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ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="Ambarsaria" data-source="post: 156166" data-attributes="member: 14194"><p>Harry veer ji thanks for your post. I will shake your hand and hug you in spite of all you described about in your past. mundahug</p><p>Harry veer ji did you ever think about becoming a politician with a comment like above. I wish I could learn such tact and wisdom.</p><p></p><p>Back to the topic, let us put facts on the table here perhaps with a glass of milk and cookies.</p><p><u></u></p><p><u><strong>Facts are</strong></u><strong>:</strong></p><p></p><p>1. There is no code or prohibition against sex per se in Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji before or after marriage.</p><p> </p><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Why so! Folks it is not a book of codes or laws and bylaws. It is wisdom and a teacher.</li> </ul><p> 2. So then we look at the Sikh Reht Maryada. I excerpt below a specific item that talks about sex.</p><p> </p><p> <strong><u><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">Under Article XVIII</span></u></strong><strong><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">:</span></strong></p><p> </p><p> <span style="font-family: 'Arial'"> e. <em><u>When a girl becomes marriageable</u></em>, physically, emotionally and by virtue of maturity of character, a suitable Sikh match should be found and she be married to him by Anand marriage rites.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"> f. Marriage <em><u>may not be preceded by engagement ceremony</u></em>. But if an engagement ceremony is sought to he held, a congregational gathering should be held and, after offering the Ardas before the Guru Granth Sahib, a kirpan, a <em><u>steel bangle</u></em> and <em><u>some sweets may be tendered to the boy</u></em>.</span></p><p> <strong><u><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"></span></u></strong></p><p><strong><u><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">Under Article XVIII</span></u></strong><strong><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">:</span></strong> </p><p> 3. <em><u> Cohabiting</u></em> with a person other than <em><u>one's spouse</u></em>; </p><p> </p><p> So question posed needs to be focused as posted by Learner55 ji,</p><p></p><p> Using and understanding Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji in the concept of a Guru , teacher and wisdom, there is no code or edict against pre-Marital sex neither I expected any. I continue to emphasize it is not a code book or a cook book of ready made answers.</p><p></p><p> Sikh Reht Maryada only states sex as or cohabitation out of “Anand Karaj”. Even by any stretch of the imagination, pre-marital sex is not cohabitation or “Marriage” as no “Anand Karaj” has taken place. Hence Sikh Reht Maryada does not rule against pre-marital sex.</p><p></p><p>So under worst of circumstances it falls under “Kaam/Lust”. Kaam can be a thought, a touch, a glance, a kiss, a brush on the subway or a bus, a dream, and so on. You commit no sin as there are no sins in Sikhism. You don’t want Kaam to go out of control. If one can do that, one is as good as if not the better than the next person.</p><p></p><p> Control or management of Kaam/lust is an individual responsibility. The more we encourage others to recognize this, the better help we are providing. There is no one here at spn (or you can stone me in the village square) who had no lustful thoughts over time. You had a thought once, it is with you for ever in conscious or sub-conscious.</p><p></p><p> We should refrain from making rules on the go as one thing leads to another till the whole purpose or approach of our help becomes a sham.</p><p></p><p> “Fools who wrangle over Kaam!”</p><p></p><p>Sat Sri Akal.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ambarsaria, post: 156166, member: 14194"] Harry veer ji thanks for your post. I will shake your hand and hug you in spite of all you described about in your past. mundahug Harry veer ji did you ever think about becoming a politician with a comment like above. I wish I could learn such tact and wisdom. Back to the topic, let us put facts on the table here perhaps with a glass of milk and cookies. [U] [B]Facts are[/B][/U][B]:[/B] 1. There is no code or prohibition against sex per se in Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji before or after marriage. [LIST] [*]Why so! Folks it is not a book of codes or laws and bylaws. It is wisdom and a teacher. [/LIST] 2. So then we look at the Sikh Reht Maryada. I excerpt below a specific item that talks about sex. [B][U][FONT=Arial]Under Article XVIII[/FONT][/U][/B][B][FONT=Arial]:[/FONT][/B] [FONT=Arial] e. [I][U]When a girl becomes marriageable[/U][/I], physically, emotionally and by virtue of maturity of character, a suitable Sikh match should be found and she be married to him by Anand marriage rites. f. Marriage [I][U]may not be preceded by engagement ceremony[/U][/I]. But if an engagement ceremony is sought to he held, a congregational gathering should be held and, after offering the Ardas before the Guru Granth Sahib, a kirpan, a [I][U]steel bangle[/U][/I] and [I][U]some sweets may be tendered to the boy[/U][/I].[/FONT] [B][U][FONT=Arial] Under Article XVIII[/FONT][/U][/B][B][FONT=Arial]:[/FONT][/B] 3. [I][U] Cohabiting[/U][/I] with a person other than [I][U]one's spouse[/U][/I]; So question posed needs to be focused as posted by Learner55 ji, Using and understanding Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji in the concept of a Guru , teacher and wisdom, there is no code or edict against pre-Marital sex neither I expected any. I continue to emphasize it is not a code book or a cook book of ready made answers. Sikh Reht Maryada only states sex as or cohabitation out of “Anand Karaj”. Even by any stretch of the imagination, pre-marital sex is not cohabitation or “Marriage” as no “Anand Karaj” has taken place. Hence Sikh Reht Maryada does not rule against pre-marital sex. So under worst of circumstances it falls under “Kaam/Lust”. Kaam can be a thought, a touch, a glance, a kiss, a brush on the subway or a bus, a dream, and so on. You commit no sin as there are no sins in Sikhism. You don’t want Kaam to go out of control. If one can do that, one is as good as if not the better than the next person. Control or management of Kaam/lust is an individual responsibility. The more we encourage others to recognize this, the better help we are providing. There is no one here at spn (or you can stone me in the village square) who had no lustful thoughts over time. You had a thought once, it is with you for ever in conscious or sub-conscious. We should refrain from making rules on the go as one thing leads to another till the whole purpose or approach of our help becomes a sham. “Fools who wrangle over Kaam!” Sat Sri Akal. [/QUOTE]
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