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ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="ActsOfGod" data-source="post: 203553" data-attributes="member: 18366"><p>The phenomenon you are describing has a name. It is called being ostracized by society. It's nothing new, it's been happening throughout history. It is very painful due to the social isolation and the emotional pain involved. And every person in history who stood up for his or her own beliefs, whether in their family or in the larger society, has had to go through this suffering as the price they paid for their freedom.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I don't recall every saying anything like that. However, I will say this. I don't take it lightly when one takes a Hukamnama from Guru Sahib. If you receive the Hukam from Guru, it is your duty to act upon it to the very best of your abilities. If you don't act upon it, and you just talk talk talk and then keep taking Hukamnama's, then yes, I consider that as showing disrespect to Guru Sahib.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Nope, that's not the reason. Taking responsibility begins with looking at your own thoughts and your own actions. Being responsible for your thoughts and actions in the present moment, not always putting the blame on some "other" -- so, in practical terms this means: stop blaming society, stop blaming your parents, stop blaming that couple you saw holding hands happily, stop blaming the boys who bullied you or taunted you, stop blaming "the system", stop blaming God for making you gay, etc. Also don't blame yourself. Just stop blaming. Blaming and complaining is a victim mentality. No victim ever succeeded in life.</p><p></p><p>To succeed, you must begin taking responsibility for your life. There are some things that are out of your control. Accept those things. Stop complaining about them. The world is not going to change to meet your wishes. And life is not fair. Get used to that fact. Turn your focus on the things you CAN control. Things that you do have the ability to change, and the most important and the most powerful thing you can change is your THOUGHTS.</p><p></p><p>Are you starting to get the idea?</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Why should legal and social acceptance be a requirement for you to accept and love yourself just as you are? Where is your inner conviction and self-worth? It's not called "self-loathing" because others do it, it's because you have internalized it and now the "self" is doing it. The "self" began it, the "self" can stop it. It's all about you, my friend. Society has nothing to do with it. Parents have nothing to do with it.</p><p></p><p>Of course you can love someone like you. Didn't the Creator make you? Aren't you worth loving? Of course you are. You are a beautiful creation of the Lord. Just remember that you are always loved.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Again, don't focus on the things you can't change. Keep your thoughts on things you can change or at least influence.</p><p></p><p>[AoG]</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ActsOfGod, post: 203553, member: 18366"] The phenomenon you are describing has a name. It is called being ostracized by society. It's nothing new, it's been happening throughout history. It is very painful due to the social isolation and the emotional pain involved. And every person in history who stood up for his or her own beliefs, whether in their family or in the larger society, has had to go through this suffering as the price they paid for their freedom. I don't recall every saying anything like that. However, I will say this. I don't take it lightly when one takes a Hukamnama from Guru Sahib. If you receive the Hukam from Guru, it is your duty to act upon it to the very best of your abilities. If you don't act upon it, and you just talk talk talk and then keep taking Hukamnama's, then yes, I consider that as showing disrespect to Guru Sahib. Nope, that's not the reason. Taking responsibility begins with looking at your own thoughts and your own actions. Being responsible for your thoughts and actions in the present moment, not always putting the blame on some "other" -- so, in practical terms this means: stop blaming society, stop blaming your parents, stop blaming that couple you saw holding hands happily, stop blaming the boys who bullied you or taunted you, stop blaming "the system", stop blaming God for making you gay, etc. Also don't blame yourself. Just stop blaming. Blaming and complaining is a victim mentality. No victim ever succeeded in life. To succeed, you must begin taking responsibility for your life. There are some things that are out of your control. Accept those things. Stop complaining about them. The world is not going to change to meet your wishes. And life is not fair. Get used to that fact. Turn your focus on the things you CAN control. Things that you do have the ability to change, and the most important and the most powerful thing you can change is your THOUGHTS. Are you starting to get the idea? Why should legal and social acceptance be a requirement for you to accept and love yourself just as you are? Where is your inner conviction and self-worth? It's not called "self-loathing" because others do it, it's because you have internalized it and now the "self" is doing it. The "self" began it, the "self" can stop it. It's all about you, my friend. Society has nothing to do with it. Parents have nothing to do with it. Of course you can love someone like you. Didn't the Creator make you? Aren't you worth loving? Of course you are. You are a beautiful creation of the Lord. Just remember that you are always loved. Again, don't focus on the things you can't change. Keep your thoughts on things you can change or at least influence. [AoG] [/QUOTE]
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