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I'm At The Verge Of Losing My Faith In Sikhi. Maybe Already Have. I Need Advice.
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<blockquote data-quote="Rajveer_97" data-source="post: 216955" data-attributes="member: 21285"><p>There are 3 names that are always there in reference Guru Hargobind Ji's wives. From Sikhiwiki:</p><p></p><p>Historians say that Guru Ji's first wife was <a href="http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php/Mata_Damodari" target="_blank">Mata Damodari</a>, the daughter of <a href="http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php?title=Narain_Das&action=edit&redlink=1" target="_blank">Narain Das</a> of the village of <a href="http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php?title=Talla&action=edit&redlink=1" target="_blank">Talla</a>. She gave birth to <a href="http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php/Baba_Gurditta" target="_blank">Baba Gurditta</a>, <a href="http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php?title=Bibi_Veero&action=edit&redlink=1" target="_blank">Bibi Veero</a> and <a href="http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php?title=Ani_Rai_Ji&action=edit&redlink=1" target="_blank">Ani Rai Ji</a>. His second marriage was with <a href="http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php/Mata_Nanki" target="_blank">Bibi Nanki</a> daughter of <a href="http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php?title=Hari_Chand&action=edit&redlink=1" target="_blank">Hari Chand</a> of the village of <a href="http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php/Bakala" target="_blank">Bakala</a>. She was the mother of <a href="http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php/Guru_Tegh_Bahadur_Ji" target="_blank">Guru Tegh Bahadur Ji</a>. His third marriage was to <a href="http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php?title=Bibi_Mahadevi&action=edit&redlink=1" target="_blank">Bibi Mahadevi</a> daughter of <a href="http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php/Daya_Ram" target="_blank">Daya Ram</a> of the village of <a href="http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php?title=Jandiyali&action=edit&redlink=1" target="_blank">Jandiyali</a>, from the <a href="http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php?title=Shekhupura&action=edit&redlink=1" target="_blank">Shekhupura</a> district, which is now part of <a href="http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php/Pakistan" target="_blank">Pakistan</a>. Bibi Mahadevi gave birth to <a href="http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php?title=Suraj_Mall_Ji&action=edit&redlink=1" target="_blank">Suraj Mall Ji</a> and <a href="http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php?title=Baba_Atal_Ji&action=edit&redlink=1" target="_blank">Baba Atal Ji</a>.</p><p></p><p>If one goes by the theory of the old custom of name changing after marriage, why are there 3 names here?</p><p></p><p>Then in case of Guru Gobind Singh Ji there are also 3 names:</p><p></p><p>at age 10, he married <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mata_Jito" target="_blank">Mata Jito</a> on 21 June 1677 at Basantgaṛh, 10 km north of Anandpur. The couple had three sons: <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jujhar_Singh" target="_blank">Jujhar Singh</a>(b. 1691), <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zorawar_Singh_(Sikhism)" target="_blank">Zorawar Singh</a> (b. 1696) and <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fateh_Singh_(Sikhism)" target="_blank">Fateh Singh</a> (b. 1699).</p><p></p><p>at age 17, he married <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mata_Sundari" target="_blank">Mata Sundari</a> on 4 April 1684 at Anandpur. The couple had one son, <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ajit_Singh_(Sikhism)" target="_blank">Ajit Singh</a> (b. 1687).</p><p></p><p>at age 33, he married <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mata_Sahib_Kaur" target="_blank">Mata Sahib Devan</a> on 15 April 1700 at Anandpur. They had no children, but she had an influential role in Sikhism. Guru Gobind Singh proclaimed her as the <em>Mother of the Khalsa</em>.</p><p></p><p>If I recall correctly Patwant Singh's The Sikhs and Khushwant Singh's A History of the Sikhs Vol.1 supported these marriages. I could be wrong. If these claims have been refuted with evidence then someone please let me know. I need to read more historical documents and books to see all the proper references myself, but I'll need to have some trust in historians and scholars who must have already dedicated long on this research. We also know the Baba Banda Singh (although yes not a Guru) had two views, but he wasn't a Guru so I'm not placing him on the same footing.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, I've been trying to look into with as little personal opinion as possible. I do lean towards the possibility that at least Guru Gobind Singh Ji married more than once (given that there are more historical accounts from his time compared to the previous Gurus). Now if this is true and if one truly believes in every action the Gurus did then these facts must be accepted. What we view as correct in the modern age isn't necessarily going to match with previous customs. Just because something was done in the past differently doesn't automatically make it wrong. One answer I've heard is the Gurus were not like we are. They were without sins. Could any human really live like them if one tried?</p><p></p><p>ਗੁਰਿ ਕਹਿਆ ਸਾ ਕਾਰ ਕਮਾਵਹੁ ॥ Do those deeds which the Guru has ordained.ਗੁਰ ਕੀ ਕਰਣੀ ਕਾਹੇ ਧਾਵਹੁ ॥ ॥Why are you chasing after the Guru's actions? (p 933)</p><p></p><p>Maybe not everything applies exactly the same to the Guru and the Sikhs. A Sikh's test of what's right and wrong should be looking at what the Gurus did and said. </p><p></p><p>I'll keep on looking into this by reading more Gurbani and history. These questions need to be looked into, for a young faith Sikhi has too many uncertainties and they need to be addressed, by keeping personal bias as little as possible no matter how hard it is. I won't be relying on my own personal belief. If all this is true, then either one respects the Gurus decisions or one can't be a Guru's Sikh. </p><p></p><p>Bhul Chuk Maaf</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Rajveer_97, post: 216955, member: 21285"] There are 3 names that are always there in reference Guru Hargobind Ji's wives. From Sikhiwiki: Historians say that Guru Ji's first wife was [URL='http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php/Mata_Damodari']Mata Damodari[/URL], the daughter of [URL='http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php?title=Narain_Das&action=edit&redlink=1']Narain Das[/URL] of the village of [URL='http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php?title=Talla&action=edit&redlink=1']Talla[/URL]. She gave birth to [URL='http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php/Baba_Gurditta']Baba Gurditta[/URL], [URL='http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php?title=Bibi_Veero&action=edit&redlink=1']Bibi Veero[/URL] and [URL='http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php?title=Ani_Rai_Ji&action=edit&redlink=1']Ani Rai Ji[/URL]. His second marriage was with [URL='http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php/Mata_Nanki']Bibi Nanki[/URL] daughter of [URL='http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php?title=Hari_Chand&action=edit&redlink=1']Hari Chand[/URL] of the village of [URL='http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php/Bakala']Bakala[/URL]. She was the mother of [URL='http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php/Guru_Tegh_Bahadur_Ji']Guru Tegh Bahadur Ji[/URL]. His third marriage was to [URL='http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php?title=Bibi_Mahadevi&action=edit&redlink=1']Bibi Mahadevi[/URL] daughter of [URL='http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php/Daya_Ram']Daya Ram[/URL] of the village of [URL='http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php?title=Jandiyali&action=edit&redlink=1']Jandiyali[/URL], from the [URL='http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php?title=Shekhupura&action=edit&redlink=1']Shekhupura[/URL] district, which is now part of [URL='http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php/Pakistan']Pakistan[/URL]. Bibi Mahadevi gave birth to [URL='http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php?title=Suraj_Mall_Ji&action=edit&redlink=1']Suraj Mall Ji[/URL] and [URL='http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php?title=Baba_Atal_Ji&action=edit&redlink=1']Baba Atal Ji[/URL]. If one goes by the theory of the old custom of name changing after marriage, why are there 3 names here? Then in case of Guru Gobind Singh Ji there are also 3 names: at age 10, he married [URL='https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mata_Jito']Mata Jito[/URL] on 21 June 1677 at Basantgaṛh, 10 km north of Anandpur. The couple had three sons: [URL='https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jujhar_Singh']Jujhar Singh[/URL](b. 1691), [URL='https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zorawar_Singh_(Sikhism)']Zorawar Singh[/URL] (b. 1696) and [URL='https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fateh_Singh_(Sikhism)']Fateh Singh[/URL] (b. 1699). at age 17, he married [URL='https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mata_Sundari']Mata Sundari[/URL] on 4 April 1684 at Anandpur. The couple had one son, [URL='https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ajit_Singh_(Sikhism)']Ajit Singh[/URL] (b. 1687). at age 33, he married [URL='https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mata_Sahib_Kaur']Mata Sahib Devan[/URL] on 15 April 1700 at Anandpur. They had no children, but she had an influential role in Sikhism. Guru Gobind Singh proclaimed her as the [I]Mother of the Khalsa[/I]. If I recall correctly Patwant Singh's The Sikhs and Khushwant Singh's A History of the Sikhs Vol.1 supported these marriages. I could be wrong. If these claims have been refuted with evidence then someone please let me know. I need to read more historical documents and books to see all the proper references myself, but I'll need to have some trust in historians and scholars who must have already dedicated long on this research. We also know the Baba Banda Singh (although yes not a Guru) had two views, but he wasn't a Guru so I'm not placing him on the same footing. Anyway, I've been trying to look into with as little personal opinion as possible. I do lean towards the possibility that at least Guru Gobind Singh Ji married more than once (given that there are more historical accounts from his time compared to the previous Gurus). Now if this is true and if one truly believes in every action the Gurus did then these facts must be accepted. What we view as correct in the modern age isn't necessarily going to match with previous customs. Just because something was done in the past differently doesn't automatically make it wrong. One answer I've heard is the Gurus were not like we are. They were without sins. Could any human really live like them if one tried? ਗੁਰਿ ਕਹਿਆ ਸਾ ਕਾਰ ਕਮਾਵਹੁ ॥ Do those deeds which the Guru has ordained.ਗੁਰ ਕੀ ਕਰਣੀ ਕਾਹੇ ਧਾਵਹੁ ॥ ॥Why are you chasing after the Guru's actions? (p 933) Maybe not everything applies exactly the same to the Guru and the Sikhs. A Sikh's test of what's right and wrong should be looking at what the Gurus did and said. I'll keep on looking into this by reading more Gurbani and history. These questions need to be looked into, for a young faith Sikhi has too many uncertainties and they need to be addressed, by keeping personal bias as little as possible no matter how hard it is. I won't be relying on my own personal belief. If all this is true, then either one respects the Gurus decisions or one can't be a Guru's Sikh. Bhul Chuk Maaf [/QUOTE]
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