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Pahre (74-78)
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Bara Maha (133-136)
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Gurbani (151-185)
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Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
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Gurbani (527-536)
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Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
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Gurbani (660-685)
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Gurbani (696-703)
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Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
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Vaar Soohee (785-792)
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Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
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Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
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Gurbani (984-988)
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Gurbani (889-1008)
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Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
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ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
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Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
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Gurbani (1168-1187)
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Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
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Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
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Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
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Gurbani (1319-23)
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Gurbani (1327-1341)
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Gurbani (1352-53)
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<blockquote data-quote="Aisha" data-source="post: 174411" data-attributes="member: 18783"><p>Thank you to everyone that has posted!</p><p></p><p>I know that a lot of people are suggesting we move away and although it is probably the best thing we could do to ensure that our relationship survives, we both feel that it should be a last resort and that other avenues should be considered beforehand. As it stands we are most likely not going to be able to leave because we go to school here and have part-time jobs here. We've managed to rack up a lot of debt during undergrad and it will only pile on even more by the time Medical School is over with. We both live with our parents to save money. I don't think that there's any point in moving to a different part of the city because it is a waste of time and we won't really be that far away from the problem. If we moved away, I think we would have to go far away and to do that, we'd both need to ensure that we had part time jobs in the new city (our combined wages are barely enough for a cheap one-bedroom basement and the basic things we'd need to survive) plus we'd need to make sure that we both got into the same school in the new city as well. Since there are a limited number of Medical Schools in Canada, we'd probably need to change Provinces since the one in our city is the only one here.</p><p></p><p>We sat down and had a long discussion concerning this issue. After brainstorming, we were able to come up with one reasonable next step that we are considering, but I want to ask on here to see what others have to say about it.</p><p></p><p>My dad and brothers are still not speaking to me and my dad told my mom to tell me that he never wants to see my BF's face again. My BF tells me that his mom never wants to see me again. She is still ignoring him too. You guys told us to be empathetic, to try and understand why our parents are acting the way that they are. The first on is cultural, "what will they say?". But there's another reason as well, more specifically, the belief that if this marriage happens, they will lose their child to "the enemy". Now with his parents it's almost all the cultural bit, his dad is cool but his mom is worried about her izzat. With my parents it's mostly the second one. I'm sure you all know that in Punjabi culture, after the marriage, the bride goes to live with the groom and his family. Even though it doesn't always happen in the west, the idea that you give your daughter away is still rooted in the minds of a lot of parents. This is also why inter-caste marriages are such a problem, especially for girls. If a Jatt boy marries a Chamar girl, his parents will probably be ticked off and put up a fight, but in the end there's a pretty big chance that they will give in just because she's marrying into their family, not the other way around. Any children from that marriage would be called Jatt because their father is a Jatt. But if a Jatt girl wants to marry a Chamar boy, all hell breaks lose. The family is shamed, because their daughter married into a Chamar family. Her children are considered Chamar by society. This mentality is hard to get rid of because it's rooted in our evolution, that is, it is important to control who the females reproduce with because they determine the future of the lineage.</p><p></p><p>And I suspect that that is exactly what is going on here with my parents, except that instead of caste, the issue is religion. In their minds, they are giving away one of their own to another community, and they think that my children will automatically be Sikh because the father is Sikh. My BF and I feel that it is important to address this issue and make my parents understand that this is not the case and that neither one of us is "switching teams".</p><p></p><p>I've met his parents and he's met mine. His dad is the good apple in his family, my mom in mine. My mom is a fence sitter, I think that she is happy that I've found my BF because these days it isn't easy to find good partners, no matter what community you're from, but she's still hesitant because of the above-mentioned issues. I feel that she wants to be supportive, but won't out of fear of my father.</p><p></p><p>What we've decided to do is meet again, this time me, my BF, his dad and my mom. I think that it's best that my dad and his mom be left out of the meeting because they'll only cause troubles. My mom and his dad are the most calm about this and should be able to communicate with one another in a mature and responsible manner. What we want to show is that the feeling of worry is mutual on both sides. We want my mom and his dad to be able to talk about their concerns together and hopefully realize that they're quite similar and be able to come to a compromise. I particularly want my mom to see that this isn't like back home and that I will remain a Muslim and that I'm not "going over to the other side" and I think that his dad will reassure her about that. Hopefully, if things go well, my mom and his dad will come to some sort of an agreement, and if we can get my mom's support, then maybe she can be more diligent in convincing my father.</p><p></p><p>Thoughts?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Aisha, post: 174411, member: 18783"] Thank you to everyone that has posted! I know that a lot of people are suggesting we move away and although it is probably the best thing we could do to ensure that our relationship survives, we both feel that it should be a last resort and that other avenues should be considered beforehand. As it stands we are most likely not going to be able to leave because we go to school here and have part-time jobs here. We've managed to rack up a lot of debt during undergrad and it will only pile on even more by the time Medical School is over with. We both live with our parents to save money. I don't think that there's any point in moving to a different part of the city because it is a waste of time and we won't really be that far away from the problem. If we moved away, I think we would have to go far away and to do that, we'd both need to ensure that we had part time jobs in the new city (our combined wages are barely enough for a cheap one-bedroom basement and the basic things we'd need to survive) plus we'd need to make sure that we both got into the same school in the new city as well. Since there are a limited number of Medical Schools in Canada, we'd probably need to change Provinces since the one in our city is the only one here. We sat down and had a long discussion concerning this issue. After brainstorming, we were able to come up with one reasonable next step that we are considering, but I want to ask on here to see what others have to say about it. My dad and brothers are still not speaking to me and my dad told my mom to tell me that he never wants to see my BF's face again. My BF tells me that his mom never wants to see me again. She is still ignoring him too. You guys told us to be empathetic, to try and understand why our parents are acting the way that they are. The first on is cultural, "what will they say?". But there's another reason as well, more specifically, the belief that if this marriage happens, they will lose their child to "the enemy". Now with his parents it's almost all the cultural bit, his dad is cool but his mom is worried about her izzat. With my parents it's mostly the second one. I'm sure you all know that in Punjabi culture, after the marriage, the bride goes to live with the groom and his family. Even though it doesn't always happen in the west, the idea that you give your daughter away is still rooted in the minds of a lot of parents. This is also why inter-caste marriages are such a problem, especially for girls. If a Jatt boy marries a Chamar girl, his parents will probably be ticked off and put up a fight, but in the end there's a pretty big chance that they will give in just because she's marrying into their family, not the other way around. Any children from that marriage would be called Jatt because their father is a Jatt. But if a Jatt girl wants to marry a Chamar boy, all hell breaks lose. The family is shamed, because their daughter married into a Chamar family. Her children are considered Chamar by society. This mentality is hard to get rid of because it's rooted in our evolution, that is, it is important to control who the females reproduce with because they determine the future of the lineage. And I suspect that that is exactly what is going on here with my parents, except that instead of caste, the issue is religion. In their minds, they are giving away one of their own to another community, and they think that my children will automatically be Sikh because the father is Sikh. My BF and I feel that it is important to address this issue and make my parents understand that this is not the case and that neither one of us is "switching teams". I've met his parents and he's met mine. His dad is the good apple in his family, my mom in mine. My mom is a fence sitter, I think that she is happy that I've found my BF because these days it isn't easy to find good partners, no matter what community you're from, but she's still hesitant because of the above-mentioned issues. I feel that she wants to be supportive, but won't out of fear of my father. What we've decided to do is meet again, this time me, my BF, his dad and my mom. I think that it's best that my dad and his mom be left out of the meeting because they'll only cause troubles. My mom and his dad are the most calm about this and should be able to communicate with one another in a mature and responsible manner. What we want to show is that the feeling of worry is mutual on both sides. We want my mom and his dad to be able to talk about their concerns together and hopefully realize that they're quite similar and be able to come to a compromise. I particularly want my mom to see that this isn't like back home and that I will remain a Muslim and that I'm not "going over to the other side" and I think that his dad will reassure her about that. Hopefully, if things go well, my mom and his dad will come to some sort of an agreement, and if we can get my mom's support, then maybe she can be more diligent in convincing my father. Thoughts? [/QUOTE]
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