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Composition, Arrangement & Layout
ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="ActsOfGod" data-source="post: 203393" data-attributes="member: 18366"><p>I'm not sure how I can answer this question. The motive behind this question demonstrates an ignorance of the Sikh way of life and the Sikh worldview.</p><p> </p><p>There are other, deeper issues you need to be looking at rather than your physical appearance.</p><p></p><p>There is a lot of incongruency in the things you say. For example, on the one hand, you say that you love Guru Sahib, but then in the same sentence you say that you want to disavow yourself of being the Guru's Sikh (cut hair, etc.)</p><p></p><p>I feel that you need to spend some more time studying Sikhi and learning more about it, rather than just treat Guru like someone you can get things from when it's convenient for you. Following Sikhi is extremely difficult, and you're not doing Guru Sahib a favor by being a Sikh. It's the other way around.</p><p></p><p>In regards to all the worldly challenges you are facing (dealing with your job situation, your social circle, your family issues and primarily your sexuality), you need to remember that ALL of it will just disappear when you die. It will all just go away like a puff of smoke. All these things you're agonizing about so much, will be gone in an instant. None of it will even matter anymore.</p><p></p><p>So now just think for a moment. In the last 24 hours, you have spent all the time in thoughts of anguish, emotional turmoil, anger, lust, self-pity, longing, pain and a whole host of other emotions. You have even gone to take Hukamnama's asking Guru Sahib to change your sexual orientation. You are asking and begging Guru Sahib for a lot of things, but what have YOU offered to Guru? Nothing. And you even want to dispose of the gifts that Guru Sahib bequeathed to you (unshorn hair). And you still expect Guru Sahib to do what you're asking him (change your sexual orientation, make you happy, give you worldly success, put smiles on the faces of your parents). And yet, you haven't spent even a moment of the last 24 hours in meditative remembrance, in gratitude, saying thanks for all the gifts that you have been given. You talk about being denied happiness and pleasure, but what about those people lying in hospital beds who are struggling to even breathe. And yet here you are, God had given you so many free breaths since your birth, it is such a precious gift! Have you even once said <em>shukrian </em>for the gift of breath, the gift of life, the gift of health and intelligence?</p><p></p><p>Can you see how selfish you have been?</p><p></p><p>It's all just "I want, I want, I want". Like a 2-year old.</p><p></p><p>Our days on this planet are numbered. Gurbani tells us that we are here to fulfill our purpose, we must remember our Creator and give gratitude for this precious human birth. Have you been doing that? Or have you just been so wrapped up in your worldly problems that you forgot to even say thanks to God?</p><p></p><p>The real answer to your problem doesn't lie in trying to change your sexual orientation. Why do you hate what you are so much? You are so filled with self-loathing, it's painful to see. You don't need to hate yourself. You must come to terms with yourself and learn to love yourself. God in His wisdom has created all creatures. God created you, and there is a reason for it. Be grateful to God.</p><p></p><p>You don't need to ask Guru Sahib to change your sexual orientation. You need to ask Guru Sahib for enough wisdom to be able to learn to accept His Will and live in his <em>bhana</em>. You are not there yet, my dear brother. You're not there yet.</p><p></p><p>It would be a good idea to seek out someone local who can offer you specific advice on how to deal with particular issues. Look for a counselor or a therapist who is familiar with your situation.</p><p></p><p>[AoG]</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ActsOfGod, post: 203393, member: 18366"] I'm not sure how I can answer this question. The motive behind this question demonstrates an ignorance of the Sikh way of life and the Sikh worldview. There are other, deeper issues you need to be looking at rather than your physical appearance. There is a lot of incongruency in the things you say. For example, on the one hand, you say that you love Guru Sahib, but then in the same sentence you say that you want to disavow yourself of being the Guru's Sikh (cut hair, etc.) I feel that you need to spend some more time studying Sikhi and learning more about it, rather than just treat Guru like someone you can get things from when it's convenient for you. Following Sikhi is extremely difficult, and you're not doing Guru Sahib a favor by being a Sikh. It's the other way around. In regards to all the worldly challenges you are facing (dealing with your job situation, your social circle, your family issues and primarily your sexuality), you need to remember that ALL of it will just disappear when you die. It will all just go away like a puff of smoke. All these things you're agonizing about so much, will be gone in an instant. None of it will even matter anymore. So now just think for a moment. In the last 24 hours, you have spent all the time in thoughts of anguish, emotional turmoil, anger, lust, self-pity, longing, pain and a whole host of other emotions. You have even gone to take Hukamnama's asking Guru Sahib to change your sexual orientation. You are asking and begging Guru Sahib for a lot of things, but what have YOU offered to Guru? Nothing. And you even want to dispose of the gifts that Guru Sahib bequeathed to you (unshorn hair). And you still expect Guru Sahib to do what you're asking him (change your sexual orientation, make you happy, give you worldly success, put smiles on the faces of your parents). And yet, you haven't spent even a moment of the last 24 hours in meditative remembrance, in gratitude, saying thanks for all the gifts that you have been given. You talk about being denied happiness and pleasure, but what about those people lying in hospital beds who are struggling to even breathe. And yet here you are, God had given you so many free breaths since your birth, it is such a precious gift! Have you even once said [I]shukrian [/I]for the gift of breath, the gift of life, the gift of health and intelligence? Can you see how selfish you have been? It's all just "I want, I want, I want". Like a 2-year old. Our days on this planet are numbered. Gurbani tells us that we are here to fulfill our purpose, we must remember our Creator and give gratitude for this precious human birth. Have you been doing that? Or have you just been so wrapped up in your worldly problems that you forgot to even say thanks to God? The real answer to your problem doesn't lie in trying to change your sexual orientation. Why do you hate what you are so much? You are so filled with self-loathing, it's painful to see. You don't need to hate yourself. You must come to terms with yourself and learn to love yourself. God in His wisdom has created all creatures. God created you, and there is a reason for it. Be grateful to God. You don't need to ask Guru Sahib to change your sexual orientation. You need to ask Guru Sahib for enough wisdom to be able to learn to accept His Will and live in his [I]bhana[/I]. You are not there yet, my dear brother. You're not there yet. It would be a good idea to seek out someone local who can offer you specific advice on how to deal with particular issues. Look for a counselor or a therapist who is familiar with your situation. [AoG] [/QUOTE]
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