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ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
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Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
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Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
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Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
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Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
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Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
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ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
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Chhant (435-462)
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ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
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Gurbani (537-556)
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Gurbani (557-564)
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Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
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Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
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Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
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Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
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Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
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Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
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Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
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Chaubolae Mahala 5
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Swaiyyae Mahala 5
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Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
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<blockquote data-quote="Aisha" data-source="post: 174242" data-attributes="member: 18783"><p>On Saturday I took my parents out to Starbucks and told them that I had a surprise for them. They ordered coffee and were sitting outside, my boyfriend was inside. I went in and grabbed him and brought him out. Pretty much what happened was that they were very very surprised, had questions (like if we had slept together, which they asked me when we got home lol), but were not mad. My boyfriend greeted them with "assalamualaikum" and that, coupled with his western name, made my parents think that he was a Muslim (plenty of Muslim boys around here have western names). He had a really nice conversation with my dad, they talked about sports and Punjabi movies and some other stuff. My mom really really liked him, he was very polite with her, called her "ma ji" told her about how we met, about how she reminded him of his own mother, how she's done such a wonderful job raising me and even said, jokingly, "Aisha now I know where you get your good looks from", which made my mom blush and slap him in the arm and my dad laughed so hard that the people around us started staring! That was most of it, there was some other small talk, he told them about how he wanted to be a doctor like me and they were impressed.</p><p></p><p>When we got home they became a bit more serious. They wanted to know everything, how long we'd been together, if we had slept together, why it was kept a secret from them. I answered everything and told them that the reason I hadn't told them earlier was because he isn't a Muslim. And that's when they went crazy. My dad started yelling at me, telling me that I'm sinning, my mom said "what will people say?" and my dad told me to break it off with him, and got even more mad when I said I wouldn't. My sister was quiet but my brothers uurgh they were with my dad, they didn't like the idea of me dating ANYONE but the fact that he's non-Muslim made it worse 10 fold. I haven't spoken to my dad or brothers since but my mom has tried to patch things up between us. She is a little more understanding and likes my boyfriend but still is very hesitant about me marrying him.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>On Sunday I met his parents. It was at a restaurant and he told them that he had a surprise. When they were seated at a table, he went out and got me. I was nervous to begin with, but when I was walking towards them, his mom's mouth was open and her eyes widened and she stared at me without blinking. I introduced myself and there was no mistake about my religion because my name gave it away. I am 100% positive that the only reason his mom didn't get up and start screaming at me was because there were other people around and she didn't want to create a scene. She kept glaring at me and I did my best to smile but I couldn't look her in the eye. His dad finally killed the silence and asked me about how we met. I told them about it and he asked me a few other questions that I answered. Like I suspected, he was happy to hear that I am studying to become a doctor. He smiled when I told him. Then his mom asked me in a very sharp voice about whether or not my parents knew about what I was up to, and my boyfriend explained about how he had met them yesterday etc... I was surprised by how calm his dad was throughout the entire meeting, his main concern seemed to be that being with his son would alienate me from my own family and I told him that I appreciated his concern but I was going to do what I thought was right. His mom was more busy telling me about how she wasn't going to tolerate my "Muslimness" and she sure as hell wasn't about to let her grand kids become Islamic fundamentalists. I told her (thank you Harry Haller!) that I wasn't Muslim but that I believed in God and spirituality, the same way that her son believed in God and spirituality but wasn't a practicing Sikh. I went on to say that I had looked into Sikhism and think that it is a beautiful religion and if she wants the grand kids to know about Sikh history and go to the Gurdwara, it is fine by me and that Waheguru and Allah are the same being in my mind. This made his father very happy but she wasn't having none of it. Society would look down on her, her family would be disgraced if they had a Muslim daughter in law and even though I am open-minded, I will always be associated with Muslims and Islam because that is where I come from.</p><p></p><p>That was the coles notes of that conversation. I talked with my boyfriend later and he said that his dad "sympathized" with his mom and still doesn't think that it's a good idea, but that he felt that his dad could be persuaded and be supportive. His mom was in a fit the second they got in the car and she hadn't spoken to him the entire day after (probably still hasn't) because she demanded that he break things off with me and he said no.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>It looks a lot longer now that I go back and read it <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> Sorry!</p><p></p><p>Out of all 4 parents, his dad seems like the most open and then my mom (but she's been nagging me about how marrying him means that I am no longer a Muslim). My dad and his mom are not supportive at all and I don't know what to do. The most realistic next step is probably trying to get my mom to convince my dad, but I don't know, she usually gives in and takes his side, and since she doesn't think that this is a good idea to begin with, I think that it's safe to say that she's already on it.</p><p></p><p>Does anybody have any advice, because it seems like we've hit a dead end!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Aisha, post: 174242, member: 18783"] On Saturday I took my parents out to Starbucks and told them that I had a surprise for them. They ordered coffee and were sitting outside, my boyfriend was inside. I went in and grabbed him and brought him out. Pretty much what happened was that they were very very surprised, had questions (like if we had slept together, which they asked me when we got home lol), but were not mad. My boyfriend greeted them with "assalamualaikum" and that, coupled with his western name, made my parents think that he was a Muslim (plenty of Muslim boys around here have western names). He had a really nice conversation with my dad, they talked about sports and Punjabi movies and some other stuff. My mom really really liked him, he was very polite with her, called her "ma ji" told her about how we met, about how she reminded him of his own mother, how she's done such a wonderful job raising me and even said, jokingly, "Aisha now I know where you get your good looks from", which made my mom blush and slap him in the arm and my dad laughed so hard that the people around us started staring! That was most of it, there was some other small talk, he told them about how he wanted to be a doctor like me and they were impressed. When we got home they became a bit more serious. They wanted to know everything, how long we'd been together, if we had slept together, why it was kept a secret from them. I answered everything and told them that the reason I hadn't told them earlier was because he isn't a Muslim. And that's when they went crazy. My dad started yelling at me, telling me that I'm sinning, my mom said "what will people say?" and my dad told me to break it off with him, and got even more mad when I said I wouldn't. My sister was quiet but my brothers uurgh they were with my dad, they didn't like the idea of me dating ANYONE but the fact that he's non-Muslim made it worse 10 fold. I haven't spoken to my dad or brothers since but my mom has tried to patch things up between us. She is a little more understanding and likes my boyfriend but still is very hesitant about me marrying him. On Sunday I met his parents. It was at a restaurant and he told them that he had a surprise. When they were seated at a table, he went out and got me. I was nervous to begin with, but when I was walking towards them, his mom's mouth was open and her eyes widened and she stared at me without blinking. I introduced myself and there was no mistake about my religion because my name gave it away. I am 100% positive that the only reason his mom didn't get up and start screaming at me was because there were other people around and she didn't want to create a scene. She kept glaring at me and I did my best to smile but I couldn't look her in the eye. His dad finally killed the silence and asked me about how we met. I told them about it and he asked me a few other questions that I answered. Like I suspected, he was happy to hear that I am studying to become a doctor. He smiled when I told him. Then his mom asked me in a very sharp voice about whether or not my parents knew about what I was up to, and my boyfriend explained about how he had met them yesterday etc... I was surprised by how calm his dad was throughout the entire meeting, his main concern seemed to be that being with his son would alienate me from my own family and I told him that I appreciated his concern but I was going to do what I thought was right. His mom was more busy telling me about how she wasn't going to tolerate my "Muslimness" and she sure as hell wasn't about to let her grand kids become Islamic fundamentalists. I told her (thank you Harry Haller!) that I wasn't Muslim but that I believed in God and spirituality, the same way that her son believed in God and spirituality but wasn't a practicing Sikh. I went on to say that I had looked into Sikhism and think that it is a beautiful religion and if she wants the grand kids to know about Sikh history and go to the Gurdwara, it is fine by me and that Waheguru and Allah are the same being in my mind. This made his father very happy but she wasn't having none of it. Society would look down on her, her family would be disgraced if they had a Muslim daughter in law and even though I am open-minded, I will always be associated with Muslims and Islam because that is where I come from. That was the coles notes of that conversation. I talked with my boyfriend later and he said that his dad "sympathized" with his mom and still doesn't think that it's a good idea, but that he felt that his dad could be persuaded and be supportive. His mom was in a fit the second they got in the car and she hadn't spoken to him the entire day after (probably still hasn't) because she demanded that he break things off with me and he said no. It looks a lot longer now that I go back and read it :( Sorry! Out of all 4 parents, his dad seems like the most open and then my mom (but she's been nagging me about how marrying him means that I am no longer a Muslim). My dad and his mom are not supportive at all and I don't know what to do. The most realistic next step is probably trying to get my mom to convince my dad, but I don't know, she usually gives in and takes his side, and since she doesn't think that this is a good idea to begin with, I think that it's safe to say that she's already on it. Does anybody have any advice, because it seems like we've hit a dead end! [/QUOTE]
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