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ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="seekingsikhi" data-source="post: 214102" data-attributes="member: 21867"><p>Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa!</p><p>Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh!</p><p></p><p>Sangat Ji,</p><p>This weekend I've gotten my first real taste of how taken by maya I've been my entire life. I live a very fortunate existence. I've never denied this; and, even though my life has had its share of serious struggles, I still live an incredibly privileged life - as do my children. Over the holidays last year my family was given a vacation, which we're currently on. We've been sent to a nice resort with many luxurious amenities. Normally I would thoroughly enjoy this kind of thing, but this is my first trip since my coming into sikhi, and it's changed my perspective.</p><p></p><p>We didn't earn this trip, and that's the first thing that's bothering me. I married into a family that could occasionally do this kind of thing - that's all. When I got here I was excited, but after about 5 minutes my feelings changed. Something akin to guilt washed over me, mostly because it is just so extravagant and luxurious here. I will be looking for an opportunity to do some seva when we get back.</p><p></p><p>Not wanting this weekend to go to waste by bringing my family down with me, I pushed it out of my mind. I think in doing so I haven't been as connected with Waheguru as I've grown accustomed to. Compounding that are two other factors.</p><p></p><p>First, my wife is not totally on board with my involvement with sikhi. Her concerns, I believe, are partially that people will be upset that I (a white man) will be wearing a turban and a big beard. This particular concern comes in two flavors: "what if some of our less intellectual neighbors here in Texas decide I've become a muslim and do something terrible" and "what if people think I'm committing some kind of act of cultural appropriation". I'm not overly concerned with either - it's hukam, and I'll defend myself and my family if it comes to that. The other issue comes from some of the more religious individuals we've been forced to interact with over the years; specifically I think she's worried (though she's never voiced as much) that I might become "so spiritually minded that I'm no earthly good." That is also not of a concern as sikhi is far too practical for that to be an issue. Never will I waste time praying about what clothes to wear or what food to cook, as some people we know have done. Again, it's all hukam. No decision is mine anyway, so why waste time freaking out about what pants Waheguru wants me to wear today?</p><p></p><p>All that is to say, that because all four of us are in a small room together, and to allow my wife a little peace of mind on our trip, I have not been waking early to observe Amrit vela in the way in which I've grown accustomed. If my kids were in a different room it would be different, but they're really light sleepers, and I theoretically have enough time left in my life to make up for what I'm losing here. I've been waking and japing naam in my head until I drift back to sleep, and that just isn't cutting it.</p><p></p><p>Sangat ji, since I've been detached I've noticed old habits creeping in. Lots of poor eating choices, a lack of patience, and (as this is a resort with lots of water-based activities) a LOT of staring at women in swim suits. I don't like it. I catch myself doing it and I feel guilty. They are people, not objects. Food can be pleasurable but it shouldn't be pleasure. My children don't deserve to be yelled at for being sleepy and a little crabby before bedtime. It saddens me that the peace of mind I've been finding through my reading and observances can be so easily stripped away and replaced with crummy pancakes and impure thoughts. I don't blame the women, by the way; they have the right to wear what they want. It's my job to control my eyes and my mind. While I believe that having outward reminders of my commitment (keeping kes and wearing the kara being the ones I'm taking on first) will help, I implore the sangat for any other suggestions for this and similar situations in the future.</p><p></p><p>Thank you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="seekingsikhi, post: 214102, member: 21867"] Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa! Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh! Sangat Ji, This weekend I've gotten my first real taste of how taken by maya I've been my entire life. I live a very fortunate existence. I've never denied this; and, even though my life has had its share of serious struggles, I still live an incredibly privileged life - as do my children. Over the holidays last year my family was given a vacation, which we're currently on. We've been sent to a nice resort with many luxurious amenities. Normally I would thoroughly enjoy this kind of thing, but this is my first trip since my coming into sikhi, and it's changed my perspective. We didn't earn this trip, and that's the first thing that's bothering me. I married into a family that could occasionally do this kind of thing - that's all. When I got here I was excited, but after about 5 minutes my feelings changed. Something akin to guilt washed over me, mostly because it is just so extravagant and luxurious here. I will be looking for an opportunity to do some seva when we get back. Not wanting this weekend to go to waste by bringing my family down with me, I pushed it out of my mind. I think in doing so I haven't been as connected with Waheguru as I've grown accustomed to. Compounding that are two other factors. First, my wife is not totally on board with my involvement with sikhi. Her concerns, I believe, are partially that people will be upset that I (a white man) will be wearing a turban and a big beard. This particular concern comes in two flavors: "what if some of our less intellectual neighbors here in Texas decide I've become a muslim and do something terrible" and "what if people think I'm committing some kind of act of cultural appropriation". I'm not overly concerned with either - it's hukam, and I'll defend myself and my family if it comes to that. The other issue comes from some of the more religious individuals we've been forced to interact with over the years; specifically I think she's worried (though she's never voiced as much) that I might become "so spiritually minded that I'm no earthly good." That is also not of a concern as sikhi is far too practical for that to be an issue. Never will I waste time praying about what clothes to wear or what food to cook, as some people we know have done. Again, it's all hukam. No decision is mine anyway, so why waste time freaking out about what pants Waheguru wants me to wear today? All that is to say, that because all four of us are in a small room together, and to allow my wife a little peace of mind on our trip, I have not been waking early to observe Amrit vela in the way in which I've grown accustomed. If my kids were in a different room it would be different, but they're really light sleepers, and I theoretically have enough time left in my life to make up for what I'm losing here. I've been waking and japing naam in my head until I drift back to sleep, and that just isn't cutting it. Sangat ji, since I've been detached I've noticed old habits creeping in. Lots of poor eating choices, a lack of patience, and (as this is a resort with lots of water-based activities) a LOT of staring at women in swim suits. I don't like it. I catch myself doing it and I feel guilty. They are people, not objects. Food can be pleasurable but it shouldn't be pleasure. My children don't deserve to be yelled at for being sleepy and a little crabby before bedtime. It saddens me that the peace of mind I've been finding through my reading and observances can be so easily stripped away and replaced with crummy pancakes and impure thoughts. I don't blame the women, by the way; they have the right to wear what they want. It's my job to control my eyes and my mind. While I believe that having outward reminders of my commitment (keeping kes and wearing the kara being the ones I'm taking on first) will help, I implore the sangat for any other suggestions for this and similar situations in the future. Thank you. [/QUOTE]
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