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ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
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Relationship Advice: My Boyfriend's Family Makes Me Feel Inadequate
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<blockquote data-quote="Star Girl" data-source="post: 142191" data-attributes="member: 14773"><p><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'"><span style="font-size: 12px">Hello,</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'"><span style="font-size: 12px">This is the first time I have registered to a forum and have signed up to this forum for advice because I think someone maybe able to give me the advice I need. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'"><span style="font-size: 12px">I have been with my boyfriend for a year now. He is a doctor, I am a graduate but I am finding it difficult to find a job with the current economy so at the moment have an office based job and am searching for a better positions. We are both in our twenties. And ideally if it was in our hands we would get married within the next 2 years. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'"><span style="font-size: 12px">My family know we are together, and love him like he is one of us, my mum shows him unconditional love and couldn’t be happier for me. She is secretly hoping I get married in the near future however never puts any pressure on me. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'"><span style="font-size: 12px">I am very much in love with him, he decided to tell his parents after we had been together for a fair while, they were not pleased that he went behind their back and said he should have approached them sooner about meeting a girl, I did ask him to approach them sooner at the time but he never went ahead with it. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'"><span style="font-size: 12px">His family seem very unhappy with me and him being together and seem to be doing anything in their reach to break us up. He has moved out of my town where we met and gone back to live at home as his parents wish. They always make me feel inadequate and say things like a doctor should be with a doctor or someone in the same “salary band” I just can’t understand this concept as I know my mum would be happy with me being with anyone no matter their profession as long as im happy. His parents have said with my salary I wouldn’t provide him a happy future and when it comes to having children I won’t financially contribute. It seems they have their wires crossed with happiness and money, and it isn’t asif I am not ambitious or uneducated. His mother also asks him if he is open to dating other girls – this is what has most upset me because she must really dislike me to say a thing like this. His family have stopped talking to him and he feels uncomfortable in his own house. Most recently he has told them he is spending time with me for the day and then call him once he travels the few hours and demand he comes home. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'"><span style="font-size: 12px">I don’t know what to do because I feel as if I cant consider leaving him because I am so in love nut cant handle the fact that his family is failing down to me. I consider family as my everything, and I would hate to break a family apart. He hasn’t asked if they would meet me because he is sacared of the response! </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'"><span style="font-size: 12px">Please help any comments welcome xx </span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star Girl, post: 142191, member: 14773"] [FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3]Hello,[/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3] [/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3]This is the first time I have registered to a forum and have signed up to this forum for advice because I think someone maybe able to give me the advice I need. [/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3]I have been with my boyfriend for a year now. He is a doctor, I am a graduate but I am finding it difficult to find a job with the current economy so at the moment have an office based job and am searching for a better positions. We are both in our twenties. And ideally if it was in our hands we would get married within the next 2 years. [/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3]My family know we are together, and love him like he is one of us, my mum shows him unconditional love and couldn’t be happier for me. She is secretly hoping I get married in the near future however never puts any pressure on me. [/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3] [/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3]I am very much in love with him, he decided to tell his parents after we had been together for a fair while, they were not pleased that he went behind their back and said he should have approached them sooner about meeting a girl, I did ask him to approach them sooner at the time but he never went ahead with it. [/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3] [/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3]His family seem very unhappy with me and him being together and seem to be doing anything in their reach to break us up. He has moved out of my town where we met and gone back to live at home as his parents wish. They always make me feel inadequate and say things like a doctor should be with a doctor or someone in the same “salary band” I just can’t understand this concept as I know my mum would be happy with me being with anyone no matter their profession as long as im happy. His parents have said with my salary I wouldn’t provide him a happy future and when it comes to having children I won’t financially contribute. It seems they have their wires crossed with happiness and money, and it isn’t asif I am not ambitious or uneducated. His mother also asks him if he is open to dating other girls – this is what has most upset me because she must really dislike me to say a thing like this. His family have stopped talking to him and he feels uncomfortable in his own house. Most recently he has told them he is spending time with me for the day and then call him once he travels the few hours and demand he comes home. [/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3] [/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3]I don’t know what to do because I feel as if I cant consider leaving him because I am so in love nut cant handle the fact that his family is failing down to me. I consider family as my everything, and I would hate to break a family apart. He hasn’t asked if they would meet me because he is sacared of the response! [/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3] [/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3]Please help any comments welcome xx [/SIZE][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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