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<blockquote data-quote="Harry Haller" data-source="post: 151253" data-attributes="member: 14641"><p>Ishna Bhenji, </p><p></p><p>I can completely relate to you on every level, I have some advice and suggestions, but I am not sure they are the correct ones, and I may be alone in suggesting them. </p><p></p><p>I too also have spent a lifetime trying to fit in, in the UK I was bullied for wearing plaits, when we moved to India, I was bullied for being an angraz, an english, so I realised I was never going to fit in anywhere, as a teen, yup, I was awkward, desperate to be part of something, a scene, a movement, but my parents were quite strict about going out, however at the time I do recall a feeling of everything being so fickle and temporary, maybe you recall such a feeling?</p><p></p><p>Getting involved in paganism, I believe was the start of a path that led you here, the end of that path was the beginning of sikhi for you. </p><p></p><p>I am not lonely, my view of people is quite poor, on the whole, it takes 5 years to really get to know someone, and even then, if they are clever, they can make you believe they are someone else, so , truth be told, I do not bother, I just do not have the time to play games,. I have found the sangat here just cannot be replicated in the real world, When I have problems, or issues, I write about them here, and I find that in the writing, I get some release, some answers come to me while I am writing, and overall, I feel in tune,in contact with something. </p><p></p><p>That famous teddy bear, Guru Ka Singh, did a youtube video on marriage, with his wife, it is very good, it talks about being whole within yourself, and that the relationship between you and your soul is very personal and should not be shared with anyone, I believe that relationship only makes your relationship with your family stronger, </p><p></p><p>I used to think I was manic depressive, actually, I was, fact, but I always thought I was blessed because of it, the highs were brilliant, the lows were bad, but I would never swap it for the numbness of a straight line, so your husband is gifted, he just needs to realise it in his own time. </p><p></p><p>Ok, my suggestions, and forgive me if I am giving bad advice here, I would like someone more intelligent than myself to validate them somehow, </p><p></p><p>I do not believe that in the name of sikhism, anything you do should be a struggle, I believe it should just flow, you sound to me a bit like myself, possible addictive nature, when I first started talking about sikhism at home, my wife commented that I would be in a turban in 3 months, I asked her why, she said, because everything you do, you do at a million miles an hour, you submerse yourself in it, you live and breathe it, until you find it does not fulfill you anymore, and then you move on to something else, remember that january you ate nothing but pork bellies every day for a month. That is why, I did not rush into sikhism, I allowed it to sway over me, and everything I did, I did because I felt it was time and I was ready for it. My hair is getting longer, my beard is huge, a part of me is putting off going to get it cut, because I have started to get used to it long, but I should get it cut, because firstly, I look like a tramp, and no sikh should look like a tramp, but secondly, I have not embraced fully the first pauri of Japji, When Ambersariaji talks of consonance, and Bhagatsinghji expresses his profound views, or when you ask the sort of questions that make me think, and admire you for being honest and awkward, questioning things, to be there, to understand all that, you have to have embraced just the first Pauri!, so I am trying to put my energy into understanding the basics, </p><p></p><p>From a social level, I would imagine you are terrifying the sangat, people are people little sister, we would like to think that they are all like the stars we speak to here, but they are not. They are terrified of you, because with your blonde hair, blue eyes, turban, and views on sikhism, you are like a beacon of what they are not, and it makes it worse because you are an 'outsider'. If we cannot embrace the positive, then we embrace the negative, if the positive is out of our reach, embrace the base. </p><p></p><p>I think should put your earings back in bhenji, and I think they should stay there, until they are irrelevant, and then take them out, strangely enough, it will make you seem more approachable to the sangat, it is human nature to say' what is so special about her and her monobrow and no earings, who does she think she is?', its sad, but thats people for you, anyway its not the earings that are important, any more than my hair is, at the moment anyway, we are both so lost that neither has any consequence for us at the moment, what is important is happiness and contentment and the feeling of belonging somewhere, so if wearing earings, or even taking out a few hairs, makes you feel a bit more like part of the world, then do it, if it makes you feel bad, resolve to find more peace with the creator as a balance, but you must must be yourself, or how will you find yourself</p><p></p><p>The most important thing here is finding yourself, and finding that voice inside that brings you peace and contentment, you feel it when you help others, or think noble thoughts, or find happiness in gurbani, given all those, and the search involved, your physical form is unimportant at this stage in the game, it will be hugely massively important one day, and when that day comes, it will seem as natural to you, as wearing a turban will be for me. </p><p></p><p>You are a shinning light bhenji, you inspire me with your writings and your questions, you are worth a million bored looking kudhis sitting in Gurudwara, all hating you for wanting to be better, for wanting to chant the lords name, </p><p></p><p>I have tried not to talk to anyone about my sikhi, I see no point, but I did share my views with an elder cousin, I am berated for stating that god is in the dog mess, as much as he is in the eagle, god is all things good, how can he possibly be in a dog mess, apparently I have strange views on god, one even mentioned it was a sin to say such things, great two contradictory points in the same sentence, I am saddened every time I talk to a sikh, everything I have embraced here, seems at odds with the turbanned, bearded sikhs I talk to, Dhadrianwale is a hero who had brought sikhism to the youth, I should go to his talks, when will I keep my turban, there is still time to divorce my welsh wife and marry (my own caste obviously), and have children, Fords are ok, but Mercedes cars are 'wonderful', come they say, be part of us, be part of sikhi, come to my brothers wedding, we will have FUN. And their idea of fun is no aloo prontha, its scotch whisky dancing , base fun. </p><p></p><p>No, Ishnabhenji, we are still alone, all we have is our own souls, and the creator to replenish us as we go about our day, seeing the creator in everything, and everyone, and doing what we can to stay in consonance , spreading the love, </p><p></p><p>If I am hugely honest, yes I do get lonely sometimes, not for company, but for love, for the creators love, but I know that no amount of hair or physical appearance is going to change that, that is something internal, that will start the flow in my external, when I am ready</p><p></p><p>hope that helps</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Harry Haller, post: 151253, member: 14641"] Ishna Bhenji, I can completely relate to you on every level, I have some advice and suggestions, but I am not sure they are the correct ones, and I may be alone in suggesting them. I too also have spent a lifetime trying to fit in, in the UK I was bullied for wearing plaits, when we moved to India, I was bullied for being an angraz, an english, so I realised I was never going to fit in anywhere, as a teen, yup, I was awkward, desperate to be part of something, a scene, a movement, but my parents were quite strict about going out, however at the time I do recall a feeling of everything being so fickle and temporary, maybe you recall such a feeling? Getting involved in paganism, I believe was the start of a path that led you here, the end of that path was the beginning of sikhi for you. I am not lonely, my view of people is quite poor, on the whole, it takes 5 years to really get to know someone, and even then, if they are clever, they can make you believe they are someone else, so , truth be told, I do not bother, I just do not have the time to play games,. I have found the sangat here just cannot be replicated in the real world, When I have problems, or issues, I write about them here, and I find that in the writing, I get some release, some answers come to me while I am writing, and overall, I feel in tune,in contact with something. That famous teddy bear, Guru Ka Singh, did a youtube video on marriage, with his wife, it is very good, it talks about being whole within yourself, and that the relationship between you and your soul is very personal and should not be shared with anyone, I believe that relationship only makes your relationship with your family stronger, I used to think I was manic depressive, actually, I was, fact, but I always thought I was blessed because of it, the highs were brilliant, the lows were bad, but I would never swap it for the numbness of a straight line, so your husband is gifted, he just needs to realise it in his own time. Ok, my suggestions, and forgive me if I am giving bad advice here, I would like someone more intelligent than myself to validate them somehow, I do not believe that in the name of sikhism, anything you do should be a struggle, I believe it should just flow, you sound to me a bit like myself, possible addictive nature, when I first started talking about sikhism at home, my wife commented that I would be in a turban in 3 months, I asked her why, she said, because everything you do, you do at a million miles an hour, you submerse yourself in it, you live and breathe it, until you find it does not fulfill you anymore, and then you move on to something else, remember that january you ate nothing but pork bellies every day for a month. That is why, I did not rush into sikhism, I allowed it to sway over me, and everything I did, I did because I felt it was time and I was ready for it. My hair is getting longer, my beard is huge, a part of me is putting off going to get it cut, because I have started to get used to it long, but I should get it cut, because firstly, I look like a tramp, and no sikh should look like a tramp, but secondly, I have not embraced fully the first pauri of Japji, When Ambersariaji talks of consonance, and Bhagatsinghji expresses his profound views, or when you ask the sort of questions that make me think, and admire you for being honest and awkward, questioning things, to be there, to understand all that, you have to have embraced just the first Pauri!, so I am trying to put my energy into understanding the basics, From a social level, I would imagine you are terrifying the sangat, people are people little sister, we would like to think that they are all like the stars we speak to here, but they are not. They are terrified of you, because with your blonde hair, blue eyes, turban, and views on sikhism, you are like a beacon of what they are not, and it makes it worse because you are an 'outsider'. If we cannot embrace the positive, then we embrace the negative, if the positive is out of our reach, embrace the base. I think should put your earings back in bhenji, and I think they should stay there, until they are irrelevant, and then take them out, strangely enough, it will make you seem more approachable to the sangat, it is human nature to say' what is so special about her and her monobrow and no earings, who does she think she is?', its sad, but thats people for you, anyway its not the earings that are important, any more than my hair is, at the moment anyway, we are both so lost that neither has any consequence for us at the moment, what is important is happiness and contentment and the feeling of belonging somewhere, so if wearing earings, or even taking out a few hairs, makes you feel a bit more like part of the world, then do it, if it makes you feel bad, resolve to find more peace with the creator as a balance, but you must must be yourself, or how will you find yourself The most important thing here is finding yourself, and finding that voice inside that brings you peace and contentment, you feel it when you help others, or think noble thoughts, or find happiness in gurbani, given all those, and the search involved, your physical form is unimportant at this stage in the game, it will be hugely massively important one day, and when that day comes, it will seem as natural to you, as wearing a turban will be for me. You are a shinning light bhenji, you inspire me with your writings and your questions, you are worth a million bored looking kudhis sitting in Gurudwara, all hating you for wanting to be better, for wanting to chant the lords name, I have tried not to talk to anyone about my sikhi, I see no point, but I did share my views with an elder cousin, I am berated for stating that god is in the dog mess, as much as he is in the eagle, god is all things good, how can he possibly be in a dog mess, apparently I have strange views on god, one even mentioned it was a sin to say such things, great two contradictory points in the same sentence, I am saddened every time I talk to a sikh, everything I have embraced here, seems at odds with the turbanned, bearded sikhs I talk to, Dhadrianwale is a hero who had brought sikhism to the youth, I should go to his talks, when will I keep my turban, there is still time to divorce my welsh wife and marry (my own caste obviously), and have children, Fords are ok, but Mercedes cars are 'wonderful', come they say, be part of us, be part of sikhi, come to my brothers wedding, we will have FUN. And their idea of fun is no aloo prontha, its scotch whisky dancing , base fun. No, Ishnabhenji, we are still alone, all we have is our own souls, and the creator to replenish us as we go about our day, seeing the creator in everything, and everyone, and doing what we can to stay in consonance , spreading the love, If I am hugely honest, yes I do get lonely sometimes, not for company, but for love, for the creators love, but I know that no amount of hair or physical appearance is going to change that, that is something internal, that will start the flow in my external, when I am ready hope that helps [/QUOTE]
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