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ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="Kanwaljit.Singh" data-source="post: 165576" data-attributes="member: 14616"><p>First of all, what he is asking for is TOTALLY WRONG without doubt! And there is no second thing to say!</p><p> </p><p>Anyway very less time is left in your marriage! Relationship will become stronger by talking and understanding each other, not forcing things. A matter of concern for you, if those media files are still on your phone or laptop or email account, some one can 'accidentally' access it! Better get rid of that stuff!</p><p> </p><p>(On a lighter note, I deleted pics of 1 <em>year old</em> me in my birthday suit from my old photos collection!)</p><p></p><p></p><p> </p><p>If you are not feeling right about something, be strong that you will not let yourself do it. If he is still insisting, tell him then the whole ceremony of Anand Karaj will not get the respect it deserves! There is no Guru's approval yet!</p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>Tell him that for him it is just doing something one day before. But for you it is compromising your relationship with Guru.</p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>Your marriage would still be completed within Anand Karaj only. You will always be a Sikh of Guru. Ask him to stop taking this life as his personal asset and dedicate it to Guru where it belongs!</p><p></p><p></p><p> </p><p>He can't break the relation, what would he say to his parents? If he talks about breaking relation, you can ask him the same. And if he does break the relation, you can TELL his parents the REAL reason! I bet he will be scared of doing anything such!</p><p></p><p></p><p> </p><p>Keep calm and stay strong. You accepted his wish once. And now you know it is bad. If that is all he is interested in you, he is a bad match! I am sure he will get over it in some time. The only problem is that you have acceded once, so he thinks he will be successful again. Now a NO means a NO (just like a NO for dowry all the time!).</p><p></p><p></p><p> </p><p>He will blackmail you with this you-got-convinced, now-you-fight argument. OR that I will divorce you before marriage. But you let him do what he wants. Just see how low he can get. If he does, it is SURELY better to stay away from such a marriage. What will be will be.</p><p></p><p></p><p> </p><p>Once a mistake is a mistake. Twice is a crime. If he says again that he will not marry you, warn him that you will complain to his parents, the whole local sangat, his friends and even to police (saying he made false promises to you!). It is not easy to back out when the family is involved.</p><p> </p><p>So please don't feel weak! He is just blackmailing you! Keep your self respect ji!</p><p> </p><p>Waheguru ji ka KHalsa</p><p>Waheguru ji ki Fateh</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kanwaljit.Singh, post: 165576, member: 14616"] First of all, what he is asking for is TOTALLY WRONG without doubt! And there is no second thing to say! Anyway very less time is left in your marriage! Relationship will become stronger by talking and understanding each other, not forcing things. A matter of concern for you, if those media files are still on your phone or laptop or email account, some one can 'accidentally' access it! Better get rid of that stuff! (On a lighter note, I deleted pics of 1 [I]year old[/I] me in my birthday suit from my old photos collection!) If you are not feeling right about something, be strong that you will not let yourself do it. If he is still insisting, tell him then the whole ceremony of Anand Karaj will not get the respect it deserves! There is no Guru's approval yet! Tell him that for him it is just doing something one day before. But for you it is compromising your relationship with Guru. Your marriage would still be completed within Anand Karaj only. You will always be a Sikh of Guru. Ask him to stop taking this life as his personal asset and dedicate it to Guru where it belongs! He can't break the relation, what would he say to his parents? If he talks about breaking relation, you can ask him the same. And if he does break the relation, you can TELL his parents the REAL reason! I bet he will be scared of doing anything such! Keep calm and stay strong. You accepted his wish once. And now you know it is bad. If that is all he is interested in you, he is a bad match! I am sure he will get over it in some time. The only problem is that you have acceded once, so he thinks he will be successful again. Now a NO means a NO (just like a NO for dowry all the time!). He will blackmail you with this you-got-convinced, now-you-fight argument. OR that I will divorce you before marriage. But you let him do what he wants. Just see how low he can get. If he does, it is SURELY better to stay away from such a marriage. What will be will be. Once a mistake is a mistake. Twice is a crime. If he says again that he will not marry you, warn him that you will complain to his parents, the whole local sangat, his friends and even to police (saying he made false promises to you!). It is not easy to back out when the family is involved. So please don't feel weak! He is just blackmailing you! Keep your self respect ji! Waheguru ji ka KHalsa Waheguru ji ki Fateh [/QUOTE]
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