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ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="Luckysingh" data-source="post: 164749" data-attributes="member: 16886"><p>Try not to worry.</p><p>Concentrate on your studies and exams as they are of greater importance.</p><p>What you have experienced from your mother, is a natural first reaction.</p><p>She thinks that you are just going through a moment of madness with this absurd idea.</p><p>She feels that you may do something that you regret because you haven't thought it through.</p><p>Her reaction is more from the shock of hearing something totally unexpected. She think's that you should know better.</p><p>With time, when she realises that you have given it much deep thought, then she may begin to understand how you feel and that it is not a moment of madness.</p><p> </p><p>At the end of the day, no matter what your age, you are still your mother's little kid.</p><p>That is how she will always see you and treat you. Her best interests are yours.</p><p>She feels her reactions and threats will help save you in the long run.</p><p> </p><p>You have to understand her reaction and must not take anything to heart. If you were no longer accpetable to her or welcome, she wouldn't really be telling you. It's just that giving 'ultimataums' sometimes helps parents to convince their kids, in the best of their interests.</p><p>You will need to give it some time, a couple of weeks, maybe longer. Once you can tell her calmly and when she is calmer, that you have given the subject a great deal of thought. She will eventually start to see your point a little. NOTE- it will only be 'a little by little' that she may begin to understand you. Once this understanding barrier has been crossed, then she would convince herself to accept.</p><p>At first, it seems like a crazy, absurd idea. She thinks you've lost your mind!!</p><p> </p><p>The important thing at this stage is to remain 'CALM'.</p><p>Don't do anything in retaliation or anger. Focus on your studies.</p><p>Don't start planning to adjust your life around her first reaction. Don't start planning to stay away or otherwise. -This will not resolve anything.</p><p>However, you will need to convince her that you understand her reaction and comments totally and that you expected them. Gettingacross to her is important. You must not give up trying to do this, although it may seem the only option for peace. But in general, it would not achieve any understanding and cause possible regret.</p><p>Your personal explanation, and getting it across, this way, she will realise that your head is screwed on and it's not a moment of madness. Once she realises that you have thought and thought this thoroughly, only then she may begin to feel some acceptance.</p><p> </p><p>It will take time, but stay calm and try to make her calm is the best thing you can do. </p><p>Just focus on your studies and exams as you don't want to mess up this moment in education.-That should be your priority. </p><p>This is my personal advice, as I have known too many students when I was studying that lost it all because of personal problems. So try not to let it interfere with your revision and exams.</p><p> </p><p>Good Luck, your being honest, and that actually matters a lot. Honesty, is always an approach that isn't regrettable in the long run.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Luckysingh, post: 164749, member: 16886"] Try not to worry. Concentrate on your studies and exams as they are of greater importance. What you have experienced from your mother, is a natural first reaction. She thinks that you are just going through a moment of madness with this absurd idea. She feels that you may do something that you regret because you haven't thought it through. Her reaction is more from the shock of hearing something totally unexpected. She think's that you should know better. With time, when she realises that you have given it much deep thought, then she may begin to understand how you feel and that it is not a moment of madness. At the end of the day, no matter what your age, you are still your mother's little kid. That is how she will always see you and treat you. Her best interests are yours. She feels her reactions and threats will help save you in the long run. You have to understand her reaction and must not take anything to heart. If you were no longer accpetable to her or welcome, she wouldn't really be telling you. It's just that giving 'ultimataums' sometimes helps parents to convince their kids, in the best of their interests. You will need to give it some time, a couple of weeks, maybe longer. Once you can tell her calmly and when she is calmer, that you have given the subject a great deal of thought. She will eventually start to see your point a little. NOTE- it will only be 'a little by little' that she may begin to understand you. Once this understanding barrier has been crossed, then she would convince herself to accept. At first, it seems like a crazy, absurd idea. She thinks you've lost your mind!! The important thing at this stage is to remain 'CALM'. Don't do anything in retaliation or anger. Focus on your studies. Don't start planning to adjust your life around her first reaction. Don't start planning to stay away or otherwise. -This will not resolve anything. However, you will need to convince her that you understand her reaction and comments totally and that you expected them. Gettingacross to her is important. You must not give up trying to do this, although it may seem the only option for peace. But in general, it would not achieve any understanding and cause possible regret. Your personal explanation, and getting it across, this way, she will realise that your head is screwed on and it's not a moment of madness. Once she realises that you have thought and thought this thoroughly, only then she may begin to feel some acceptance. It will take time, but stay calm and try to make her calm is the best thing you can do. Just focus on your studies and exams as you don't want to mess up this moment in education.-That should be your priority. This is my personal advice, as I have known too many students when I was studying that lost it all because of personal problems. So try not to let it interfere with your revision and exams. Good Luck, your being honest, and that actually matters a lot. Honesty, is always an approach that isn't regrettable in the long run. [/QUOTE]
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