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ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="BaljeetSingh" data-source="post: 74646" data-attributes="member: 1458"><p>This is a very important topic of discussion. I live outside India and have a son and a daughter. They both will go to middle school in next few years. I have nephews and nieces who lived in other countries outside India for most of their lives. One thing that I have learned living outside India is that the school system puts lots of efforts in imparting a lot of self confidence in the students. The teachers and the school system works towards letting kids grow into what they believe in rather than what others (parents/friends) tell them. I agree 100% with this approach.</p><p></p><p>Having said this, I come across situations where Sikh students (both boys and girls) are troubled by what they go through in school. Their "friends" taunt them for having long hair, not making eye brows, not shaving legs, etc. The young Sikh kids them come home and cry in front of their parents that their friends taunt them, or they can not go swimming because their legs are not shaved, or they can not play basket ball because they have to wear shorts and shave their legs. Their confusion is further aggravated if any of their cousins or sikh family friends' kids make eye brows, trim beard, etc. The parents then bow to the pressure and let their kids cut their hair, make eye brows, etc.</p><p></p><p>I just want to say this to the parents and their kids...</p><p></p><p>#1. You define what you want to be. If you do not want to cut your hair, make eye brows, etc. then no matter what your friends say or do, you should not bow to the pressure. </p><p></p><p>#2. If you cut your hair because of what your friends, then I would say.....Kudos to you...You are sacrificing your religion for your friends....I wonder if your friends would reciprocate the gesture.</p><p></p><p>#3. If your friends do not support you in what you believe in then they are not worthy to be your friends.</p><p></p><p>#4. If you think you are left alone in your peer circle, then I would say, look around....you will definitely find someone who will respect you because of what you believe in. </p><p>poKru nIru ivrolIAY mwKnu nhI rIsY ]7]</p><p>pokhur neer viroleeai maakhun nehee reesai </p><p>Churning the water in the pond, no butter is produced. ||7||</p><p></p><p>I have been living in the states for the last 11 years now and I have been to various professional and personal meetings where alcohol is served. I do not drink and always ask the waitress if I can get a non alcoholic drink - which I always get (eg. Virgin colada, sherly temple, etc..). There has been many instances when I was asked by my peers to start drinking, and I always politely say - No Thanks. Then one day this guy started arguing with me why I do not drink. My answer was simple - Because I do not want to. He said why don't I start drinking? There is nothing wrong in drinking, Many Sikhs drink ...and so on....I am backward, etc. etc. - To all his arguments, I gave one simple reply. I told him "If you will not stop drinking because I ask you to then there is no reason why I should start drinking because you are asking me to".</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BaljeetSingh, post: 74646, member: 1458"] This is a very important topic of discussion. I live outside India and have a son and a daughter. They both will go to middle school in next few years. I have nephews and nieces who lived in other countries outside India for most of their lives. One thing that I have learned living outside India is that the school system puts lots of efforts in imparting a lot of self confidence in the students. The teachers and the school system works towards letting kids grow into what they believe in rather than what others (parents/friends) tell them. I agree 100% with this approach. Having said this, I come across situations where Sikh students (both boys and girls) are troubled by what they go through in school. Their "friends" taunt them for having long hair, not making eye brows, not shaving legs, etc. The young Sikh kids them come home and cry in front of their parents that their friends taunt them, or they can not go swimming because their legs are not shaved, or they can not play basket ball because they have to wear shorts and shave their legs. Their confusion is further aggravated if any of their cousins or sikh family friends' kids make eye brows, trim beard, etc. The parents then bow to the pressure and let their kids cut their hair, make eye brows, etc. I just want to say this to the parents and their kids... #1. You define what you want to be. If you do not want to cut your hair, make eye brows, etc. then no matter what your friends say or do, you should not bow to the pressure. #2. If you cut your hair because of what your friends, then I would say.....Kudos to you...You are sacrificing your religion for your friends....I wonder if your friends would reciprocate the gesture. #3. If your friends do not support you in what you believe in then they are not worthy to be your friends. #4. If you think you are left alone in your peer circle, then I would say, look around....you will definitely find someone who will respect you because of what you believe in. poKru nIru ivrolIAY mwKnu nhI rIsY ]7] pokhur neer viroleeai maakhun nehee reesai Churning the water in the pond, no butter is produced. ||7|| I have been living in the states for the last 11 years now and I have been to various professional and personal meetings where alcohol is served. I do not drink and always ask the waitress if I can get a non alcoholic drink - which I always get (eg. Virgin colada, sherly temple, etc..). There has been many instances when I was asked by my peers to start drinking, and I always politely say - No Thanks. Then one day this guy started arguing with me why I do not drink. My answer was simple - Because I do not want to. He said why don't I start drinking? There is nothing wrong in drinking, Many Sikhs drink ...and so on....I am backward, etc. etc. - To all his arguments, I gave one simple reply. I told him "If you will not stop drinking because I ask you to then there is no reason why I should start drinking because you are asking me to". [/QUOTE]
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