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ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="Harkiran Kaur" data-source="post: 178386" data-attributes="member: 18224"><p>So I thought that removing him on Facebook was enough but apparently not. He saw my profile on a Sikh Matrimony site and decided to personally attack me (my notes are in blue). I wish to expose this guy now for what he is... so if any Sikh girls on here run into a guy who goes by 'Tejbir Singh' on Facebook and on SikhMatrimony.com, then stay far far away... because he would have you locked up in the house doing nothing but cooking cleaning and serving him. </p><p></p><p>Here is the personal attack he launched on me:</p><p></p><p></p><p>"as i told you before, for a woman to work is not the sikhi way and it is not conidered a correct thing for a woman to work in the environment where other men work, but i do not want to argue with you as your requirements are only those that should apply to you, for example you want someone in your profile that will cuddle up with you, <span style="color: Blue">(note: in my profile I put a small tagline about wanting someone who likes to cuddle - because I want someone who is not afraid to show affection, otherwise why be married at all? So he decided to attack me for that)</span> how un sikhi. This is an issue between a married man and his wife. <span style="color: blue">(which is what I thought I was emphasizing on my profile, since it IS a matrimonial site. That comment was more just a fun comment anyway)</span></p><p></p><p>You consider me a maulvi so be it, that is also your narrow minded thinking. You stay in a culture where you first have sex with a man before marraige for many years and then maybe get married, use dirty curse words and call them sweet and consider the law of the society to enjoy sex before marriage, then i am wrong in evrything i have said. <span style="color: Blue">(If he dislikes Western culture so much then why is he living here? And why would he put in his profile that he wants to live abroad since he has a green card?)</span></p><p></p><p>As far as sikh women who are accomplished in their lives, you can call them sikhs but we don't as these women do not have any traits of sikhism in them. <span style="color: blue">(so he thinks any Sikh woman who has a career and is accomplished is NOT a Sikh??)</span> </p><p></p><p>So as i said before that gurusikhs are protective of their daughters and not oppresive. You will not understand this as you have already done those things which we do not want our sisters and daughters to do and on top of that you have a huge attitude problem, which wite women do have. <span style="color: blue">(my 'attitude' problem was backing up my answers with both Gurbani and the Rehet that women and men are equal and deserve equal opportunities. To which he could not rebut anyway... he never once used Gurbani to back anything up and says that his views are 'Sikh Culture' And this 'protectiveness' he was talking about was when he said that sikh boys would be allowed out to do things on their own, but a sikh girl would not. She too would have to stay at home locked up with the Mother. Forget education like University etc. Because he thinks Sikh women should not be educated or become successful! They should be entirely dependent on their husbands, making them impossible to be financially independent, which seals their fate even more, should the husband ever become abusive.) </span></p><p></p><p>You will find a sikh guy or any other guy who will be more than happy to cuddle with you, how desperate can you get. <span style="color: blue">(personal attack again)</span> This also you can say that sikhi allows you to discuss it openly.Your mail box will get get filled too, but then just wait after you get married, remember my words that it is going to be only a lot of cuddling only as you have mentioned it, so the main thing that will attract your profiles is that you are desperate for intimacy. <span style="color: blue">(desperate no... or I would not have been single most of my adult life. Wanting someone to marry who is not a robot drone with no feelings and just going through the motions.... yes)</span></p><p></p><p>PLEASE do not mail me anymore <span style="color: blue">(I thought I already did that?! HE contacted me!!!)</span> as i have only more than wasted my energy on you who, of course being more educated than me and who not will not listen because you will put twisted meanings to words which are actually very good. <span style="color: blue">(apparently women not being allowed to work and only being allowed to cook and clean and being locked in the house not talking to any men....is good!?)</span> </p><p></p><p>So in the name of god don't contact me again as i do not want to pursue any coversation regarding sikhism or anything with you, as guru nanak dev ji has said "don't argue with a fool". You are in an illusion and will continue your whole life in illusion and so will your mate. Just by doing path, you don't gain anything, but it is fully understanding it and applying it your daily life that matters. <span style="color: blue">(how this had anything to do with a woman having a career I do not know... or how having a career would hamper a woman's ability to apply Sikhi way of life is beyond me. But here you go... he thinks that women being locked away in the house IS applying Sikhi) </span>"</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Harkiran Kaur, post: 178386, member: 18224"] So I thought that removing him on Facebook was enough but apparently not. He saw my profile on a Sikh Matrimony site and decided to personally attack me (my notes are in blue). I wish to expose this guy now for what he is... so if any Sikh girls on here run into a guy who goes by 'Tejbir Singh' on Facebook and on SikhMatrimony.com, then stay far far away... because he would have you locked up in the house doing nothing but cooking cleaning and serving him. Here is the personal attack he launched on me: "as i told you before, for a woman to work is not the sikhi way and it is not conidered a correct thing for a woman to work in the environment where other men work, but i do not want to argue with you as your requirements are only those that should apply to you, for example you want someone in your profile that will cuddle up with you, [COLOR="Blue"](note: in my profile I put a small tagline about wanting someone who likes to cuddle - because I want someone who is not afraid to show affection, otherwise why be married at all? So he decided to attack me for that)[/COLOR] how un sikhi. This is an issue between a married man and his wife. [COLOR="blue"](which is what I thought I was emphasizing on my profile, since it IS a matrimonial site. That comment was more just a fun comment anyway)[/COLOR] You consider me a maulvi so be it, that is also your narrow minded thinking. You stay in a culture where you first have sex with a man before marraige for many years and then maybe get married, use dirty curse words and call them sweet and consider the law of the society to enjoy sex before marriage, then i am wrong in evrything i have said. [COLOR="Blue"](If he dislikes Western culture so much then why is he living here? And why would he put in his profile that he wants to live abroad since he has a green card?)[/COLOR] As far as sikh women who are accomplished in their lives, you can call them sikhs but we don't as these women do not have any traits of sikhism in them. [COLOR="blue"](so he thinks any Sikh woman who has a career and is accomplished is NOT a Sikh??)[/COLOR] So as i said before that gurusikhs are protective of their daughters and not oppresive. You will not understand this as you have already done those things which we do not want our sisters and daughters to do and on top of that you have a huge attitude problem, which wite women do have. [COLOR="blue"](my 'attitude' problem was backing up my answers with both Gurbani and the Rehet that women and men are equal and deserve equal opportunities. To which he could not rebut anyway... he never once used Gurbani to back anything up and says that his views are 'Sikh Culture' And this 'protectiveness' he was talking about was when he said that sikh boys would be allowed out to do things on their own, but a sikh girl would not. She too would have to stay at home locked up with the Mother. Forget education like University etc. Because he thinks Sikh women should not be educated or become successful! They should be entirely dependent on their husbands, making them impossible to be financially independent, which seals their fate even more, should the husband ever become abusive.) [/COLOR] You will find a sikh guy or any other guy who will be more than happy to cuddle with you, how desperate can you get. [COLOR="blue"](personal attack again)[/COLOR] This also you can say that sikhi allows you to discuss it openly.Your mail box will get get filled too, but then just wait after you get married, remember my words that it is going to be only a lot of cuddling only as you have mentioned it, so the main thing that will attract your profiles is that you are desperate for intimacy. [COLOR="blue"](desperate no... or I would not have been single most of my adult life. Wanting someone to marry who is not a robot drone with no feelings and just going through the motions.... yes)[/COLOR] PLEASE do not mail me anymore [COLOR="blue"](I thought I already did that?! HE contacted me!!!)[/COLOR] as i have only more than wasted my energy on you who, of course being more educated than me and who not will not listen because you will put twisted meanings to words which are actually very good. [COLOR="blue"](apparently women not being allowed to work and only being allowed to cook and clean and being locked in the house not talking to any men....is good!?)[/COLOR] So in the name of god don't contact me again as i do not want to pursue any coversation regarding sikhism or anything with you, as guru nanak dev ji has said "don't argue with a fool". You are in an illusion and will continue your whole life in illusion and so will your mate. Just by doing path, you don't gain anything, but it is fully understanding it and applying it your daily life that matters. [COLOR="blue"](how this had anything to do with a woman having a career I do not know... or how having a career would hamper a woman's ability to apply Sikhi way of life is beyond me. But here you go... he thinks that women being locked away in the house IS applying Sikhi) [/COLOR]" [/QUOTE]
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