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ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="Harry Haller" data-source="post: 151110" data-attributes="member: 14641"><p><strong>Re: Need Advice/Help</strong></p><p></p><p>Searchingji</p><p></p><p>I am sorry to hear about the problems in your family, I am afraid I know only too well, as this could have been written by my younger brother 20 years ago. </p><p></p><p>Reading between the lines, I would say that your brother, having moved to a different city, has started to enjoy the freedom of living away from home, has probably experimented with drinking, maybe sex, possibly drugs, I am not saying he is a drooling addict to these things, but he possibly has knowledge. With freedom comes great responsibility, what your brother does not know, is just how sikhi can help him nurture this responsibility, but in the short term, be aware of the following</p><p></p><p>Your brother now possibly believes that there are two worlds, the home world, that also represents sikhism, family values and all else that is good and proper, and his world, freedom, and the ability to do what he wants. Like all of us, he possibly also thinks that the two worlds are not compatible, and he is either a good sikh and son and brother, or he is a free manmukh. This why he wants to cut his hair, it is a goodbye to the clean, and a hello to the base. That is not to say, again, that he is about to turn into a dribbling wreck, he just wants the choice. </p><p></p><p>Any attempt to make him see sense will fall on deaf ears, or merely prolong the process. Your brother needs to understand, now more than ever, that he can still take the path he wishes to take, as a sikh, and as a member of your family, how? uhmm well this is the hard bit, the more you fight him, the more he will think you are attacking his freedom, I would suggest you tell him to put his hair cutting on hold, for say 4 months, and try to not to make him feel that it has to be a choice between freedom and sikhism.Try to get him to be honest about his reasons, and do not judge him, if its women, or drink, or drugs, try to get him to talk about it, he needs to know that he does not need to submit to what has changed him, he will become what we all are, imperfect. An imperfect sikh is , to my mind, better than an atheist, all the actions that he may be taking are only taking him further than the light, I would also imagine he is struck down hugely with guilt, and it is this guilt that is forcing him to make a choice, the guilt must be god related, so lose god, lose the guilt, </p><p></p><p>I can only stress the importance of accepting him and whatever he wishes to do, and you may find, if he feels he is accepted enough, he will try and reconcile his new life with his responsibility as a son, and as a sikh. </p><p></p><p>The worst thing you can do is threaten to cut him off, because secretly thats what he may want, to be cut off and free, hope that helps, </p><p></p><p>Sat Sri Akal</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Harry Haller, post: 151110, member: 14641"] [b]Re: Need Advice/Help[/b] Searchingji I am sorry to hear about the problems in your family, I am afraid I know only too well, as this could have been written by my younger brother 20 years ago. Reading between the lines, I would say that your brother, having moved to a different city, has started to enjoy the freedom of living away from home, has probably experimented with drinking, maybe sex, possibly drugs, I am not saying he is a drooling addict to these things, but he possibly has knowledge. With freedom comes great responsibility, what your brother does not know, is just how sikhi can help him nurture this responsibility, but in the short term, be aware of the following Your brother now possibly believes that there are two worlds, the home world, that also represents sikhism, family values and all else that is good and proper, and his world, freedom, and the ability to do what he wants. Like all of us, he possibly also thinks that the two worlds are not compatible, and he is either a good sikh and son and brother, or he is a free manmukh. This why he wants to cut his hair, it is a goodbye to the clean, and a hello to the base. That is not to say, again, that he is about to turn into a dribbling wreck, he just wants the choice. Any attempt to make him see sense will fall on deaf ears, or merely prolong the process. Your brother needs to understand, now more than ever, that he can still take the path he wishes to take, as a sikh, and as a member of your family, how? uhmm well this is the hard bit, the more you fight him, the more he will think you are attacking his freedom, I would suggest you tell him to put his hair cutting on hold, for say 4 months, and try to not to make him feel that it has to be a choice between freedom and sikhism.Try to get him to be honest about his reasons, and do not judge him, if its women, or drink, or drugs, try to get him to talk about it, he needs to know that he does not need to submit to what has changed him, he will become what we all are, imperfect. An imperfect sikh is , to my mind, better than an atheist, all the actions that he may be taking are only taking him further than the light, I would also imagine he is struck down hugely with guilt, and it is this guilt that is forcing him to make a choice, the guilt must be god related, so lose god, lose the guilt, I can only stress the importance of accepting him and whatever he wishes to do, and you may find, if he feels he is accepted enough, he will try and reconcile his new life with his responsibility as a son, and as a sikh. The worst thing you can do is threaten to cut him off, because secretly thats what he may want, to be cut off and free, hope that helps, Sat Sri Akal [/QUOTE]
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