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ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="Harry Haller" data-source="post: 156146" data-attributes="member: 14641"><p>The following answers are honest answers and do not reflect my current state of mind:-</p><p></p><p>1. Because its all I thought about at 17, maybe it was the media, maybe it made me feel more of a man, maybe it was the thought that the impending arranged marriage meant that I had a limited time to experience the world , and also there seemed no problem for boys that were not virgins to get married. </p><p></p><p>2. 3 close scares, 2 abortions, at the time, it was a case of being lucky, what worried me more was infection, having said that, numbers wise, I managed to get into the early hundreds, so it is possible that there are some little Harry's out there, if the situation had arisen at the time, my parents would have killed me, but for most of my twenties, I remained completely at the mercy of my lust. </p><p></p><p>3. Now this is an interesting one, I have no regrets, my past enables me to find the thought of another woman quite boring, pointless even,. I do not look at porn, I do not think of other women, my wife also has a history, although not as extensive as mine, there are times when 'ghosts of the past' do rear their ugly heads, but they are more emotional than sexual issues, the question here is do I wish I had only slept with my wife? that answer would have to be 'NO', as attraction to other partners is an issue that has not arisen in 7 years of marriage. The way I look at it, it took me well over a hundred women to find the right one. </p><p></p><p>4. If my understanding of sikhism at 17 had been similar to my understanding now, I would have definately waited, I would have had that arranged marriage (which I never had), I would have had kids, mum and dad would have had their grandchildren, I would be part of a huge family of cousins, uncles, aunties, weddings etc, I would be a normal sikh sardar. But it does not work like that, all the sikh men I know of my age are mostly stuck in Maya, they are married, but they go with *****s, they have a secret life, and a sikhi life, I was shocked to find that on my last trip to India, and having a knack for delving and digging deeper than most, I realised that most marriages were a sham, most wives were treated quite poorly, the dowry system is still in place, the arguments about quantities of dowry still go on, most sikh ceremonies are ritualistic and without any note given to the message or the information being shared, just the food and booze afterwards, </p><p></p><p>Sure, I have led a wicked and selfish life, but I would rather be where I am now, with the path ahead of me. </p><p></p><p>Of course I could have married young, given myself to my wife, and also found sikhi, but a part of me feels that would be have been unlikely, it is only so much exposure to all the thieves that has made me determined to find something more</p><p></p><p>I am starting to view the sexually active (outside of marriage) as weak willed lemmings, now when I think of the model of man that I could admire, it is the traditional saint soldier fighting wrong, embracing philosophy that is in line with sikhi, being strong both in will and in body, a giant of goodness that cannot be swayed by something as trivial as sex, if I were to meet me aged 27 now, I would pity me</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Harry Haller, post: 156146, member: 14641"] The following answers are honest answers and do not reflect my current state of mind:- 1. Because its all I thought about at 17, maybe it was the media, maybe it made me feel more of a man, maybe it was the thought that the impending arranged marriage meant that I had a limited time to experience the world , and also there seemed no problem for boys that were not virgins to get married. 2. 3 close scares, 2 abortions, at the time, it was a case of being lucky, what worried me more was infection, having said that, numbers wise, I managed to get into the early hundreds, so it is possible that there are some little Harry's out there, if the situation had arisen at the time, my parents would have killed me, but for most of my twenties, I remained completely at the mercy of my lust. 3. Now this is an interesting one, I have no regrets, my past enables me to find the thought of another woman quite boring, pointless even,. I do not look at porn, I do not think of other women, my wife also has a history, although not as extensive as mine, there are times when 'ghosts of the past' do rear their ugly heads, but they are more emotional than sexual issues, the question here is do I wish I had only slept with my wife? that answer would have to be 'NO', as attraction to other partners is an issue that has not arisen in 7 years of marriage. The way I look at it, it took me well over a hundred women to find the right one. 4. If my understanding of sikhism at 17 had been similar to my understanding now, I would have definately waited, I would have had that arranged marriage (which I never had), I would have had kids, mum and dad would have had their grandchildren, I would be part of a huge family of cousins, uncles, aunties, weddings etc, I would be a normal sikh sardar. But it does not work like that, all the sikh men I know of my age are mostly stuck in Maya, they are married, but they go with *****s, they have a secret life, and a sikhi life, I was shocked to find that on my last trip to India, and having a knack for delving and digging deeper than most, I realised that most marriages were a sham, most wives were treated quite poorly, the dowry system is still in place, the arguments about quantities of dowry still go on, most sikh ceremonies are ritualistic and without any note given to the message or the information being shared, just the food and booze afterwards, Sure, I have led a wicked and selfish life, but I would rather be where I am now, with the path ahead of me. Of course I could have married young, given myself to my wife, and also found sikhi, but a part of me feels that would be have been unlikely, it is only so much exposure to all the thieves that has made me determined to find something more I am starting to view the sexually active (outside of marriage) as weak willed lemmings, now when I think of the model of man that I could admire, it is the traditional saint soldier fighting wrong, embracing philosophy that is in line with sikhi, being strong both in will and in body, a giant of goodness that cannot be swayed by something as trivial as sex, if I were to meet me aged 27 now, I would pity me [/QUOTE]
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