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Gurbani (1118-1123)
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ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
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Gurbani (1254-1293)
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Gurbani (1294-96)
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<blockquote data-quote="Randip Singh" data-source="post: 112709" data-attributes="member: 1323"><p><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 12px">I will give you some examples of prejudice here in the UK too and the so called self fulfilling prophecy. This is an observation of several Tarkhan and Jatt families (who tend to be the most conservative) here in the UK:</span></span></p><p> </p><p><em><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'">A girl is born, and one of the old women will say “ooh tussee thaa saaday Ladhoo rock ditt ain” (oh you have stopped us from receiving ladoo’s). Fear and resentment besets the family, and they continue until they have a boy. The boy is put on a pedestal, and is allowed to do anything he wants. </span></span></em></p><p> </p><p><em><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'">The girls are discarded, and they try to impress their parents through education and other things. The boy still means everything, so no matter what they do they feel inadequate. They give up. They rebel. They marry (or live with a black[non-Sikh] or white guy [non-Sikh]…even Muslim). Old woman says “Kurreean dha damage Kharaab hoyeyaa aaj kal” ….”khandhan kee Behzti kar ditee” (Girls brains are damaged nowadays….they have disrespected the family).</span></span></em></p><p> </p><p><em><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'">The girl becomes an outcaste. She tries to keep in touch with her family, but even when accepted back is treated like a leprous disease, that other relatives may catch. What they do not realise is that they gave the leprous disease to the girl in the first place.</span></span></em></p><p> </p><p><em><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'">The boy in the meantime can become a lay about slob womaniser and nothing is said to him. He gets married to keep the parents quiet and has “*******” children with other women. The family say nothing.</span></span></em></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 12px">You may say this story is far fetched, but it is based one several true life stories I have seen with my own eyes. What is the solution:</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 12px">1)</span> <span style="font-size: 12px">Treat girls with exactly the same respect as boys.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 12px">2)</span> <span style="font-size: 12px">Create an environment where a person who treats girls differently becomes and outcaste from the community. Name and shame if necessary. Even Jassa Singh Ramgarhia, one of the most powerful Sardars of old was boycotted by Sikhs for female infanticide committed by his wife.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 12px">3)</span> <span style="font-size: 12px">I don’t think the solution is a religious one, because the Sikh faith is clear on this matter, so the solution must be social. So things like celebrating boy related things, such as ladoo, Loree etc must either be stopped or modified to incorporate girls.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 12px">4)</span> <span style="font-size: 12px">Dowry in any form must become unacceptable.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 12px">5)</span> <span style="font-size: 12px">Wedding parties, DJ’s etc must be discouraged and weddings must be encouraged to be in the temple. (this is less of a burden on the girls side financially).</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 12px">6)</span> <span style="font-size: 12px">Women must be projected forward more as guardians of the Sikh faith. They must be encouraged positively to run institutions and committees. Have 50% quotas if necessary.</span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Randip Singh, post: 112709, member: 1323"] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3]I will give you some examples of prejudice here in the UK too and the so called self fulfilling prophecy. This is an observation of several Tarkhan and Jatt families (who tend to be the most conservative) here in the UK:[/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3] [/SIZE][/FONT] [I][SIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]A girl is born, and one of the old women will say “ooh tussee thaa saaday Ladhoo rock ditt ain” (oh you have stopped us from receiving ladoo’s). Fear and resentment besets the family, and they continue until they have a boy. The boy is put on a pedestal, and is allowed to do anything he wants. [/FONT][/SIZE][/I] [I][FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3] [/SIZE][/FONT][/I] [I][SIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]The girls are discarded, and they try to impress their parents through education and other things. The boy still means everything, so no matter what they do they feel inadequate. They give up. They rebel. They marry (or live with a black[non-Sikh] or white guy [non-Sikh]…even Muslim). Old woman says “Kurreean dha damage Kharaab hoyeyaa aaj kal” ….”khandhan kee Behzti kar ditee” (Girls brains are damaged nowadays….they have disrespected the family).[/FONT][/SIZE][/I] [I][FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3] [/SIZE][/FONT][/I] [I][SIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]The girl becomes an outcaste. She tries to keep in touch with her family, but even when accepted back is treated like a leprous disease, that other relatives may catch. What they do not realise is that they gave the leprous disease to the girl in the first place.[/FONT][/SIZE][/I] [I][FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3] [/SIZE][/FONT][/I] [I][SIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]The boy in the meantime can become a lay about slob womaniser and nothing is said to him. He gets married to keep the parents quiet and has “*******” children with other women. The family say nothing.[/FONT][/SIZE][/I] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3] [/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3]You may say this story is far fetched, but it is based one several true life stories I have seen with my own eyes. What is the solution:[/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3] [/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3]1)[/SIZE] [SIZE=3]Treat girls with exactly the same respect as boys.[/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3]2)[/SIZE] [SIZE=3]Create an environment where a person who treats girls differently becomes and outcaste from the community. Name and shame if necessary. Even Jassa Singh Ramgarhia, one of the most powerful Sardars of old was boycotted by Sikhs for female infanticide committed by his wife.[/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3]3)[/SIZE] [SIZE=3]I don’t think the solution is a religious one, because the Sikh faith is clear on this matter, so the solution must be social. So things like celebrating boy related things, such as ladoo, Loree etc must either be stopped or modified to incorporate girls.[/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3]4)[/SIZE] [SIZE=3]Dowry in any form must become unacceptable.[/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3]5)[/SIZE] [SIZE=3]Wedding parties, DJ’s etc must be discouraged and weddings must be encouraged to be in the temple. (this is less of a burden on the girls side financially).[/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3]6)[/SIZE] [SIZE=3]Women must be projected forward more as guardians of the Sikh faith. They must be encouraged positively to run institutions and committees. Have 50% quotas if necessary.[/SIZE][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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