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<blockquote data-quote="Harkiran Kaur" data-source="post: 192132" data-attributes="member: 18224"><p>This question was brought on by reading in another thread... the idea of 'femininity' which may in that case have been taken out of context, but this is something I have always wondered about.</p><p> </p><p>What are your thughts on the interaction of a husband and wife and what is expected of each? </p><p> </p><p>I have seen both extremes and everywhere in between, but the majority of Sikh couples I know, fall into the "husband says what goes, and she must blindly obey without question and be subservient to him" camp. I have seen this go very badly too... to the point where if she disobeyed at all, he became abusive and they are now separated (They are here in North America). I do realize in many cases this is result of Indian society in general and not Sikhi. But Indian culture in general, does permeate the psyche of many Sikh families. </p><p> </p><p>So... do most Sikh women hand over their autonomy all together at the marriage door? Do they become 'doormats' essentially to their husbands? Sikh men, do you expect your wife to obey you without question in all things... 100% of the time? If so, what about her needs, and her desires, her happiness??</p><p> </p><p>Wouldn't a marriage like that result in him being happy 100% of the time and her life being miserable having to cater to all his needs all the time, at the detriment of her own happiness?? Isn't marriage (in the Sikh sense) supposed to be an equal partnership where husband and wife work as a team on even ground... to the point of being one soul in two bodies? That to me implies equality, and not a dominant / submissive type relationship. </p><p> </p><p>As I said I have seen the other way too... where the wife says what goes and she hold the puppet strings of her husband... but this doesn't seem to be the norm. It seems far more common that the woman is expected to be subservient and fully obedient. </p><p> </p><p>Growing old alone in that case, sounds possibly a better option for women in the end.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Harkiran Kaur, post: 192132, member: 18224"] This question was brought on by reading in another thread... the idea of 'femininity' which may in that case have been taken out of context, but this is something I have always wondered about. What are your thughts on the interaction of a husband and wife and what is expected of each? I have seen both extremes and everywhere in between, but the majority of Sikh couples I know, fall into the "husband says what goes, and she must blindly obey without question and be subservient to him" camp. I have seen this go very badly too... to the point where if she disobeyed at all, he became abusive and they are now separated (They are here in North America). I do realize in many cases this is result of Indian society in general and not Sikhi. But Indian culture in general, does permeate the psyche of many Sikh families. So... do most Sikh women hand over their autonomy all together at the marriage door? Do they become 'doormats' essentially to their husbands? Sikh men, do you expect your wife to obey you without question in all things... 100% of the time? If so, what about her needs, and her desires, her happiness?? Wouldn't a marriage like that result in him being happy 100% of the time and her life being miserable having to cater to all his needs all the time, at the detriment of her own happiness?? Isn't marriage (in the Sikh sense) supposed to be an equal partnership where husband and wife work as a team on even ground... to the point of being one soul in two bodies? That to me implies equality, and not a dominant / submissive type relationship. As I said I have seen the other way too... where the wife says what goes and she hold the puppet strings of her husband... but this doesn't seem to be the norm. It seems far more common that the woman is expected to be subservient and fully obedient. Growing old alone in that case, sounds possibly a better option for women in the end. [/QUOTE]
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