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ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="chazSingh" data-source="post: 165800" data-attributes="member: 17409"><p>First of all i think what this scenario shows is just how quickly people are to judge others and provide advice to someone based on a couple of messages on the forum from WaheguruHelpMeJi.</p><p> </p><p>Thank Guru Ji that some of the sangat isn't working in the Courts <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p> </p><p>If i tell you things about my past, the sangat will probably crucify me <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p>thank God Guru Ji never gave up on me and forgave me when i cried out to him.</p><p>Ask yourselves, if you made a very bad mistake in life, would you want the sangat to be supportive, forgiving and help you realise your mistake, or would you want the sangat to kick, punch, scream, shout and leave you on the road to rot?</p><p> </p><p>None of the Sangat have spoken to her future husband, None of you have heard his voice, know him through childhood, as a friend. You all know nothing about him and have judged based on some small information.</p><p> </p><p>Did anyone ask WaheguruHelpMe Ji why she sent him photo's/videos in the first place? if she was so against it, why feed the desire of her future husband.</p><p> </p><p>Answer: She made a 'mistake' and learnt from it. She Had feeling from her inner Guru Ji that she was doing wrong and has 'changed' her actions.</p><p> </p><p>Only WaheguruHelpMe Ji can make a decision going forward, as only she speaks with her future husband and only she hears his voice and hears what he is saying.</p><p> </p><p>For all we know, he had a sudden fury of desire, acted out of his usual character, and due to WaheguruHelpMe Ji's actions of not wanting to send any more pics and videos has finally realised what a fool he has been.</p><p> </p><p>Or maybe his Desire is so strong that he will continue being a fool after marriage...BUT none of the Sangat can know this. only WahegurHelpMe can decide based on her experience.</p><p> </p><p>So i ask you WaheguruHelpMe, listen to your gut feeling, your inner feeling, look back at what your future husband has said, has he threatened you, threatened to hurt you, used bad language, aggressive language? was he always like this? How has he been since you've put a stop to the photos? maybe speak to him regularly for the next two or three weeks and pay extra attention to his voice, words and decide if you think he will continue to be aggressive in the future. Only you can decide Ji. Maybe ask him "you are going to be my future husband, i want to trust you with all my life, if you want more pictures and photo's i will send you more even though i', not comfortable with it and it makes me sad, but for you i will do it" if he say's that he wants more...maybe that is your answer to say NO to the marriage...that he cannot control his desire.</p><p> </p><p>when two people come together in Marriage, it is like a reflection of yourself, so that you come face to face with your OWN negative aspects in your OWN character. I have learnt this in my own marriage. I used to judge my partner but realised through the difficulties i was being confronted by my own anger, desire, ego. I reliased quickly i shouldnt be judging my wife. I should be JUDGING MYSELF. I made changes to my own behaviour and that in turn changed our relationship for the better.</p><p> </p><p>Whether WaheguruHelpMe Ji and her future husband get married or not and live a happy or sad life i do not know, but WaheguruHelp i think has realised from her own mistake and changed. I hope her husband also SELF JUDGES and makes a change.</p><p> </p><p>I will stop writing now <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> none of this was written in anger ... it was all written with a huge smile of love <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="chazSingh, post: 165800, member: 17409"] First of all i think what this scenario shows is just how quickly people are to judge others and provide advice to someone based on a couple of messages on the forum from WaheguruHelpMeJi. Thank Guru Ji that some of the sangat isn't working in the Courts :) If i tell you things about my past, the sangat will probably crucify me :) thank God Guru Ji never gave up on me and forgave me when i cried out to him. Ask yourselves, if you made a very bad mistake in life, would you want the sangat to be supportive, forgiving and help you realise your mistake, or would you want the sangat to kick, punch, scream, shout and leave you on the road to rot? None of the Sangat have spoken to her future husband, None of you have heard his voice, know him through childhood, as a friend. You all know nothing about him and have judged based on some small information. Did anyone ask WaheguruHelpMe Ji why she sent him photo's/videos in the first place? if she was so against it, why feed the desire of her future husband. Answer: She made a 'mistake' and learnt from it. She Had feeling from her inner Guru Ji that she was doing wrong and has 'changed' her actions. Only WaheguruHelpMe Ji can make a decision going forward, as only she speaks with her future husband and only she hears his voice and hears what he is saying. For all we know, he had a sudden fury of desire, acted out of his usual character, and due to WaheguruHelpMe Ji's actions of not wanting to send any more pics and videos has finally realised what a fool he has been. Or maybe his Desire is so strong that he will continue being a fool after marriage...BUT none of the Sangat can know this. only WahegurHelpMe can decide based on her experience. So i ask you WaheguruHelpMe, listen to your gut feeling, your inner feeling, look back at what your future husband has said, has he threatened you, threatened to hurt you, used bad language, aggressive language? was he always like this? How has he been since you've put a stop to the photos? maybe speak to him regularly for the next two or three weeks and pay extra attention to his voice, words and decide if you think he will continue to be aggressive in the future. Only you can decide Ji. Maybe ask him "you are going to be my future husband, i want to trust you with all my life, if you want more pictures and photo's i will send you more even though i', not comfortable with it and it makes me sad, but for you i will do it" if he say's that he wants more...maybe that is your answer to say NO to the marriage...that he cannot control his desire. when two people come together in Marriage, it is like a reflection of yourself, so that you come face to face with your OWN negative aspects in your OWN character. I have learnt this in my own marriage. I used to judge my partner but realised through the difficulties i was being confronted by my own anger, desire, ego. I reliased quickly i shouldnt be judging my wife. I should be JUDGING MYSELF. I made changes to my own behaviour and that in turn changed our relationship for the better. Whether WaheguruHelpMe Ji and her future husband get married or not and live a happy or sad life i do not know, but WaheguruHelp i think has realised from her own mistake and changed. I hope her husband also SELF JUDGES and makes a change. I will stop writing now :) none of this was written in anger ... it was all written with a huge smile of love :) [/QUOTE]
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