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ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="Inderjeet Kaur" data-source="post: 174169" data-attributes="member: 16531"><p>Aisha ji,</p><p></p><p>I am going to say what you don't want to hear. In my very hard experience, it doesn't work, in the long run. Here is what happened to me.</p><p></p><p>I believed in Sikhi; I could never be anything other than a Sikh, but for my own reasons I had left the sangat and was just believing what I believed on my own. Not exactly non-practising, but just minimally Sikh. I married a Christian man whose Christianity was much like my Sikhi. He knew I believed differently from him, but he didn't really care, as long as I believed in God. I was estranged from my family and his was halfway around the world, so we were able to just put family aside. This worked for about two years. Then, two things happened. He got religion and his dad died. I, too, rediscovered Sikhi and realised how I loved it.</p><p></p><p>As you know, Christianity, like Islam, teaches that it is the only true religion and others need to convert or face dire consequences, ie, hell. We didn't have enough money for both of us to attend the funeral, so he went and I stayed home. He started blaming me for not going, saying it had something to do with my being Sikh and thus not respecting him and his dad. His family was appalled that he had married a non-Christian girl and convinced him that I must be converted.</p><p></p><p>Thus began a nightmare that lasted for the next 20 years. I could have divorced him and left. Certainly the daily abuse heaped on me would have justified it in most people's minds. However, I hold my marriage vows to be sacred and not to be broken. Had he ever become physically violent, I would have gone, but he never raised a finger against me, only his voice. As time went on, I became stronger and stronger in my Sikhi, until what I wanted most of all was just to be left in peace to be a Sikh.</p><p></p><p>Last year, he died and I was relieved. That was the fruit of a 22 year marriage. The husband died and the widow was relieved.</p><p></p><p>I am not saying this would happen to you but it easily could. What if you woke up and saw the great beauty in Islam and wanted to be a practicing Muslim? Or if he woke up and saw the beauty in Sikhi and wanted to follow the Sikh path. Even with mutual understanding, love and respect, I'm not atcall sure the differences could be reconciled. </p><p></p><p>The children would be an added complication, of course.</p><p></p><p>If you were both completely secular and had only the families to deal with, it would be hard. Since you are both , sort-of believers, it becomes more complicated. </p><p></p><p>As for his family, I don't know if they would ever accept a Muslim daughter-in-law. I don't know. They might accept you if you became a Sikh, but you cannot be a Sikh unless you really believe in Sikhi and have no loyalties to any other religion. </p><p></p><p>That is my experience. Yours might or might not be similar. I do not expect my words to make up your mind for you. Whatever you decide, you will have to live with the consequences.</p><p></p><p>Whatever you decide, I wish you a long and happy life. May the Creator (by whatever name you call It), bless you with joy and happiness.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Inderjeet Kaur, post: 174169, member: 16531"] Aisha ji, I am going to say what you don't want to hear. In my very hard experience, it doesn't work, in the long run. Here is what happened to me. I believed in Sikhi; I could never be anything other than a Sikh, but for my own reasons I had left the sangat and was just believing what I believed on my own. Not exactly non-practising, but just minimally Sikh. I married a Christian man whose Christianity was much like my Sikhi. He knew I believed differently from him, but he didn't really care, as long as I believed in God. I was estranged from my family and his was halfway around the world, so we were able to just put family aside. This worked for about two years. Then, two things happened. He got religion and his dad died. I, too, rediscovered Sikhi and realised how I loved it. As you know, Christianity, like Islam, teaches that it is the only true religion and others need to convert or face dire consequences, ie, hell. We didn't have enough money for both of us to attend the funeral, so he went and I stayed home. He started blaming me for not going, saying it had something to do with my being Sikh and thus not respecting him and his dad. His family was appalled that he had married a non-Christian girl and convinced him that I must be converted. Thus began a nightmare that lasted for the next 20 years. I could have divorced him and left. Certainly the daily abuse heaped on me would have justified it in most people's minds. However, I hold my marriage vows to be sacred and not to be broken. Had he ever become physically violent, I would have gone, but he never raised a finger against me, only his voice. As time went on, I became stronger and stronger in my Sikhi, until what I wanted most of all was just to be left in peace to be a Sikh. Last year, he died and I was relieved. That was the fruit of a 22 year marriage. The husband died and the widow was relieved. I am not saying this would happen to you but it easily could. What if you woke up and saw the great beauty in Islam and wanted to be a practicing Muslim? Or if he woke up and saw the beauty in Sikhi and wanted to follow the Sikh path. Even with mutual understanding, love and respect, I'm not atcall sure the differences could be reconciled. The children would be an added complication, of course. If you were both completely secular and had only the families to deal with, it would be hard. Since you are both , sort-of believers, it becomes more complicated. As for his family, I don't know if they would ever accept a Muslim daughter-in-law. I don't know. They might accept you if you became a Sikh, but you cannot be a Sikh unless you really believe in Sikhi and have no loyalties to any other religion. That is my experience. Yours might or might not be similar. I do not expect my words to make up your mind for you. Whatever you decide, you will have to live with the consequences. Whatever you decide, I wish you a long and happy life. May the Creator (by whatever name you call It), bless you with joy and happiness. [/QUOTE]
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