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<blockquote data-quote="veerhora" data-source="post: 182035" data-attributes="member: 19378"><p>Let me tell you a bit about myself..</p><p>I am a sikh male,25 years old, a software consultant, and in a hell of a dilemma.</p><p>25 is not an age when you consider cutting your hair, I have usually seen it in younger people(18-21) is when it usually happens, cause thats when we start dating.</p><p>The thing is I like going to Gurudwaras and listening to shabads and doing seva and have spiritual experiences but am not a hardliner.</p><p>I trim my beard, coz if I dont I look like I am 37, People actually think that I am my Dad's younger brother.</p><p>I have been thinking of making my hair shorter, i.e. not wear a turban for quite a few years now, but never actualized it because</p><p>1. It would create unnecessary problems in my already dysfunctional family. My father has /had already renounced me the day I had trimmed my beard(or the day he realized it) , saying that I was a black spot on sikhism and that I actually look like a muslim , (what ever that means coz I have got nothing against muslims, one of my best friends and college room mate was a muslim,)</p><p>2. I wasnt sure if this is something I wanted, or was it because I wanted to be accepted socially.</p><p></p><p>I am not gonna lie, being a sikh has its own perks, you are the natural leader in any group coz you just stand out. It bodes well for Job Interviews at a certain level because I have benefited from the general image of sikhism which is hardworking,loyal etc..</p><p></p><p>These perks have always made me look the other way, but now I feel like I'm selling my soul or something.</p><p></p><p>I am portraying to the world something that I may or may not be.</p><p>That makes me a hypocrite, which I am not.</p><p></p><p>The dilemma is this, Do I stop wearing a turban, drastically change my life, face the wrath of my family(father, which is not that big an issue), disappoint my grand parents(this is the show stopper), be true to myself, and lead the life that I have always wanted?</p><p>or carry on with the way things are going, be the guy that everyone wonders " what would he look like without the turban", be depressed and have this huge guilt for the rest of eternity and not to talk to other sikh boys coz you dont know if they are hardliners and gonna say something like "sex is bad for your health".</p><p></p><p>Will I no longer have the same beliefs if I cut off my hair?</p><p>Will I no longer be a sikh if I cut off my hair?</p><p>Am I becoming a bad person if I cut off my hair?</p><p></p><p>I am gonna be the same person ain't I, I just don't like the restrictions my religion puts on me and the guilt that comes along with it, Sometimes I feel like a thief, something on which I am still working on.</p><p></p><p>Don't want to stir up a debate, just being honest in search of other honest people who are undergoing/undergone the same experience that I am...</p><p></p><p>Please do let me know your views</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="veerhora, post: 182035, member: 19378"] Let me tell you a bit about myself.. I am a sikh male,25 years old, a software consultant, and in a hell of a dilemma. 25 is not an age when you consider cutting your hair, I have usually seen it in younger people(18-21) is when it usually happens, cause thats when we start dating. The thing is I like going to Gurudwaras and listening to shabads and doing seva and have spiritual experiences but am not a hardliner. I trim my beard, coz if I dont I look like I am 37, People actually think that I am my Dad's younger brother. I have been thinking of making my hair shorter, i.e. not wear a turban for quite a few years now, but never actualized it because 1. It would create unnecessary problems in my already dysfunctional family. My father has /had already renounced me the day I had trimmed my beard(or the day he realized it) , saying that I was a black spot on sikhism and that I actually look like a muslim , (what ever that means coz I have got nothing against muslims, one of my best friends and college room mate was a muslim,) 2. I wasnt sure if this is something I wanted, or was it because I wanted to be accepted socially. I am not gonna lie, being a sikh has its own perks, you are the natural leader in any group coz you just stand out. It bodes well for Job Interviews at a certain level because I have benefited from the general image of sikhism which is hardworking,loyal etc.. These perks have always made me look the other way, but now I feel like I'm selling my soul or something. I am portraying to the world something that I may or may not be. That makes me a hypocrite, which I am not. The dilemma is this, Do I stop wearing a turban, drastically change my life, face the wrath of my family(father, which is not that big an issue), disappoint my grand parents(this is the show stopper), be true to myself, and lead the life that I have always wanted? or carry on with the way things are going, be the guy that everyone wonders " what would he look like without the turban", be depressed and have this huge guilt for the rest of eternity and not to talk to other sikh boys coz you dont know if they are hardliners and gonna say something like "sex is bad for your health". Will I no longer have the same beliefs if I cut off my hair? Will I no longer be a sikh if I cut off my hair? Am I becoming a bad person if I cut off my hair? I am gonna be the same person ain't I, I just don't like the restrictions my religion puts on me and the guilt that comes along with it, Sometimes I feel like a thief, something on which I am still working on. Don't want to stir up a debate, just being honest in search of other honest people who are undergoing/undergone the same experience that I am... Please do let me know your views [/QUOTE]
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