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ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="Ishna" data-source="post: 151242" data-attributes="member: 2709"><p>Bring out the violins and the tissues, Ishna's going in for a whinge. <img src="/images/smilies/sikhsmileys/munda-violin.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":mundaviolin:" title="Munda Violin :mundaviolin:" data-shortname=":mundaviolin:" /></p><p> </p><p>I feel like I've spent my lifetime so far (which has been short) trying to find somewhere to fit in. As a young child I was the geeky unfit one who didn't have many friends. As a teen I was the geeky, unfit, opinionated one who didn't have many friends. Even among the geeks I wasn't very welcome because I was the only girl. Online gaming, only girl = teased massively.</p><p> </p><p>My parents divorced when I was 10 and my mum went to work afternoon shift at a factory. I spent ages 12-17 home alone after school until mum came home just before midnight. I couldn't go to Tai Chi classes or Army Cadets with my friends because I didn't have any transport, so I spent most of my time roleplaying on IRC.</p><p> </p><p>Around that time I got interested in religion and chose Paganism... got into a small group when I was about 18 but it didn't last long, and wasn't really my scene. And I was one of two people not selected for the "inner circle" which irritated me a bit, so I left (on good terms, of course).</p><p> </p><p>Then I switched to Sikhi, which is fulfilling in and of itself, but I'm so lonely in it... I have one bhenji I email, she lives in America. But in my real life, I know no Sikhs... no one at the Gurdwara wants to talk Sikhi with me... all the females I see at Gurdwara have earrings, none wear turbans, most cut their hair and scoff when you talk about amrit sanchar... and there's me wanting to take my earrings our, wear dastaar, take amrit sanchar, getting around with hairy legs and a monobrow... so again I feel like the odd one out, where I should feel most at home. I don't expect them to take me in with open arms, but I'm too shy to pester people all the time and get all up in their business. What right do I have to even complain like this? <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> Don't get me wrong, they're all very nice people and have been very good to me and patient with me. I just want to be able to relax and be part of the group.</p><p> </p><p>And then I fight internally with myself anyway -- what's the good reason for taking out my earrings? what's the point of spending so much time reading prayers which aren't even Gurbani???</p><p> </p><p>And I get upset myself when I do read Gurbani and I read about sangat and Sadh Sangat and as much as I try to tell myself "it's the company of God, not the company of Saints..." sometimes it just doesn't fit the context, and I realise my isolation.</p><p> </p><p>My family are mainly all atheists, my husband is an atheist, there is no connection on that level, I can't talk philosophy or God.. even trying to talk about Pleasure and Happiness with him turned ugly (don't go there with someone who has major depression).</p><p> </p><p>I don't fit into my own Western culture of binge drinking and small clothes. Nothing interests me except Sikhi and the occasional Xbox 360 game. I feel like I'm living my life 95% in my own head and on SPN with no real community around me at all.</p><p> </p><p>I feel best when I'm at work because no one can complain that I'm there, they have to talk to me about a common interest (work), they can't tease me and we all work as part of a team, and I love that. In fact my boss often gets cross with me for doing more than I should, ie. helping with other people's work problems all the time (what, your printing isn't coming out right, lets have a look...).</p><p> </p><p>I just feel left out, alone, and <u>insane</u>.</p><p> </p><p>*flop*</p><p> </p><p>I guess this isolation is hukam and I should just try to make peace with it. *sings Fleetwood Mac "you can go your own waaaaay, go you own waaa-aa-aaay..."*</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ishna, post: 151242, member: 2709"] Bring out the violins and the tissues, Ishna's going in for a whinge. :mundaviolin: I feel like I've spent my lifetime so far (which has been short) trying to find somewhere to fit in. As a young child I was the geeky unfit one who didn't have many friends. As a teen I was the geeky, unfit, opinionated one who didn't have many friends. Even among the geeks I wasn't very welcome because I was the only girl. Online gaming, only girl = teased massively. My parents divorced when I was 10 and my mum went to work afternoon shift at a factory. I spent ages 12-17 home alone after school until mum came home just before midnight. I couldn't go to Tai Chi classes or Army Cadets with my friends because I didn't have any transport, so I spent most of my time roleplaying on IRC. Around that time I got interested in religion and chose Paganism... got into a small group when I was about 18 but it didn't last long, and wasn't really my scene. And I was one of two people not selected for the "inner circle" which irritated me a bit, so I left (on good terms, of course). Then I switched to Sikhi, which is fulfilling in and of itself, but I'm so lonely in it... I have one bhenji I email, she lives in America. But in my real life, I know no Sikhs... no one at the Gurdwara wants to talk Sikhi with me... all the females I see at Gurdwara have earrings, none wear turbans, most cut their hair and scoff when you talk about amrit sanchar... and there's me wanting to take my earrings our, wear dastaar, take amrit sanchar, getting around with hairy legs and a monobrow... so again I feel like the odd one out, where I should feel most at home. I don't expect them to take me in with open arms, but I'm too shy to pester people all the time and get all up in their business. What right do I have to even complain like this? :( Don't get me wrong, they're all very nice people and have been very good to me and patient with me. I just want to be able to relax and be part of the group. And then I fight internally with myself anyway -- what's the good reason for taking out my earrings? what's the point of spending so much time reading prayers which aren't even Gurbani??? And I get upset myself when I do read Gurbani and I read about sangat and Sadh Sangat and as much as I try to tell myself "it's the company of God, not the company of Saints..." sometimes it just doesn't fit the context, and I realise my isolation. My family are mainly all atheists, my husband is an atheist, there is no connection on that level, I can't talk philosophy or God.. even trying to talk about Pleasure and Happiness with him turned ugly (don't go there with someone who has major depression). I don't fit into my own Western culture of binge drinking and small clothes. Nothing interests me except Sikhi and the occasional Xbox 360 game. I feel like I'm living my life 95% in my own head and on SPN with no real community around me at all. I feel best when I'm at work because no one can complain that I'm there, they have to talk to me about a common interest (work), they can't tease me and we all work as part of a team, and I love that. In fact my boss often gets cross with me for doing more than I should, ie. helping with other people's work problems all the time (what, your printing isn't coming out right, lets have a look...). I just feel left out, alone, and [U]insane[/U]. *flop* I guess this isolation is hukam and I should just try to make peace with it. *sings Fleetwood Mac "you can go your own waaaaay, go you own waaa-aa-aaay..."* [/QUOTE]
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