves with difficult tasks that required studying, hard work etc. They were the only ones who got any recognition... and that's why women were seen as not being able to vote even until recent times. Women were seen as simple, not smart, not capable... all because they were limited to simple domestic chores and not allowed to grow and develop themselves and challenge themselves. Society as a whole is better now because women have been able to contribute in very meaningful ways, like advances in medicine, science, etc! And there are women fighter pilots, astronauts (and btw women consistently score higher in men in tracking multiple enemy aircraft and engaging them when flying fighter jets - something about that multitasking ability!). I also disagree that a child can't be loved and properly cared for when both parents work. I think it's the choice of the parents and their situation, but any that I know, still spend tons of time with their kids and love them to death. They have every evening and weekend and do things as a family. Both parents chip in on housework and both have great careers. Also, I have seen it where the woman works and the husband decided to stay home because she made more income and it made sense. They are also happy with their situations. The hubby uses a lot of the time to work in his shop at home doing carpentry making cabinets etc. I'm not all 'tom boy' I suppose some 'feminine' things I like are the colour pink... pretty salwar kameez... shopping... feminine scents in a bubble bath etc. I do wear a little bit of makeup sometimes... not caked on or anything just a bit of flavoured lip gloss and a brow pencil (since I don't pluck my brows it shapes them better). Definitely shopping... but I prefer shopping for techy gadgets over shoes etc. lol. I just think that whether a woman is domestic or career oriented, should be her choice and if she chooses a career she shouldn't be seen as trying to 'be a man' SAme as I think the men who stay home with kids shouldn't be seen as being emasculated. [/QUOTE]
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