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ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="Amandeep Kaur" data-source="post: 51635" data-attributes="member: 4085"><p>I never said Sikh men should go to the gym more. That was MKaur. But I don't think that was actually her point. I think her point was more that women are not just attracted to men's muscles and that physical appearance is in fact a fairly small component of what comprises attraction. I think her point was that women don't just operate by a simple switch, aren't just ruled by their genitals.</p><p></p><p>And I don't see where I blamed Sikh men for the poor choices of some Sikh women. Could you please point out where I made that implication?</p><p></p><p>All I am saying is that it is wrong for you to make racist judgements about all Muslims, for you to say that any Sikh woman who chooses to date a non-Sikh is entering a violent relationship or is turning away from her roots. All I'm saying is that hatred and violent words or actions to people of other belief systems, or towards women that you believe are misguided is wrong. I don't defend hurting yourself. But I do defend the idea that it is okay to date Muslims or other people that are not Sikh. I defend the idea that not all of these people are bad. I do not defend self-destructive behavior. And I condemn racist attitudes and hatred which are contrary to the Sikh beliefs we should be proud of and often serve to hurt those who need help the most.</p><p></p><p>It is not always apparent that someone will be an abuser. They don't exactly wear signs saying "Hey, come hang out with me. I like to hurt people." However, it is a poor decision to not try to get out of a situation like that. But it is not always easy to get out of abusive situations, and the article you reference specifically said that this girl was targeted because the man knew she could not ask her family for help? Why not? Why couldn't she ask her family for help? If we turn our backs on people and condemn them for mistakes, we are only leaving them in bad situations. We are not responsible for the poor decisions of other people. But we are responsible for turning our backs on them, casting them away, and treating them like they deserve punishment just for trusting someone. And in the case of the girl in the article, her female relatives are just as responsible as her male ones for turning their backs on her. Only kindness changes people, makes them rejects habits one would condemn. Harsh treatment only further isolates them from the community you want them to embrace.</p><p></p><p>Feminism is an Eastern Sikh attitude and was one long before it was western. And I hardly consider myself a feminist in the way that you mean. I just believe that women are equal to men in intelligence and in the respect they should be accorded. It is certainly not a feminist thought to think that men are responsible for the choices of women. And the feminism I espoused was only in the form that I did not like phrases you used specifically designed to rest on unfair and wrong stereotypes of women to make them look like they are weak willed and stupid. Saying things like " Probably saw some muscles and got all excited...poor girl" and "getting all emotional" and implying that women aren't following the wise guidance of their male counterparts like they should is not something you need to be a radical feminist to be perturbed by.</p><p></p><p>You emphasize the hard work and good reputation of Sikh men, but what about Sikh women? This is just very confusing to me. Are all Sikh women in the UK housewives? My mother certainly worked hard and is a very accomplished scientist and the life that my parents created for me and my brother is just as much her work as my father's. Most of the Sikh families I know are headed by two working professionals, both hard working and virtuous. Many Sikh families who come and open businesses in the US have both spouses equally partnered in operating and running the business. I don't imagine things are somehow radically different in the UK. So my only conclusion is that you are ignoring the women, only counting the work of men as being worth examining. Obviously, I think this is not a fair assessment and is part of some agenda to put women down. I come to that conclusion from your degrading speech about women. Of course, I suppose it is possible that Sikh women in the UK are all somehow different from Sikh women everywhere else and somehow less hardworking in general and worth less as well as being stupid and virtueless, but I doubt it.</p><p></p><p>The reason we seem to be discussing two issues here is because it seems to me you are tying two things together. One, you are employing the concept that Muslims are all base users and abusers who are either all bad, or only want to date Sikh women to hurt Sikhs in general in some roundabout and convoluted way. Two, you are employing the concept that women are gullible and morally and emotionally weak and attacking them on these points and holding them responsible for supposedly bringing Sikhs down by allowing themselves to be taken advantage of by the previously described, uniformly evil Muslims or non-Sikhs they may stupidly associate with. I disagree on both points - that any group of people is composed entirely of bad people with alternate agendas, or that women are somehow especially gullible and morally and emotionally weak. And I disagree with the demeaning way that you speak of both of these groups and your advocacy for spitting on people who need help.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I disagree with the attitude represented in the above statement.</p><p></p><p>And this is a discussion forum. I am not trying to push my views onto people. We are discussing different viewpoints. That's what discussions are about. Each person represents his own viewpoint and they probably represent that viewpoint because they think it is correct. And if you enter into a discussion, you should be willing to allow people to be critical about your viewpoint. That is how discussions work. The purpose of discussion is to hear viewpoints you haven't heard before, reexamine your own, test them against others, and maybe even change and adapt when you are presented with something that makes more sense.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Amandeep Kaur, post: 51635, member: 4085"] I never said Sikh men should go to the gym more. That was MKaur. But I don't think that was actually her point. I think her point was more that women are not just attracted to men's muscles and that physical appearance is in fact a fairly small component of what comprises attraction. I think her point was that women don't just operate by a simple switch, aren't just ruled by their genitals. And I don't see where I blamed Sikh men for the poor choices of some Sikh women. Could you please point out where I made that implication? All I am saying is that it is wrong for you to make racist judgements about all Muslims, for you to say that any Sikh woman who chooses to date a non-Sikh is entering a violent relationship or is turning away from her roots. All I'm saying is that hatred and violent words or actions to people of other belief systems, or towards women that you believe are misguided is wrong. I don't defend hurting yourself. But I do defend the idea that it is okay to date Muslims or other people that are not Sikh. I defend the idea that not all of these people are bad. I do not defend self-destructive behavior. And I condemn racist attitudes and hatred which are contrary to the Sikh beliefs we should be proud of and often serve to hurt those who need help the most. It is not always apparent that someone will be an abuser. They don't exactly wear signs saying "Hey, come hang out with me. I like to hurt people." However, it is a poor decision to not try to get out of a situation like that. But it is not always easy to get out of abusive situations, and the article you reference specifically said that this girl was targeted because the man knew she could not ask her family for help? Why not? Why couldn't she ask her family for help? If we turn our backs on people and condemn them for mistakes, we are only leaving them in bad situations. We are not responsible for the poor decisions of other people. But we are responsible for turning our backs on them, casting them away, and treating them like they deserve punishment just for trusting someone. And in the case of the girl in the article, her female relatives are just as responsible as her male ones for turning their backs on her. Only kindness changes people, makes them rejects habits one would condemn. Harsh treatment only further isolates them from the community you want them to embrace. Feminism is an Eastern Sikh attitude and was one long before it was western. And I hardly consider myself a feminist in the way that you mean. I just believe that women are equal to men in intelligence and in the respect they should be accorded. It is certainly not a feminist thought to think that men are responsible for the choices of women. And the feminism I espoused was only in the form that I did not like phrases you used specifically designed to rest on unfair and wrong stereotypes of women to make them look like they are weak willed and stupid. Saying things like " Probably saw some muscles and got all excited...poor girl" and "getting all emotional" and implying that women aren't following the wise guidance of their male counterparts like they should is not something you need to be a radical feminist to be perturbed by. You emphasize the hard work and good reputation of Sikh men, but what about Sikh women? This is just very confusing to me. Are all Sikh women in the UK housewives? My mother certainly worked hard and is a very accomplished scientist and the life that my parents created for me and my brother is just as much her work as my father's. Most of the Sikh families I know are headed by two working professionals, both hard working and virtuous. Many Sikh families who come and open businesses in the US have both spouses equally partnered in operating and running the business. I don't imagine things are somehow radically different in the UK. So my only conclusion is that you are ignoring the women, only counting the work of men as being worth examining. Obviously, I think this is not a fair assessment and is part of some agenda to put women down. I come to that conclusion from your degrading speech about women. Of course, I suppose it is possible that Sikh women in the UK are all somehow different from Sikh women everywhere else and somehow less hardworking in general and worth less as well as being stupid and virtueless, but I doubt it. The reason we seem to be discussing two issues here is because it seems to me you are tying two things together. One, you are employing the concept that Muslims are all base users and abusers who are either all bad, or only want to date Sikh women to hurt Sikhs in general in some roundabout and convoluted way. Two, you are employing the concept that women are gullible and morally and emotionally weak and attacking them on these points and holding them responsible for supposedly bringing Sikhs down by allowing themselves to be taken advantage of by the previously described, uniformly evil Muslims or non-Sikhs they may stupidly associate with. I disagree on both points - that any group of people is composed entirely of bad people with alternate agendas, or that women are somehow especially gullible and morally and emotionally weak. And I disagree with the demeaning way that you speak of both of these groups and your advocacy for spitting on people who need help. I disagree with the attitude represented in the above statement. And this is a discussion forum. I am not trying to push my views onto people. We are discussing different viewpoints. That's what discussions are about. Each person represents his own viewpoint and they probably represent that viewpoint because they think it is correct. And if you enter into a discussion, you should be willing to allow people to be critical about your viewpoint. That is how discussions work. The purpose of discussion is to hear viewpoints you haven't heard before, reexamine your own, test them against others, and maybe even change and adapt when you are presented with something that makes more sense. [/QUOTE]
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