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ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="Ambarsaria" data-source="post: 165849" data-attributes="member: 14194"><p>waheguruhelpme ji thanks for your post. It is a great credit to you that you have asked for help. If nothing else it can give you ideas as articulated by different people. </p><p></p><p>I have taken linzer ji's post to highlight some comments from me but I am more trusting of the Kaur's in this matter than I am Singhs just because it is almost impossible to put oneself in another sex's shoes even when one tries to be objective.<span style="color: Blue"><em>I tend to agree with linzer ji's observation in general. My father was a high school Principal/Headmaster and observed lot of boys become men. He used to say one sets in one's ways by no later than 12 year old. In the case of the person you are referring to, such person has found his ways. </em><em>Now is this the worse fault or issue a person can have in a married life or before. It is very hard to say. </em></span></p><p><span style="color: Blue"><em></em></span></p><p><span style="color: Blue"><em>If the person is truly in love and every passing moment of separation hurts, one can become and act in all matters of abberations. One that this person has indulged in was not possible decades ago with no internet, no video phones, etc. So it is simply sign of the times. Love letters carried by pigeons was the way. Did those letters had same lust and other associations, I am pretty sure some did. </em></span></p><p><span style="color: Blue"><em><u><object style="height: 390px; width: 640px"></u></em></span></p><p><span style="color: Blue"><em><u></u></em></span></p><p><span style="color: Blue"><em><u></u></em></span></p><p><span style="color: Blue"><em><u><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/U5kuatik-tM?version=3&feature=player_detailpage" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowfullscreen="true" allowscriptaccess="always" height="360" width="640"></object></u></em></span></p><p><span style="color: Blue"><em></em></span></p><p><span style="color: Blue"><em></em></span></p><p><span style="color: Blue"><em></em></span></p><p><span style="color: Blue"><em>If I were you I will let him suffer and suffer more and test his love and not offer any more pictures or videos.</em></span></p><p><span style="color: Blue"><em></em></span></p><p><span style="color: Blue"><em><u>Note</u>: I note that you have also erred by first taking the pictures/videos described and may have felt some reason or logic to do that as to show how beautiful or pretty you are. There is nothing wrong but one has to take note of the possible damage these things can do so one needs to be very careful.</em></span></p><p><span style="color: Blue"><em></em></span></p><p><span style="color: Blue"><em>I have read lot of posts in this thread and I am finding lot of good in many including in Chazsingh ji's posts regarding the forgiving aspects and helping people become better. You are the best judge in this case. </em></span></p><p><span style="color: Blue"><em></em></span></p><p><span style="color: Blue"><em>It probably is worthwhile confirming directly or indirectly if this gentleman has done the same with other girls. If he has, I trust Mai Harinder Kaur ji and Inderjeet Kaur ji's </em><em>advice and you should seriously consider moving on from this relationship. Specially when a person starts mentioning "Divorce", etc., in the context of such incidents as that really is a show of high level of immaturity. Perhaps such person has not grown up to the level of eligible adult ready to enter into marriage.</em></span></p><p></p><p>Sat Sri Akal and wishing you all the happiness and best in the world.</p><p></p><p><strong><u>PS</u>:</strong> Hoping it all works out positively, fun and happiness for all.<object style="height: 390px; width: 640px"></p><p></p><p></p><p><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/82KjGGjQKW8?version=3&feature=player_detailpage" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowfullscreen="true" allowscriptaccess="always" height="360" width="640"></object></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ambarsaria, post: 165849, member: 14194"] waheguruhelpme ji thanks for your post. It is a great credit to you that you have asked for help. If nothing else it can give you ideas as articulated by different people. I have taken linzer ji's post to highlight some comments from me but I am more trusting of the Kaur's in this matter than I am Singhs just because it is almost impossible to put oneself in another sex's shoes even when one tries to be objective.[COLOR=Blue][I]I tend to agree with linzer ji's observation in general. My father was a high school Principal/Headmaster and observed lot of boys become men. He used to say one sets in one's ways by no later than 12 year old. In the case of the person you are referring to, such person has found his ways. [/I][I]Now is this the worse fault or issue a person can have in a married life or before. It is very hard to say. If the person is truly in love and every passing moment of separation hurts, one can become and act in all matters of abberations. One that this person has indulged in was not possible decades ago with no internet, no video phones, etc. So it is simply sign of the times. Love letters carried by pigeons was the way. Did those letters had same lust and other associations, I am pretty sure some did. [U]<object style="height: 390px; width: 640px"> <embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/U5kuatik-tM?version=3&feature=player_detailpage" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowfullscreen="true" allowscriptaccess="always" height="360" width="640"></object>[/U] [/I][/COLOR] [COLOR=Blue][I] If I were you I will let him suffer and suffer more and test his love and not offer any more pictures or videos. [U]Note[/U]: I note that you have also erred by first taking the pictures/videos described and may have felt some reason or logic to do that as to show how beautiful or pretty you are. There is nothing wrong but one has to take note of the possible damage these things can do so one needs to be very careful. [/I][/COLOR] [COLOR=Blue][I]I have read lot of posts in this thread and I am finding lot of good in many including in Chazsingh ji's posts regarding the forgiving aspects and helping people become better. You are the best judge in this case. It probably is worthwhile confirming directly or indirectly if this gentleman has done the same with other girls. If he has, I trust Mai Harinder Kaur ji and Inderjeet Kaur ji's [/I][I]advice and you should seriously consider moving on from this relationship. Specially when a person starts mentioning "Divorce", etc., in the context of such incidents as that really is a show of high level of immaturity. Perhaps such person has not grown up to the level of eligible adult ready to enter into marriage.[/I][/COLOR] Sat Sri Akal and wishing you all the happiness and best in the world. [B][U]PS[/U]:[/B] Hoping it all works out positively, fun and happiness for all.<object style="height: 390px; width: 640px"> <embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/82KjGGjQKW8?version=3&feature=player_detailpage" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowfullscreen="true" allowscriptaccess="always" height="360" width="640"></object> [/QUOTE]
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